Death, Losing a friend?

Tony Williams · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:37

A friend of mine (we weren't SUPERCLOSE) but enough to consider myself a friend (we've stayed round at each others, etc). Sadly he went missing and was 3-4 days later found dead - no one knows the cause of death yet.

I am yet to speak with his wife who I know too. I was thinking of buying/donating something. He had a good circle of friends. He did owe me money (a fair amount) BUT I was gunna ask that whatever the amount can go towards funeral costs, what would be the nicest way to approach this - last thing I want is her thinking they "still owe".

I don't know his family only circle of friends and wife (newlywed)

Sadly I'm still not living back home so can't calc how much I have otherwise I would donate more.

Has anyone been in a situation like this? What about buying his wife something or just put some towards funeral costs, headstone.

RIP

craptakular · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:40

lolTonyWilliams

fadetoblack · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:41

Wrong post

Antipasti · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:42

Wow. You truely are a great friend!

Scuzi · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:42

Never a dull moment in the life of Tony Williams.

Soundood · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:45

go to the funeral and 'pay' your respects,

say nothing about the money owed,

move on, nothing to see here.

put loss down to experiance, and the unfortunate fact that the guy is dead, and pray he didnt commit suicide because he owed money (a fair amount)

Tony Williams · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:45

I wanna write it off obviously. She knows but I dunno how they were coping money wise. I was gunna talk to her on FB (they live far) and just be supportive, I was gunna quickly bring it up and tell her its wrote off (just put it to the funeral) I don't want her thinking I would want it back.

Diagro · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:46

Thats why he died, he owed money to some bad ppl.

So this is how you admit to killing him?

godinman · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:48

Don't say 'put it towards the funeral', don't say anything. If you really feel the need just say that the debt is written off.

doofer · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:50

(a fair amount) of troll.

Tony Williams · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:53

soundood said:
pray he didnt commit suicide because he owed money (a fair amount)

No. He didn't.

A month ish before he wrote a cheque from her account it bounced as I paid into my acc (legit reason). I can just NOT mention it but I don't want her thinking (as I am sure money would be tight) about it and if she should ask me or just bring it up and say not to worry then she she knows its all good?

Skillmister · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:53

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'Harry · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:55

You should be on a bbc soap opera.

Dead friend = no money.

Dont even bring it up. Its only money, of means nothing.

Tony Williams · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:55

I will just mention it to her and say its all wrote off. The money doesn't bother me, more coming to terms of the death really. Spoke to him days before too.

Burnsy2023 · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:56

Please, someone give me a reason not to stick a padlock on this thread...

Tony Williams · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:57

'Harry said:
Dont even bring it up. Its only money, of means nothing.

You are right, I'll just talk to her if she mentions it I will just say its wrote off.

Diagro · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:57

Padlock it mate, Its going to get worse :! I'm thinking of crude things to say as i type!

VoG · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:57

It's very simple, if she doesn't bring it up then you don't, any thing else makes you look like a shallow, money obsessed ass.

Kenai · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:57

News link? Missing person turning up dead is going to have made at least local news, though I won't hold my breath as like most things you post, I suspect it's not really based on reality.

Robbo · 27 Jan 2013 at 19:58

I can only assume that most of the stuff you come out with isn't true.