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The thing that gets me is that do you REALLY believe you don't have a free choice to do anything in life? Do you honestly believe you're hard wired to do some things, or have everything pre-determined? So everything that happens is owing to a pre-programmed part of our lives? IF that's the case, you still had the audacity to insult my beliefs by poo pooing them,. At least have a little respect when you post to others rather than insulting them with your quasi-brainwashing diatribe.
 
The thing that gets me is that do you REALLY believe you don't have a free choice to do anything in life? Do you honestly believe you're hard wired to do some things, or have everything pre-determined? So everything that happens is owing to a pre-programmed part of our lives? IF that's the case, you still had the audacity to insult my beliefs by poo pooing them,. At least have a little respect when you post to others rather than insulting them with your quasi-brainwashing diatribe.

But mate he mentioned neuroscience! That's science right there! :o
 
You have a pretty lame attitude and I wonder why you are so concerned with other peoples weight. Personally I couldnt care less about whether someone is eating well and excercising or not.

You could equally apply your arguements to becoming successful in life. Are you a wealthy person in the top 1% of earners in this country ? If not why not, are you lazy and thick ? Why would you choose to be thick and ignorant instead of feeding your mind to become something worthwhile and contribute something significant to society instead of being a leech ? If you are not a net contributor then you are a leech. Obviously I dont think like that but just illustrating it can be applied to other things in life.

The problem is its easy to attack people to make your pathetic life feel better, lets face it, its part of the reason soaps on TV are so successful. Watching other peoples misery makes your own pitiful life feel better.

Interestingly I don't disagree with that really - however, I don't attack anyone, I'm very much the opposite, I try and help everyone (much to my detriment) but I try and do good by everyone as I try and be a decent human being.

I think we're all able to achieve things if we put our minds to it, but only within a certain limit of what we have control over. IF we were born with less intellectual aptitude, you may not be a CEO of a multimillion pound company, conversely it is quite possible that you do. Similarly a gifted individual may stray to drugs, or a more sordid side to life.

However, I think (hope) the point being made is that people are too quick to blame other things for their inadequacies rather than taking responsibility of their actions or where they've ended up.

I know if I worked harder I could have achieved a 1st at uni, or maybe be a little more senior at work. However, I like my work/life balance, so I make that choice (because I have the ability to make that choice) that I'll work hard, but I'll also enjoy my personal life and get the balance well.

Similarly to someone who chooses to eat a large 3000 calorie pizza because it's on offer for £4.99 instead of buying a chicken and some veg for a similar price and cooking it themself.

It's very dangerous to state that the world is black and white, it is just many shades of grey (of the non sexual type, though probably sexual to some extent ;)) black and white thinking is just impossible to quantify life - and people like to pigeon hole, which again I think is dangerous.
 
I'm not sure how it's relevant but.. 11 & a half stone 5f11, well within green BMI.

In my experience if you ask a person who is fat why they are fat, they have a long list of reasons. Some will go to lengths to read up lots on-line to reinforce their belief it's something out of their hands.

I watched a show recently called secret eaters, not the most scientific shows but it did highlight one thing. People had all sorts of excuses/reason for why they were fat, but when it came down it it they were just clueless about eating/nutrition or just lazy.

After they had some advice and were clued up they all started to lose weight and make change. Turns out their excuses were just that.

I'm not saying this applies to absolutely everyone, and I think what you're trying to get across also only applies to a small number. I think it would be easier if we focused on the majority rather than the exceptions.
 
The thing that gets me is that do you REALLY believe you don't have a free choice to do anything in life? Do you honestly believe you're hard wired to do some things, or have everything pre-determined? So everything that happens is owing to a pre-programmed part of our lives? IF that's the case, you still had the audacity to insult my beliefs by poo pooing them,. At least have a little respect when you post to others rather than insulting them with your quasi-brainwashing diatribe.
The existence of a free will has no bearing on as to if everything is "pre-determined" - the argument of free will is related to the idea that we are not the author of our own actions.

Simply believing our behaviour is the result of our genetics, environment, gene expression, family influences & random neurons firing in the brain isn't the same as fatalism - neither does it mean everything is pre-determined.

That kind of argument simply shows how little you know about the subject.

I can understand why you personally need to believe in free-will, otherwise religious & spiritual concepts make no sense at all.

