Mrs just left me..

bloodiedathame · 11 Jan 2013 at 20:59

Another thing that worked for me, give her somewhat of an ultimatum. Mine was along the lines of "I don't really see how I can continue to talk to you, it's not fair on either of us, i think it's best if we don't contact each other again for a while".

I left it at that. Ended up coming good after a few months.

elmuzzy66. · 11 Jan 2013 at 21:10

bloodiedathame said:
Another thing that worked for me, give her somewhat of an ultimatum. Mine was along the lines of "I don't really see how I can continue to talk to you, it's not fair on either of us, i think it's best if we don't contact each other again for a while".

I left it at that. Ended up coming good after a few months.

Can you explain? You got back together after a few months if so its most likely that she did end up 'coming good' but not with you

sigma · 11 Jan 2013 at 21:29

I ain't sayin' she a gold digger.....

Cupra · 11 Jan 2013 at 21:40

elmuzzy66. said:
Can you explain? You got back together after a few months if so its most likely that she did end up 'coming good' but not with you

He let her have her "freedom" for a while then come back to him no questions asked.
How I would love to be with someone like that.

cheechm · 11 Jan 2013 at 22:18

Need moar input from OP.

Roalith · 12 Jan 2013 at 00:12

Go and have rebound sex - possibly even relationship* - with some likely young filly. That'll get you over it!

* From the perspective of someone whose rebound relationship is still going strong at 5 years+

Angilion · 12 Jan 2013 at 01:56

ChocolateStarfishRammer said:
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Mrs:
I just wanted time on my own to think things through in my head... There is no easy way of telling you that, I thought it was just a phase I was going through a while ago... I don't know when I will feel ready to talk, talking isn't my strong point... Wish things would just go away

I intrepret that as "I've left you but I can't face telling you because doing so would make me feel bad. I'm not going to talk about it and I wish there was no chance of talking about it."

psyk_one · 12 Jan 2013 at 02:30

Angilion said:
I intrepret that as "I've left you but I can't face telling you because doing so would make me feel bad. I'm not going to talk about it and I wish there was no chance of talking about it."

Word, thats exactly what she's saying.

Let me reitterate this - YOU ARE 22!! It's no age to be getting depressed about things like this. The best years are truly ahead.
She probably got her eye on someone else, she used you for whatever she needed to and she wnats something different for whatever reason - grass is greener etc.

DO NOT contact her and MOVE ON - SHE already has. It will hurt for a little while but get out immediately and meet other people and you will find someone better. Just be thankful you weren't married to it or had kids, before it did this to you.

DIABLO · 12 Jan 2013 at 02:35

ChocolateStarfishRammer said:
3 Years in and the best she can do is a 4 page letter saying sorry!?

I mean.. Not even the decency to repay me basically funding her through Uni via a face to face chat!

But, on the upside.. she just need some "space".. brilliant, yeah, that clears it up for me doesn't it. At-least I know where I stand.

I never thought Id be one for a GD love story.. but, I need some advice here.

Bottom line, she says she needs space to think and appreciate everything I do blah blah because she doesn't feel like she loves me anymore..

Do I sit back and wait, or do I chase her? Discuss.

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support_bae · 12 Jan 2013 at 02:45

i know someone whose gf cheated on him and when he found out he posted up her nude pics on facebook for all her friends/family/co-workers to see.

the girl was distraught, to put nicely.

Kamwah · 12 Jan 2013 at 08:05

support_bae said:
i know someone whose gf cheated on him and when he found out he posted up her nude pics on facebook for all her friends/family/co-workers to see.

the girl was distraught, to put nicely.

GG NO BIG DEAL.

neoglow · 12 Jan 2013 at 10:08

Time will heal the wound.

Besides, go out and practice your username! That'll help take your mind off it!

Morba · 12 Jan 2013 at 10:27

So OP, when she came for portfolio you had her bags packed to take with her also?

smelly_legend · 12 Jan 2013 at 10:37

I'm gather from OP's absence this is a loooooooooooooooooooooooong talk.

arknor · 12 Jan 2013 at 10:39

Morba said:
So OP, when she came for portfolio you had her bags packed to take with her also?

she probably came around got her portfolio and let straight away with no talk and played the op who thought they would be having a long talk

Millwall.FC · 12 Jan 2013 at 10:45

smelly_legend said:
I'm gather from OP's absence this is a loooooooooooooooooooooooong talk.

Or he's using the advice from the forum and laying her to rest in a concrete floor :-)

CSA · 12 Jan 2013 at 11:03

Dannyb01y said:
Get someone else. Nothing will make her want you back more.

This !

Even if you want her more than anything in the world , the moment you show it and tell her she will pull away from you ! and the more you tell her the more she wont want you,ive been there mate

best plan for you is if you really want her back (providing shes not actually seeing someone else behind your back) is to get on with your life,met some one else and mark these words ! nothing makes a woman come running quicker than seeing her ex fella with a new girl,they hate it

good luck

DiscoDave · 12 Jan 2013 at 11:08

CSA said:
This !

Even if you want her more than anything in the world , the moment you show it and tell her she will pull away from you ! and the more you tell her the more she wont want you,ive been there mate

best plan for you is if you really want her back (providing shes not actually seeing someone else behind your back) is to get on with your life,met some one else and mark these words ! nothing makes a woman come running quicker than seeing her ex fella with a new girl,they hate it

good luck

Is breaking up with someone, finding someone else and making the ex jealous suitable conditions to get back together?

or if that's a trololololol, why be vengful to your ex?

OP, you've split up with her, don't go back, move on with life. I dont think it ever works getting back with an ex.

Dugganator · 12 Jan 2013 at 11:17

22 is no age you need to get out there and test a few different girls from around the world before you settle down.

I wish I did this while I was younger so take this break up as a chance to get out there and do the pumptastic bed dance while your young. Travel if you can while she needs 'her space' its perfect chance for your to clear your head and while your not about she might miss ya

I understand the funding her through uni thing will really hurt but if that was basically what she was using you for be happy you dont have kids,mortgage,car and other stuff together as a devorce would be 100 times worse.

To be honest cut all contact even facebook etc only speak to her if she speak to you but just keep it simple and friendly dont go over the top. Try and stay away from her friends if possible unless they are all super hot then bed as many as you can (that last bit of advice might backfire im only saying it to seem alpha lol).

Breaks up suck and it always takes time but just think of all the positives you know have available to you. There are many people that wish they could be single again at 22 and will back me up by saying how differently they would have done things if they had the chance available to them again.

Now get out there and pump away

bertles86 · 12 Jan 2013 at 12:37

Delete all her contact details, change the locks and then go and bed her sister/mum/best friend.

Mrs just left me..

Gangster