Most people find it easy to interact with old people. You might feel more comfortable doing something like care work at a local nursing home maybe?
Hate Being So Lonely!
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Most people find it easy to interact with old people. You might feel more comfortable doing something like care work at a local nursing home maybe?
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Thing is, i left school (got thrown out) at the age of 13. I would love too, but i don't think i could ever got a job at a nursing home etc...
It's unskilled work mate, a lot of teenagers do it because there are almost no prerequisites. Most homes would be happy to get volunteer workers helping them out.
I think you'd feel more comfortable interacting with the elderly and it's a way of easing you back into social interaction.
I think you'd feel more comfortable interacting with the elderly and it's a way of easing you back into social interaction.
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And why is that? Leaving school (for whatever reason) at 13 makes no relevance to me at all to someone not being able to work at a nursing home.
I'd suggest (even if you don't want to work in one) looking at the website for a few local nursing homes and do some research into the vacancies available and the requirements of them. Then ask yourself if you meet them, if not then why and what can you actively do to achieve this ambition? You can use this for any potential job/career you may want and it gives you something to aim for if it's something you can't do as of yet. Your human, you can learn and you can better yourself. You also have to want it as well. Talking about it is the first step I guess but get off your **** and do it.
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Thanks everyone for your kind advice, i don't mean to act like a 'sad case' just reached a point of absolute loneliness.
Funny thing is, i've been lurking for around 2 weeks on here (OC) and DS, i know now i made the right choice in joining this forum. Nicer people on here, thank you.
Funny thing is, i've been lurking for around 2 weeks on here (OC) and DS, i know now i made the right choice in joining this forum. Nicer people on here, thank you.
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It's remarkable how much support people here are willing to give great advice here too.
Welcome to the forums, man. I hope you can pull yourself out of the rut.
great advice here too.Welcome to the forums, man. I hope you can pull yourself out of the rut.
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It's remarkable how much support people here are willing to give
Welcome to the forums, man. I hope you can pull yourself out of the rut.
Cheers mate
Quit the gambling, please quit the gambling.
Take up some volunteering, something that interests or better still DO something that takes you out of your comfort zone.
Or try a organisation like SPICE http://www.spiceuk.com/ , a friend moved away for a job and ended up liking the job but a new town can be hard at times so he joined this and never looked back always something to do. Ok it might cost £12 quid a month but your wasting that on gambling. (booze and cigs consumption will drop when you start doing other stuff)
Take up some volunteering, something that interests or better still DO something that takes you out of your comfort zone.
Or try a organisation like SPICE http://www.spiceuk.com/ , a friend moved away for a job and ended up liking the job but a new town can be hard at times so he joined this and never looked back always something to do. Ok it might cost £12 quid a month but your wasting that on gambling. (booze and cigs consumption will drop when you start doing other stuff)
You drink smoke and gamble but have no job?
I would recommend saving money you spend on these things and join a gym. Its surprising how many people you meet at the gym being a regular (male and female) It makes you feel LOADS better being around all the positive energy - makes you healthy mentally and physically.
I was put on a 10am-7pm shift today, went for a 1 hour swim in the morning then worked 10-8pm. Got home and did a few weights. I now have music on and feel great (to say I have been up since 7)
If your diet is rubbish, change it - you will feel 100% better. (fruit, veg, lean meats, fish, nuts, salad, brown rice, brown pasta, beans)
Yes, enjoy the occasional take-away & big night out but counter it with a run or big gym session
I would recommend saving money you spend on these things and join a gym. Its surprising how many people you meet at the gym being a regular (male and female) It makes you feel LOADS better being around all the positive energy - makes you healthy mentally and physically.
I was put on a 10am-7pm shift today, went for a 1 hour swim in the morning then worked 10-8pm. Got home and did a few weights. I now have music on and feel great (to say I have been up since 7)
If your diet is rubbish, change it - you will feel 100% better. (fruit, veg, lean meats, fish, nuts, salad, brown rice, brown pasta, beans)
Yes, enjoy the occasional take-away & big night out but counter it with a run or big gym session
Your grammar is surprisingly good. Although, as others have said, try posting your CV up here, having a flawless CV will always give you an advantage.
