Is it weird I don't want kids at 32?

Em3bbs said:
As a parent myself I hate these kind of silly sweeping statements. I absolutely love being a father, but has my life got 'better'? It was pretty cool before and it's pretty cool now. It's 'different'. I certainly wouldn't change what I did in my 20s to become a father but I wouldn't change my life now either.

While life certainly doesn't end when you have kids it doesn't mean it's 'better' if you have them.
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Speak for yourself, the birth of my daughter certainly made my life different, but in a good way. Sorry you didnt experience that :confused:
 
Ewaf said:
Speak for yourself, the birth of my daughter certainly made my life different, but in a good way. Sorry you didnt experience that :confused:
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Where did I say that my life wasn't different in a good way? You said 'better' not 'good'. One of those sweeping statements made by annoying parents who have their kids as their Facebook avatar.

I'm sorry to hear your life was so empty and dull before you had children.
 
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I think as long as you're making decisions that work best for you and your partner then no one else's opinion should have any bearing on the path that you both decide is best.
 
My brother was adamant he didn't want children, then when my first nephew was born to my other brother, something changed - he was 38 at the time - he and his partner now have a son and I do believe they're considering another child.
 
albert said:
It just means you haven't grown up yet.
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Ah this old chestnut, it doesn't surprise me when a women come's out with this because it usually just a shaming tactic used to suit their own agenda but when guys repeat this nonsense, really? :rolleyes:
 
[FnG]magnolia;23953476 said:
I think as long as you're making decisions that work best for you and your partner then no one else's opinion should have any bearing on the path that you both decide is best.
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That's just too sensible, you have to think what ever decision you made in life is the correct one and everyone else is wrong. That's how it works here.
 
regulus said:
I'm 32, nearly 33 and have zero desire to ever have kids. Through every phase of my life people used to tell me 'Wait and see, it'll change'. It doesn't. I don't think it will ever. I've never liked kids
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Same here although Im 28.

A few of my friends have children. I don't like them. All little sods :p

They keep telling me "things will change when you get a GF and kids of your own" but it wont!

Ive always been single so I dont think its something I have to worry about really but finding a GF that doesn't have kids or doesn't want them is near on impossible!
 
It's a very different feeling when they're your own kids.

With regard to not having kids it is unusual but not completely weird. One of the guys in my team, 60 something I think doesn't have kids either. The problem is if she wants them and you don't. Unless you really come to an understanding then it'll be a bone of contention between you that can only get bigger.
 
ci_newman said:
There are three kinds of people really:

1) Those who flat-out have no interest in having children
2) Those who may want children but are worried about the impact on their lifestyle / finances etc
3) Those who actively want children and are working towards this

[Edit] Just to add I am 27 and have a 14-month old son :)
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I was a "1" and found out the OH was pregnant and when my now 6 month old daughter first appeared in the World I became a "2" and I am now a "3".

As has been mentioned the biggest impact will be on your OH. She will be the one that has to give up work, feed it every few hours, change its nappies just as often etc.

For you it will be a 2 week holiday followed by the same routine of getting up at 7am and coming home at 6pm. The only difference is you will look forward to coming home each day to see the progress of your little one.
 
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