Girlfriends stalker ex..

Some very useful and humerous posts. Thanks GD.

I will ask her to keep a record of all of the messages and details.

I did mention to her before about the Police but she seemed hesitant and didn't think it was a good idea. If he does start to show up un-invited at her work or house then if she won't i will phone the Police.

It is a lot to be dealing with so early on in the relationship so if she has a problem with getting the police involved i am not sure where i would stand on this.

I will pass the infformation onto her and see what happens.

In the mean time i will be practising my boxing stance.
 
It's all very well saying 'boxing stance', but what if this happens?

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Andy90 said:
which is why I said there is a potential case of Threats to kill (without having read the messages it would be difficult to say) - the Harassment clearly by the frequency of the messages and the fact they are unwarranted is far easier to prove.
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True but TTK is the more serious offence.
 
Paton said:
I did mention to her before about the Police but she seemed hesitant and didn't think it was a good idea. If he does start to show up un-invited at her work or house then if she won't i will phone the Police.
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I suppose it's possible he'll get bored and go away, but I also think that if something isn't done about it the guy will see it as validation that he can get away with his antics and that'll make it worse.

Police is a good option. A lesser man might suggest you respond to the next threat reminding him that you actually exist and you know what he's saying. :)
 
How about you name and shame. We all add him. Make up a story you don't actually work off shore. Your more of a mob gang lord and were your cronies. I'm sure 20 fb messages would stir away haha

Go speak to the police mate. How is he contacting her through random profiles ? I always thought you had to be a friend to send a message? I'd check the privacy panel.
 
JoeF1 said:
How about you name and shame. We all add him. Make up a story you don't actually work off shore. Your more of a mob gang lord and were your cronies. I'm sure 20 fb messages would stir away haha

Go speak to the police mate. How is he contacting her through random profiles ? I always thought you had to be a friend to send a message? I'd check the privacy panel.
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You can send a message to anyone. It'll go into other messages or something by default with certian privacy settings, but you can defeat that pretty easily.
 
Dimple said:
I agree with everything Flare says because I went through it with one of my eldest daughters friends who had no other adults to help her. I rang the Police on a Christmas Eve and they came around on Christmas morning so took it very seriously.The girl had loads of evidence on her phone and it just so happened the lad had previous for doing the same to another girl. She was happy for him to get a warning to stop.
There is more to the story but follow Flare's advice.
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I've got more time now for the rest.
After the warning it stopped for about 4 months and then he started again but she was scared to go to the Police again so I had a plan.
He always came into the pub where she worked after 5-a-side on a Wednesday so I went down ready for him and he sat round a table with 10 other blokes and I waited for him to go to the toilet.
As soon as he went through the door I went over to the table and asked the lads what they would do if their daughter received abusive texts from somebody I knew and I showed several of them round the table.
Of course the replies were that they would kill the bloke who was sending them and did I want some help.
The stalker came out of the bogs and asked what was going on and I said 'I'm just showing all your mates some of the texts that you have been sending to my daughter because I want them to know what type of a person you are and you've already had one warning about this from the Police'.
I turned round and walked off and he never texted her after that.

(It wasn't my daughter but it sounded better)
 
Andy90 said:
Protection from Harassment Act 1997

Official Bill

Having dealt with many cases like this, you've definately got a case of Criminal Harassment on your hands, quite likely an Offence of Threats to Kill and also possibly one of Malicious Communications (dependant on the context of messages etc.).

Tell your Girlfriend to pop down the the Local Police Station to report the matter.

Secondly - there are ways to get free injunctions - The National Centre for Domestic Violence are your first port of call in respect of this. It sounds odd, but this is a Domestic, since the definition doesn't just restrict itself to current partners, it also includes previous partners.

The website for the NCDV can be found at

http://www.ncdv.org.uk/

They may or may not be able to help with injunctions in this case, but it is worth giving them a ring - if they cannot help they will know someone who will. They are a Charitable organisation and very very good at what they do.
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Don't forget that Stalking now has it's own offence too...
 
Find it really odd you would ask on here what to do. If its as bad as you said then contact the police now. On the none emergency line.
Does she not want to get them involved or something?
 
Contact the Police with the information you have provided, even if nothing happens right now they will have a record if something where to happen in the future. Although from what you've posted I'd imagine they'd have to look into it at least.
 
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