As for confidence issues, I know exactly what you mean. Just getting out of the house is a major helper in improving confidence. Another thing is your mentality. You have to think something along the lines of "I'm never going to meet these people again, I can act how I like." I not saying you should be an ass, but if you don't mind stretching your borders and trying to be more charismatic than you usually may be/embarrass yourself more and pele like the 'new' you, your self confidence will increase exponentially.
Join a club, start some activities or join a gym. Anything to get you active and fit. You'll feel better just because your body is better and you'll likely start to converse with the other people doing similar.
That was extremely easy to come up with, so you're kidding yourself if you don't think your wallowing is mostly a joke. Nothing stopping you from living a different life.
It's really sad that you feel that way.
I would say that you really need to find something constructive to occupy your time, sitting at home doing nothing really doesn't help you feel better.
I was in a similar situation for a while and I felt really depressed.
Try and get out of the house, go for walks. Try finding people to talk to and develop deeper relationships with.
Look for part time or full time work, that will help you get out and meet people and occupy your time.
Really try to cut down gambling
I really hope that you're able to feel better soon, just try and take one small step at a time to change your current situation.
Little changes add up over time.
I would say that you really need to find something constructive to occupy your time, sitting at home doing nothing really doesn't help you feel better.
I was in a similar situation for a while and I felt really depressed.
Try and get out of the house, go for walks. Try finding people to talk to and develop deeper relationships with.
Look for part time or full time work, that will help you get out and meet people and occupy your time.
Really try to cut down gambling
I really hope that you're able to feel better soon, just try and take one small step at a time to change your current situation.
Little changes add up over time.
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I've been there mate and unless you start making positive changes it doesn't get better, it gets worse.
Start making those changes now Joe while you're still young. I didn't face my responsibilities until I was 30. We used to say "we're gonna die at 30 anyway so who cares". Well I reached 30 and was still alive, just (others didn't make it that far
). I was alone, drinking alcoholically, addicted to illegal substances, all my real friends were long gone and I was running with the wrong crowd. Each rock bottom was followed by a new, lower rock bottom and I became suicidal.That was five years ago and now I have a career, a partner, real friends, a few bob in the bank and am enjoying what life has to offer.
Give yourself a chance mate and take responsibility because until you do it will get worse. The real world can be tough but it's certainly better than being trapped in my own head
i remember being in that in a similar situation when i was just like you. all those years ago 
(40 now) i made one simple choice that solved all my problems i got paid,got very fit,made friends and seen places i thought i never would, if you have not got what i did i did yet ill tell ya i joined the forces. best thing i ever did and when i left i got a job met my wife and got 2 perfect kids what ever choices you make in life good luck mate and keep your chin up
(40 now) i made one simple choice that solved all my problems i got paid,got very fit,made friends and seen places i thought i never would, if you have not got what i did i did yet ill tell ya i joined the forces. best thing i ever did and when i left i got a job met my wife and got 2 perfect kids what ever choices you make in life good luck mate and keep your chin up
yea but no money issues and I don't have many friends because I like being by myself
my ex is the only friend I see often but only because she lives a minute away and worries about me even though I'm fine as I am
I also did not finish school and it's not really hampered me
If you want friends get a job in a club/bar my step son only had about 5 real friends when he left school and now he's really popular
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I will whole heartily recommend joining a Gym, or exercising regularly. It may seem slightly absurd (as it did to me), but my confidence went through the roof once I noticed changes in my appearance, ability to do more sports and generally feeling good about life.
It's not just a one off, everyone gains something from regular routine exercise and that might be what you need to get the ball rolling.
It's not just a one off, everyone gains something from regular routine exercise and that might be what you need to get the ball rolling.
Good advice. Heed these words. Best of luck OP.