How should a woman deal with a stalker who has her mobile number?

Skull said:
Loads of smartphone apps will block numbers.

You also have to wonder what kind of person would put up with creepy texts for three years and refuse to change numbers.
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I agree with this tbh. 3 years is a long time and to refuse to take the easiest option to stop it makes me wonder if there's more to this story than has been let on.

The police probably won't do anything at the moment, I'm assuming because she hasn't asked this stalker to stop contacting her. It's only from that point if he continues that they could intervene.
 
Captain Planet said:
I find it hard to believe the Police won't do anything. It will be best to keep a log of everything that happens and just keep reporting each event to them. They will have to do something if it turns out that she could be in danger.
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This... I think she needs to make it clear to the Police that this guy has been relentless for the past 3 years, frequently showing that's he's watching her and is making her fear for her safety. I can't see how the Police couldn't take some kind of action, even if it's just talking to the bloke.

Kick up a stink until they do something, or as stated, just change numbers if you think he'll leave her alone. It's not something I'd be comfortable just ignoring though.
 
Report to police.

Get crime number.

Contact mobile network, report malicious texts/harrassment.

Free number change.
 
fullmetaltony said:
Her ideal situation, to clarify, is being able to block the number without him knowing. She's ignored his texts for a year before and it hasn't stopped him. I have suggested she gets herself a man, as that would soon stop the situation I reckon.
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I've figured it out.

You are texting her dodgy messages as a method of suggesting she needs to get a man (in which you step in & be the shining knight).

It has the additional advantage that as soon as you start going out with her the texts stop.

You sly dog you.

:p
 
I too find it odd that the police will apparently do nothing, to suggest that because she sent the first text she has invited 3 years of harrassment is dubious to say the least - are you sure she didn't get the wrong end of the stick from what the police said? If she keeps a record of all messages and keeps reporting them to the police then they should take action.

Does she reply to any of these messages? If she doesn't then what difference will it make if the stalker is aware that their number has been blocked?
 
Loads of people seem to be missing the point that it's not just texts. He clearly knows who she is and is stalking her if he's commenting on seeing her/her changing car etc. Changing number isn't going to solve that - in fact if anything it might exacerbate the situation, as he would need to resort to other perhaps less harmless methods of communication.

If the police aren't prepared to do anything, I'd seriously be tempted to arrange a meeting, and give him a good beating - make it clear it won't be tolerated anymore.
 
She needs to find the biggest brick **** house she can find, agree to meet said stalker and then tell him that the big guy is her new boyfriend.
 
To be honest, if he's kept at it for 3 years with no contact - blocking him won't make a blind bit of difference.

I'd wager good money he's mentally ill & may require being put into care (that kind of behaviour really isn't normal) - obsession can be a dangerous thing & is not worth ignoring.

Does she have any recent ex's which ended badly?.
 
elmarko said:
To be honest, if he's kept at it for 3 years with no contact - blocking him won't make a blind bit of difference.

I'd wager good money he's mentally ill & may require being put into care (that kind of behaviour really isn't normal) - obsession can be a dangerous thing & is not worth ignoring.

Does she have any recent ex's which ended badly?.
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Get the lady to buy a pair of these http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18507234
(no need to actually wear them!!)

Then suggest that she is wearing them, and get him to get the app to control them (if he's a wacko he will prob fall for it), then you should be able to track him down I imagine if the other person has an ID that goes with the other half of the app.
 
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