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Third Opinion

Third Opinion

Soldato
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I will try to make this as short as possible so I don't bore you all. I am not sure what to do.

Just a brief history. A couple moved into the flats I live in about 4 months ago. He is about 26 and his girlfriend is 18, a bit chavy and tarty. They have a couple of young kids. To be honest they are people I wouldn't normally have much to do with.

About 2 months ago we started seeing her come back in various cars and would stand in the car park kissing various guys in more than a friendly way. None of my business so I just ignored it. The boyfriend said hello a few times which I just acknowledged out of politeness.

Anyway about 3 weeks ago I got a banging on my door at 8 a.m on a Monday. When I answered it was this guy with a policeman. The policeman asked if they could come in as this guy had been in a fight with his missus and they needed a statement.

I wasn't very happy but agreed to let them in, he was still in his dressing gown. I couldn't help but over hear his nonsense assault claim his was making and the police asked me to have a word with him more than once. I told them I didn't want to get involved and he seemed to just want to tell the police about his relationship problems.

She was taken away and the kids went off with a relative. I managed to get rid of them then.

Anyway she has never returned to the flat but he is still there. The problem is he is knocking on my door at all times of day and night constantly just wanting to go on about his broken relationship. He is often just in a dressing gown and even has tried to push his way in once or twice when I have told him it isn't convenient. I shut the door in his face and all sorts but he keeps coming back.

He called an ambulance the other day saying he felt ill but stood outside smoking and telling the ambulance crew his troubles. In fact he stops just about everyone and tells them. He is wandering around all times of day and night in a dressing gown.

I have tried to speak to his brother who lives round the corner but he has disowned him. I think he is having some kind of breakdown and is being a complete pain. He has given up work and just bums around.

I feel I should speak to someone not only to get him off my back but for his welfare. He was banging on my door at 7:30 this morning when my partner and I were still in bed. He wouldn't go.

Not sure what to do as in the absence of any family who can I report it too. I do feel sorry for him as he is obviously in a mess but he is harassing everyone, especially me.

Any ideas?
 
Was the girlfiend, who has disappeared, nice.

Sounds like she's not fussy and you might get a little action there.


On a more serious note, sounds like you've got a new unwanted best friend.

Don't answer the door for a few weeks and see if he finds someone else.
 
isonomicjedi said:
Was the girlfiend, who has disappeared, nice.

Sounds like she's not fussy and you might get a little action there.


On a more serious note, sounds like you've got a new unwanted best friend.

Don't answer the door for a few weeks and see if he finds someone else.
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I am 39 and she is a 18 year old skank imo. Apparently shes got a record for dogging, indecent exposure etc. Couldn't believe it when I heard it from the police, such a young age. I tend to set my sights a bit higher lol.

I have tried to ignore the door but he just keeps banging if he sees my car in the space.
 
Third Opinion said:
I am 39 and she is a 18 year old skank imo. Apparently shes got a record for dogging, indecent exposure etc. Couldn't believe it when I heard it from the police, such a young age. I tend to set my sights a bit higher lol.

I have tried to ignore the door but he just keeps banging if he sees my car in the space.
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In that case I see you have 3 options:

1) restraining order
2) move
3) invite him in to your house, drug him, place in bath and use handsaw to chop him into easy to handle parts. Load parts into thick black plastic bags in your boot and drive to nearest pig farm, whereupon you feed his body to the pigs.

Failing the above, put up with him until he A) commits suicide or B) moves on with his life.
 
isonomicjedi said:
In that case I see you have 3 options:

1) restraining order
2) move
3) invite him in to your house, drug him, place in bath and use handsaw to chop him into easy to handle parts. Load parts into thick black plastic bags in your boot and drive to nearest pig farm, whereupon you feed his body to the pigs.

Failing the above, put up with him until he A) commits suicide or B) moves on with his life.
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I know where you are coming from and agree but it all sounds a bit extreme.

Just wondered if there are any charities or anything that might be able to help him. I expect however he would have to call them himself. We have the number of Relate, but they charge quite a bit and I doubt he could afford it.
 
Here's an idea, stick with me on this... try to keep up....

Tell him to stop knocking on the door and warn him if he continues you will contact the police and report him for harassment.
 
Poor guy, perhaps look into getting him sectioned? Seems nasty but is probably for the best. He isn't going to get any help this way. Surprised the paramedics didn't look into doing something like that already.
 
Spangles said:
Poor guy, perhaps look into getting him sectioned? Seems nasty but is probably for the best. He isn't going to get any help this way. Surprised the paramedics didn't look into doing something like that already.
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Its bloody difficult to section someone who doesn't want to be sectioned. It certainly doesn't involve someone who annoyed a paramedic by telling him all of his woes, whilst standing outside smoking, and thus not displaying any signs of topping himself.
 
Spangles said:
Poor guy, perhaps look into getting him sectioned? Seems nasty but is probably for the best. He isn't going to get any help this way. Surprised the paramedics didn't look into doing something like that already.
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I was surprised too, they didn't want to take him but he barged his way into the ambulance. They must have been here 2 hours. I was really hoping they would section him, for his own sake. I think he did it for the sympathy he was hoping to get from his ex. He calls her constantly from what he tells me.


As I say although he is driving me insane myself I do feel sorry for him. Having to call the police and make a complaint is going to be my last resort.

I am wondering whether to give the police a call and give them a follow up on the complaint he made.
 
call the non emergency rozzers tell them his mental deal, tell him to f off and stop annoying you.. seriously..
 
Third Opinion said:
I am 39 and she is a 18 year old skank imo. Apparently shes got a record for dogging, indecent exposure etc. Couldn't believe it when I heard it from the police, such a young age. I tend to set my sights a bit higher lol.

I have tried to ignore the door but he just keeps banging if he sees my car in the space.
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The police told you her history? I call BS.
 
Ask him for his girlfriends number as you quite fancy giving her a whirl now they've split
 
Yea because police always play by the book so couldnt
Possibly slip up like that :D

Try the charities mentioned above , see if they can send someone round to chat with him or phone him

Or send the Jehovah's or scientoligists round
 
Answer the door naked. Say nothing. Start rubbing marmalade all over yourself. Fall to the floor and assume to fetul position. Hopefully he won't know what to do and will back away slowly.
 
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