Agreed, also annoys me when people are just purely jealous that someone has a highly respectable well paying job and try to justify their lack of career achievements by saying inane comments like "but I'm from a working class background", "it is not what you know but who you know", "It is just an old-boys club".
All the CEOs/top managers/IBs etc. that earn high salaries (e.g. 200k> more + bonus) who I know personally achieved that by working from the bottom up, from a working class family at the poverty line. They all share similar traits:
- All are very smart, very adaptable, outright intelligent people
- All are very hard working, to the point of workaholics and will enjoy spending most of their evening and weekends working (normally split between their actual work and side projects).
- Are confident, well spoken, often a slight arrogance that helps them succeed. Good communication skills and ability to debate, reason, and defend their PoV.
- Gave 110% to everything they do from when they were at primary school. They studied hard to get their first class honours etc. Since they were smart and hard working a lot of them finished school/uni/phd early.
- They made their own luck through perseverance , positive attitude, not getting caught up in failures but focusing on the next success. E.g., one of them has set up 3 start-ups all of which have failed but he picked himself up and his 4th attempt quickly succeeded in making him a millionaire. Most people would have given up on the first or second failure!
The people that do the complaining typically have these values:
- Try to do the minimum effort to succeed. Never over deliver, merely provide what is requested.
- View the working day as a strict 8 hour limit, when 5pm hits they race home.
- View work has a boring necessity rather than a fun challenge.
- Would rather drink beer with friends than try to solve a difficult problem.
- Count down the days until their next vacation
- View taking a dump at work as winning 10 minutes of the companies time.
- Work out how much money they earned during their 15min fag break
- Will only work overtime if they get paid additional money
- Hates when a project deadline is due and longer hours are required (winners love the challenge and experience of working furiously to meet tight deadlines)
Don't get me wrong, many of the traits in the second list a natural and I have many of them (im counting down the days until I honeymoon in Maui, my boss was in Maui at Christmas and took a laptop to work form the hotel for most of it, there is the difference!). But that is what separates me from people with highly successful careers. I do however have enough of the traits in the first list to put me into a career that is paying in the top 5-10%.
Also it is not obvious that being the type of person in the first list is really a positive. I don't think being a workaholic is healthy.
A simpler questions is do you work to live or live to work. Most successful people are of the latter, while most of the rest of us are of the former.