If you could point out which parts are "quasi-brainwashing diatribe" I'd gladly amend them, otherwise it just sounds like more hot air.

In my experience if you ask a person who is fat why they are fat, they have a long list of reasons. Some will go to lengths to read up lots on-line to reinforce their belief it's something out of their hands.
I'm not saying you are wrong - the fact they eat too much in most cases is the exact cause.

But understanding why they lack the self control required to eat well (is the point I was getting at).

I watched a show recently called secret eaters, not the most scientific shows but it did highlight one thing. People had all sorts of excuses/reason for why they were fat, but when it came down it it they were just clueless about eating/nutrition or just lazy.
I agree, but why do they secretly eat? - or refuse to spend the time learning about nutrition?.

Those factors which cause that behaviour are some of the underline causes of the obesity.

I'm not excusing it by saying

"oh they can't help it, leave them alone - it's all genetics they can't lose weight!"

I'm saying

"Perhaps if we understood the causal factors which made them like that in the first place, we may be better equipped to help them motivate themselves enough to follow the correct nutritional advice & start an exercise regime"


After they had some advice and were clued up they all started to lose weight and make change. Turns out their excuses were just that.
I'd take that with a pinch of salt, as it is TV - also sustained weight-loss requires a change of lifestyle (not something which a simply diet can achieve).

I'm not saying this applies to absolutely everyone, and I think what you're trying to get across also only applies to a small number. I think it would be easier if we focused on the majority rather than the exceptions.
Well, I'm sure most people know that eating less cake & exercising will assist you in weight loss & a reasonable amount of information is readily available on-line assuming the person is motivated enough to do it.

As I said before, I'm not saying you are wrong - people get fat because they eat too much (mostly) & don't exercise (as you say, or are clueless about calories).

But why are they clueless about it?, what personality traits do they posses which makes them so resistant to information or changing their lifestyle to improve their physical health?.
 
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In my experience if you ask a person who is fat why they are fat, they have a long list of reasons. Some will go to lengths to read up lots on-line to reinforce their belief it's something out of their hands.

I watched a show recently called secret eaters, not the most scientific shows but it did highlight one thing. People had all sorts of excuses/reason for why they were fat, but when it came down it it they were just clueless about eating/nutrition or just lazy.

After they had some advice and were clued up they all started to lose weight and make change. Turns out their excuses were just that.

I'm not saying this applies to absolutely everyone, and I think what you're trying to get across also only applies to a small number. I think it would be easier if we focused on the majority rather than the exceptions.

In my experience, which is probably significantly greater than yours if you are talking from TV shows, most fat people know EXACTLY why they are fat and they know very well that they are to blame.

If you ask someone why they are fat, they try to answer you in a detailed way. You dont just answer with 'cos i eat too much' because that is blatantly obvious. You go into the reasons why you eat too much.
 
In my experience, which is probably significantly greater than yours if you are talking from TV shows, most fat people know EXACTLY why they are fat and they know very well that they are to blame.

If you ask someone why they are fat, they try to answer you in a detailed way. You dont just answer with 'cos i eat too much' because that is blatantly obvious. You go into the reasons why you eat too much.

I'm not talking TV shows, but it was easier to mention something people may have watched than the overweight people I talk to a lot about training and nutrition. Having been into fitness and nutrition for 9 years I get a lot of people come my way for advice. I ask them about their diet and they really have no idea.

You only have to go and ask all those who SA who have weight loss logs about these sorts of things.
 
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I'm not talking TV shows, but it was easier to mention something people may have watched than the overweight people I talk to a lot about training and nutrition. Having been into fitness and nutrition for 9 years I get a lot of people come my way for advice. I ask them about their diet and they really have no idea.

They have an idea that its bad. They know full well its overeating thats made them fat. They know and they hate themselves for it.

Dont need to ask anyone mate, ive been through it myself..and have been around weight loss groups for going on 20 years or so. Am yet to meet someone who really believes they are fat through no fault of their own.
 
To me it just sounds elmarko is citing legitimate excuses that affect a tiny minority as if they affect the majority.
I'm not talking about thyroid problems or medical conditions which negatively impact on weight management.

I'm talking about behavioural problems which result in a lack of motivation (which isn't that uncommon) which impacts on the persons ability to do something about being over-weight.

