Guy complaining about kid

jsmoke · 20 Jun 2013 at 14:42

Thought I'd post this as got me a bit wound up. So in the library using the PC(mine packed in yesterday) and the guy across from me has his little kid at the pc must be about one or two years old. So the kid is baby talking away(dadda etc), it's a bit loud yes and the kids aren't meant to be over here but the guy next to him turns to the father and pretty agressively tells him to keep the noise down, huffing and puffing and tutting away.

Is this a big deal or not. Seemed pretty disrespectful and i'm sure plenty of fathers out there would be a bit ****ed off if someones complaining about your little kid doing what litle kids only know how to do. Could have be polite at least.

Maybe nothing in this, I know that being a father must be hard though, you would want to protect your children from even the slightest bad influence.

Any fathers been in a tricky situtation with their kids around, how would you handle it?

crusa · 20 Jun 2013 at 14:48

the kids aren't meant to be over here

wingman · 20 Jun 2013 at 14:50

Library. It should be a place you can go to get peace. I'd be annoyed too, but wouldn't have the audacity to tell them to shut up.

jsmoke · 20 Jun 2013 at 14:52

wingman said:
Library. It should be a place you can go to get peace. I'd be annoyed too, but wouldn't have the audacity to tell them to shut up.

Your both correct but if you'd seen it, it was out of order the way he said it. Pretty humiliating for the father, they just quietly walked away after about one minute.

mrk · 20 Jun 2013 at 14:58

Plot twist, Op is the father with the 1 or 2 year old.

Doomedspeed · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:00

jsmoke said:
Your both correct but if you'd seen it, it was out of order the way he said it. Pretty humiliating for the father, they just quietly walked away after about one minute.

Does seem like he could have been more tactful, im guessing that just the type of person at a library now a days.

At the end of the day, I would get very annoyed in the same situation...

Mr_White · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:02

jsmoke said:
Pretty humiliating for the father

He probably won't be doing it again then.

arknor · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:03

if it's supposed to be a quiet area then yes I would be annoyed although I wouldn't snap at the childs parents unless the child was running wild.

if he was just making a bit of noise then little toddlers will do that if the toddler is messing around near your feet and the guy is not watching the child then yes say something

Subliminal Aura · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:06

Personally I would have decked him.... There you go son that's how to deal with ***** like that

mrk · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:06

Subliminal Aura said:
Personally I would have decked him.... There you go son that's how to deal with ***** like that

No you would not have.

InertProtocol · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:06

That's what toddlers do! - Not like it was a 6 year old running riot round the library.

Guy needs to get some perspective and keep his opinions to himself.

Colbaker · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:09

I am sure the father would not have taken kid if he had someone to leave him with, he may have required the computer to check and/or send job applications.

If i was with my kid i would have decked him too.

Subliminal Aura · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:09

mrk said:
No you would not have.

Maybe not but would have definitely told him where to go. I find the one's who do get annoyed are typically single and or have never had kids around them. Kids are noisy no matter what, if they're not then they probably need to be looked at

mrk · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:13

That's not the point, the point is -if op is telling the whole story- that kids aren't supposed to be there anyway so the man has every right to complain.

The only failure here being the man complained impolitely, if op's version of events is accurate.

Curio · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:13

Father of a soon to be 2 year old here. I certainly wouldn't take my kid to a library on my own unless there was no other choice. Problem is, sometimes there is no other choice. If I had been in that position I would have apologized and said I would be leaving ASAP. However, if the complainer was being a jerk about it.....I'm not going to be too polite.

Of course, there are also plenty of inconsiderate parents who think it's OK to let their kids run amok and who need a good yelling at! Maybe the kid in your situation had been running around causing mayhem for a while before you arrived and the complainer had simply reached breaking point?

illuz · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:13

Subliminal Aura said:
Kids are noisy no matter what, if they're not then they probably need to be looked at

This hahaha. No noise = probably doing something naughty.

No way to deal with that situation though, could have been polite about it. :rolleyes:

=XDC=FluphyBunny · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:15

Its a library.

If the father was trying to keep the child quiet while he was doing whatever he needed to then for that's fine for me. Now if, like some parents I've seen, he was busy doing his thing and basically letting the kid disturb others without trying to keep the child quiet, then I can see why some one had a go at him (not agreeing with the way in which he approached the father)

Devrij · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:17

I hadn't realised OcUK had started a partnership with mumsnet

In all seriousness, there's nothing wrong with politely asking if he would mind taking his child elsewhere if you were working and it was distracting you. I, however, would not have said anything in this situation. If it bothered me I would have moved. To get all aggro about that is retarded.

Subliminal Aura · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:17

I'm presently actually in the library myself but to seal the privacy I also have my headphone amp

This library like I suspect others have a kids corner where they regularly have drop in sessions - so go figure libraries are not the outposts of silence as they once used to be

Adsta · 20 Jun 2013 at 15:18

Subliminal Aura said:
Personally I would have decked him.... There you go son that's how to deal with ***** like that