Destroyed by a girlfriend.. Damn

Excellent - get on with your life - your 19 years old.

I made the mistake of being with a girl from the age of 16-21. Missed out on so much being stuck in a relationship.

Get out with your mates, enjoy being single and spend some time on yourself instead of being in a relationship.

Don;t worry about talking to women just now - enjoy yourself.
 
From reading the other thread there seems to be a lot of guys on here who wished they didnt have a relationship at my age?! Seriously?!

Girls round here will give you one thing.. A trip to the clinic :') I don't fancy all that there not the classiest of girls if your just taking them home and kicking em out once your done :P
 
First things first, if this is your first serious relationship where YOU get dumped... it can indeed be crushing. It may take many years to get over it, even when you are with someone else. The one bit of advice I will give you is this: Do NOT do any favours for ex-girlfriend. She will likely try to act friendly when she needs something from you. Identify this and ignore/say no.

But honestly... you'll get over it eventually even if you cry yourself dry, and blab to all your mates and random strangers about it. Take the lessons you learned from this relationship and apply them to the next.
 
Don't worry dude. 19 is so young that this is just an experience you can learn from. Part of growing up!
 
Make the most of the freedom to enjoy life before you get tied down by another relationship.

Hit the gym or go on a few lads holidays just do something that you enjoy and have the time and effort to commit yourself to now whilst you've got the chance.
 
I've never been in a relationship and I'm 20 next month. No regrets. Your 19, yeah sleep with people but the teen years aren't the time for relationships.
 
Scougar said:
First things first, if this is your first serious relationship where YOU get dumped... it can indeed be crushing. It may take many years to get over it, even when you are with someone else. The one bit of advice I will give you is this: Do NOT do any favours for ex-girlfriend. She will likely try to act friendly when she needs something from you. Identify this and ignore/say no.

But honestly... you'll get over it eventually even if you cry yourself dry, and blab to all your mates and random strangers about it. Take the lessons you learned from this relationship and apply them to the next.
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The first bit is so difficult though as even after all this i KNOW she will come back when something goes wrong in her life and i feel so much for her still i would probably do it :/ Iv blocked her on my phone now so she can't call me or text me blocked on facebook even though i hardly use it. Apart from coming to my door she has nothing else left and she wouldn't do that. So i probably have escaped
 
I just fear ill get to 30 and still be single :') I know i go a lot of places and have turned down female attention in the past because of my relationship but girls who approach me in bars etc i cannot see them as girlfriend material just a one nighter thing :P
 
Your 19, forego all contact, go to town and smash it for the next week, you'll soon forget.
If that doesn't take your fancy, there's probably an escort agency :D
 
GrimsbyLAD said:
I just fear ill get to 30 and still be single :') I know i go a lot of places and have turned down female attention in the past because of my relationship but girls who approach me in bars etc i cannot see them as girlfriend material just a one nighter thing :P
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Oh no! Not all the no strings sex, how will you manage? :p
 
I'm 21 and split up with my gf of 3 years a couple of months ago. All I can sat is it gets better in time and I know how horrible it feels at the time!
 
You're taking the only sensible course of action that will work, which is to totally cut yourself off from her. I was once in a similar situation when I was 18, and the only way to get over these things is to move on, and the only way to move on is to go cold turkey.

As for your other problems, finding things to do with your time, going to the gym is a good one, but try taking up some new (and maybe slightly left-field) hobbies. Firstly you'll enjoy yourself, and secondly when you meet someone else you might have something interesting to talk about! :)

Good luck.
 
Iv considered taking up skydiving for years.. She never wanted me too as she thought it was dangerous. Perhaps this is the release i need to go jump out of a plane!
 
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