They are two separate issues (I haven't touched on the first as you say, it is the minority).

They have an idea that its bad. They know full well its overeating thats made them fat. They know and they hate themselves for it.

Dont need to ask anyone mate, ive been through it myself..and have been around weight loss groups for going on 20 years or so. Am yet to meet someone who really believes they are fat through no fault of their own.
Exactly my point.

The problem is that many people simply lack the motivation to do anything meaningful about it - it's a block to weight loss, which is significantly greater than being armed with the correct macro nutrient ratios (as a motivated person is quite able to find out at least reasonable information on that).
 
I'm not talking about thyroid problems or medical conditions which negatively impact on weight management.

I'm talking about behavioural problems which result in a lack of motivation (which isn't that uncommon) which impacts on the persons ability to do something about being over-weight.

They are two separate issues (I haven't touched on the first as you say, it is the minority).

I think its very very hard for people who havent been obese to understand some of the things you are bringing up mate. The issues with depression and comfort eating are very big. as you rightly say...and that doesnt even touch on the issues associated with fat men and low test.
 
They have an idea that its bad. They know full well its overeating thats made them fat. They know and they hate themselves for it.

Dont need to ask anyone mate, ive been through it myself..and have been around weight loss groups for going on 20 years or so. Am yet to meet someone who really believes they are fat through no fault of their own.

Definitely, what I mean is that they don't have a clue where to start in order to loss weight. Many will say they have tried various diets or in fact they are always on a diet, but never lose weight. That's why when given proper advice and some coaching they make progress.
 
Definitely, what I mean is that they don't have a clue where to start in order to loss weight. Many will say they have tried various diets or in fact they are always on a diet, but never lose weight. That's why when given proper advice and some coaching they make progress.

Yep, agreed.

Advice, guidance and support can work wonders.
 
I was going to contribute to this thread, but then I read some of the posts from elmarko

I can't take the guy seriously, it must be a blatant troll account?! Surely?!

I don't believe anyone can really be that stupid
 
To me it just sounds elmarko is citing legitimate excuses that affect a tiny minority as if they affect the majority.

Bang on. I think he may be controlled by aliens, and has forgotten to wear his tin foil hat.

But since I have no free will that cannot be an insult since it's just the way I'm wired up obviously ;)
 
I was sat there last night, with a cookie in front of me. I was thinking "should I eat it?", but then I remembered I had no free will, so I didn't eat it, or did I?! ;)
 
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I was sat there last night, with a cookie in front of me. I was thinking "should I eat it?", but then I remembered I had no free will, so I didn't eat it, or did I?! ;)

if you were a 30 stone man in the same position, you would think about eating it and then say no, im losing weight, screw that cookie..then youd feel awesome..then while walking back from the bathroom youd catch sight of yourself in the mirror, you would crash into a bout of depression and self loathing and then you would eat 8 packets of cookies because you believe yourself to be a piece of excrement and nothing is worth bothering with anymore..so why not eat the bloody cookies.
 
I was going to contribute to this thread, but then I read some of the posts from elmarko

I can't take the guy seriously, it must be a blatant troll account?! Surely?!

I don't believe anyone can really be that stupid

The thing is, he's not entirely wrong -- but when the likes of Freefaller are actually agreeing with him, but on a less hyperbolic plane, he's going nuts in retaliation.

Almost everybody here is agreeing the same thing, but at different levels of vehemence -- and that in turn is becoming one big fight as though the points were complete polar opposites. :D

Heck, even those who began with the "calories in < calories out - simples!" mantra have agreed that it's not that simple. That was the original point -- there are FAR more factors to weight loss (especially HEALTHY weight loss) than just telling someone to cut their calories if they want to lose weight. As I mentioned early on, a stupid person could take that literally, cut their intake to 800kcal/day and end up in cardiac arrest.

Education, assistance, and coaching are much more successful than saying "eat less, fat stuff".

Everyone in GD just loves an argument, though, but it's distinctly hilarious that in here is going mad over varying degrees of the the exact same outlook, for the most part anyway. There are of course still a few who seem to think it's perfectly alright for someone to just stop eating in order to lose weight, actual health be damned. For them I just feel rather sorry (and anyone who listens to their advice).
 
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