Does your personality differ between your personal and professional life?

No1newts

No1newts

No1newts

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I was having a chat with an a friend (who is an old work colleague from a past job) who pointed out how different I am between the two different parts of my life. Professionally I'm extremely organised, professional and incisive. I take quite a bit of pride in my performance in my job.

Personal life I'm forgetful, tend toward lazy and lethargic and I just like to switch off my brain and (if I'm honest) let others do the organising for me. I think the only overlap I have is both professionally and personally I rarely care what others think of me I am who I am/do what I do an expect others to take me at face value.

My mate finds it quite amusing and to be honest if never really clicked until he pointed it out. So are any of you ocukers different between job and personal or are you the same regardless?
 
No1newts said:
I was having a chat with an a friend (who is an old work colleague from a past job) who pointed out how different I am between the two different parts of my life. Professionally I'm extremely organised, professional and incisive. I take quite a bit of pride in my performance in my job.

Personal life I'm forgetful, tend toward lazy and lethargic and I just like to switch off my brain and (if I'm honest) let others do the organising for me. I think the only overlap I have is both professionally and personally I rarely care what others think of me I am who I am/do what I do an expect others to take me at face value.

My mate finds it quite amusing and to be honest if never really clicked until he pointed it out. So are any of you ocukers different between job and personal or are you the same regardless?
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I'm exactly like yourself, I also perhaps care a little too much of peoples opinions regarding myself.

At home I just like to switch off and relax. As I still live with my mum and have others to do stuff for me this is why I'm relatively lazy.
 
I'm the same person, but you just show different sides to your personality in different environments, just like you show different sides of your personality to different friends.

It also depends on your working environment and what's expected of you. The last job I was in was a right hoot and you could get away with the silly of conversations and elderly female members of staff would laugh along.
 
Professionally a lot of people think I'm extremely affable, sociable and many times I've been described as an adaptable and amicable "people person".

Really the opposite is true and it's just an act. I'm actually far from sociable, generally reclusive and would prefer just to spend my time alone/with my wife but few other people. If left to my own devices I tend to listen to music, write and play games rather than go out and spend time with anyone. I just don't like it.
 
Lysander said:
Professionally a lot of people think I'm extremely affable, sociable and many times I've been described as an adaptable and amicable "people person".

Really the opposite is true and it's just an act. I'm actually far from sociable, generally reclusive and would prefer just to spend my time alone/with my wife but few other people. If left to my own devices I tend to listen to music, write and play games rather than go out and spend time with anyone. I just don't like it.
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Why do you put on an act? Surely you run the risk of coming across a bit false if its not really you.
 
PvtJoker said:
Why do you put on an act? Surely you run the risk of coming across a bit false if its not really you.
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Why? Because it's necessary in a business medium. It doesn't come across as false at all, I've been doing it as long as I can remember.
 
Lysander said:
Why? Because it's necessary in a business medium. It doesn't come across as false at all, I've been doing it as long as I can remember.
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I find I do the same. I can't be lazy or unorganised in the office for obvious reasons and I find it's an "act" to get on with my career which I can shed when I'm not at work.
 
Nope, I go to work in jeans, t-shirt and an usually an Avengers hoodie, stick with the same attitude and ethics as ever. So far its not stopped me considering Ive just had a £2k pay rise last week.

Go be yourself, then you cant be caught out for being a cheat later on.
 
Used to be so can relate, dropped it as I found out there's not much point in it.
It took a few years for it to sink in that it didn't really make a single bit of difference what sort of persona you thought you had, in a job, in a structure that choice is made for you :).
 
No1newts said:
I find I do the same. I can't be lazy or unorganised in the office for obvious reasons and I find it's an "act" to get on with my career which I can shed when I'm not at work.
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That's just necessity/the same for everyone.

Personally I wouldn't have the energy to keep up two personas. If people from work ask me to go out and I don't want to, I just say no. Hasn't had any ill effect so far.
 
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I try to show whichever side of my personality is required in different situations.
 
Last place I worked was mainly Christian, my boss being a born-again so I had to abide by their 'Sharia' law / 10 Commandments, but place where I currently work is secular and I'm just myself.
 
Yep. Professionally I'm a salesman - Mr. Likeable with a liquid personality depending upon the situation. Personally, I'm me. Loved by few, liked by less.
 
I try to be a bit more organised and such at work, but end up being better at home than at work.

Something I hate about people at work are the people that always have to show you jokes on their phone, and go on about going out on the lash etc. This is mainly the 40 year old blokes I work with.

I suppose when you have more responsibility at home, you let it all out when your at work.

If not, then they are muppets all the time.
 
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