Soldato
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Pill has a sugar week, one in four, to allow for normal period.
Dealing with the prospect of becoming a parent
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Not all pills have that, some are just continuous.
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Ah likely I am wrong, thought they withdrew most of the others due to potential longterm cancer effects
Why is that? You can get abortion still up to and over 20 weeks.
Is it 20? Damn.
It is up to 24, but I think over 20 (might be wrong) there has to be a medical reason as it requires a operation (bear in mind babies can survive at this point and so you can see why an operation would be needed to remove it).
congrats.
I think dishing out advice is so easy but its all down to personal circumstances.
In my case i am a young dad. And partner at the time was well into her twenties and was "ready". (We were still living at parents)
It caused my a lot of stress and worries but we decided we wanted to continue and the little bugger is 2 and half years old now and wouldnt change a thing.
Whatever you do mate it will be the right decision for the both of you.
I think dishing out advice is so easy but its all down to personal circumstances.
In my case i am a young dad. And partner at the time was well into her twenties and was "ready". (We were still living at parents)
It caused my a lot of stress and worries but we decided we wanted to continue and the little bugger is 2 and half years old now and wouldnt change a thing.
Whatever you do mate it will be the right decision for the both of you.
You will never resent your old child for being born unless you are colder than Satan himself. Fact.
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Though it could lead to resentment of the partner etc. if care for the child, handling the stresses and doing the legwork ends up mostly falling on your shoulders, coupled with the natural sacrifices to your own lifestyle that raising a young child necessitates.
Then you're stuck in a fragile marriage/relationship with a kid in the middle, and your mind playing over and over that none of it would be like this if you just hadn't done it. So either you turn into a mean alcoholic or the marriage breaks up and you're left butting heads and paying maintenance for the rest of your miserable existence.
I don't think I'll ever be ready. I don't trust myself not to become an even more solid embodiment of loathing and misanthropy than I already am.
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Thought I'd give this a bit of a bump.
Well a few days ago she went for a scan and we found out she is now 7 weeks gone, we've spent countless hours over the last 5 days talking it over, calculating finances etc we've decide to take the plunge so to speak.
Well a few days ago she went for a scan and we found out she is now 7 weeks gone, we've spent countless hours over the last 5 days talking it over, calculating finances etc we've decide to take the plunge so to speak.
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Crapp...
Reminds me of all times I was being a raw hero with girls "on the pill". If she was taking it on time that was just very very unfortunate. If neither of you are ready for it I really thinking keeping it would be bad idea. Also she's meant to be going to uni etc
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Congrats. You've obviously taken the time to commit to both gf and child - well done
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Happy for you, my little girl only has to smile at me and the worst of my moods just disappear instantly.
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Good choice and good luck. 
Why?