How should a woman deal with a stalker who has her mobile number?

I only know the 10 minute conversation I've had with her, but she has responded to texts as far as I can tell, to tell him she isn't interested or to please bugger off. I don't know exactly. She did say that she'd completely ignored the texts for a year, then responded saying "look, I've ignored you for a year, will you please stop", which caused the texts to stop for 6 months, but then he started again.
I think there's a lot more to this story than she's telling, but I'll pass on the link to the stalker support site someone kindly posted, if there is no way of blocking a number from texting an iphone (which I find absurd by the way)
 
fullmetaltony said:
Her ideal situation, to clarify, is being able to block the number without him knowing. She's ignored his texts for a year before and it hasn't stopped him. I have suggested she gets herself a man, as that would soon stop the situation I reckon.
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It sounds like whoever is stalking her knows more than her phone number. ie. where she shops and make of car. Maybe even where she lives so simply blocking his text/calls could make the stalker act out in a more violent manner.

As suggested arrange a meet to photo stalker and try to find out his name and other details so you can pass them onto the police.

Try to persuade them to stop all contact and tell them you have been to police to file an harassment complaint.

Document any and every future contact and tell the police.

The police cannot ignore it if you keep complaining to them.

2nd idea,

After meeting and photographing them, take the story and photos to newspaper and tell them the police wont help you out.
 
kkelly said:
New number is easiest
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This is all I can suggest, I really do wonder sometimes.

My Ex used to get hounded by some idiot in the uni hall's above her, despite her telling him she's not interested. one word answers does the trick, though, that only worked for a while.
 
Regarding the police situation. I suppose it comes down to data privacy. I would imagine that a certain line has to be crossed before they have the power to demand the name and address of a number from the network provider. I doubt they're unsympathetic, but persistent attention obviously isn't crossing that line, so it's not like they know who to go and have a word with.
 
I've given her the link to the stalking helpline and decided to back away from the situation rather rapidly. Her story seems fishier the more time passes, in fact she smells mental. I doubt I'll hear any more about it, good.
 
fullmetaltony said:
I've given her the link to the stalking helpline and decided to back away from the situation rather rapidly. Her story seems fishier the more time passes, in fact she smells mental. I doubt I'll hear any more about it, good.
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Did sound like there was more to this story than met the eye...
 
Post his number on a forum for pervs and sados and get them to ring him, say he is offering gay sex etc :)

Not a solution but fun to get pay back
 
tell her to meet him with a couple of heavies in tow who prefer he company of men,

heavies meet weird stalker, weird stalker meet men loving heavies. have fun


alternatively tell her to lady fap down the phone to him and then let rip with a nasty front bottom fart. he'll never go near her again
 
Are you sure she wants it to stop? Surely if she did she'd have changed her number years ago rather than keep the number and continue to receive the texts?

Does she not have friends she could have brought with her to meet this person, so that he/she/it can be identified?

Kind of sounds like she's not telling the whole story.

If she's not willing to change her number, or do more to stop this harassment, then you should wash your hands of it.
 
fullmetaltony said:
Police say they can't do anything as she initiated the contact (by texting him), and now are unable to take action unless he "does something", whatever that means.
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That is complete and utter rubbish and I have experience of exactly the same situation when I helped a daughters mate out to get her stalker off her back.
The Police sent two 'specialised' cops round on Boxing Day morning and they took it very seriously.
 
The cops she was dealing with are incompetent.

Tell her to read up on Section 127 of the Communications Act 2003 as this is an obvious breach of s.127(1) or s.127(2) dependant on the content of the messages - http://www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2003/21/section/127

Improper use of public electronic communications network
(1)A person is guilty of an offence if he—
(a)sends by means of a public electronic communications network a message or other matter that is grossly offensive or of an indecent, obscene or menacing character; or
(b)causes any such message or matter to be so sent.


(2)A person is guilty of an offence if, for the purpose of causing annoyance, inconvenience or needless anxiety to another, he—
(a)sends by means of a public electronic communications network, a message that he knows to be false,
(b)causes such a message to be sent; or
(c)persistently makes use of a public electronic communications network.
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UncleRuckus said:
Indeed, after 3 years of a weirdo texting her she's decided that's she's had enough? :confused:

It's almost like she's encouraged it.
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Nail. Head.

Changing her mobile number may only stop a 'symptom', but if she's genuinely that concerned, it's the easiest first step to make. Quite why you'd voluntarily put up with this kind of abuse is, frankly, beyond rational thought.
 
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