Destroyed by a girlfriend.. Damn

Cosimo · 1 Jul 2013 at 08:20

Efour said:
did she move to cornwall or scotland ?

I know what you did there.

Yaayuh! · 1 Jul 2013 at 08:26

Listen to Linkin Park?

elmarko · 1 Jul 2013 at 08:43

GrimsbyLAD said:
The first bit is so difficult though as even after all this i KNOW she will come back when something goes wrong in her life and i feel so much for her still i would probably do it :/ Iv blocked her on my phone now so she can't call me or text me blocked on facebook even though i hardly use it. Apart from coming to my door she has nothing else left and she wouldn't do that. So i probably have escaped

Well done.

This is the correct course of action.

Cut her off & move on, don't let her trick you into getting back into a relationship or into continuing holding a flame for her.

You have lost time to catch up for, now go get em.

TommyV · 1 Jul 2013 at 08:46

I feel more bad for you knowing that you were in a relationship from 15.5YO to 19YO.

Make sure you're single for a couple of years, these are the years you can go out and pull some fantastically EASY young muff. Enjoy!

Feef · 1 Jul 2013 at 08:52

GrimsbyLAD said:
Just wondering.. Is anyone on here still with there "highschool sweetheart" as you would say.. like 16-18 or so and still with them now?

My ex and I were together from 14-24, broke up two years ago. It sucked, and I ignored all the sensible people telling me to move on and sat around being miserable instead. After a while I came to my senses and realised that that wasn't really helping much, then spent a year having a huge amount of fun, before meeting the girl I'm with now. Wasn't looking for a relationship at all at the time, but couldn't be happier now

Doomedspeed · 1 Jul 2013 at 08:54

Sorry to hear about this obvoiusly, you're still young. a lot of fun times to be had yet..

Just keep yourself busy with interests and hobbies aswell as friends.

Don't let her back, that's the worst thing you can do, even though it won't seem it at the time.

Have some fun, be a lad for a while.

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This is you time.

boxman2000 · 1 Jul 2013 at 09:02

Give yourself time to get over her but don't become a recluse, go out and get on with life. 3 1/2 years is a long time but where possible try and remain civil if you see her as chances are you share a lot of the same friends and you don't want to make it uncomfortable for them and you end up losing some of your friendship circle in the process.

Been there at a similar age so know how you feel. Keep busy, hit the gym or something to put your time/effort into (additional study or something perhaps)?

Good luck, nobody likes having their heart broken but it does get better in time.

Rossi~ said:
Listen to Linkin Park?

Had to lol

Freefaller · 1 Jul 2013 at 09:09

This may sound harsh, but you're only 19 so you'll bounce back. It'll hurt and suck for a while, but now you've got a bit of freedom, relax, have some fun, go out, see friends, keep busy, and don't be a recluse, do things you're not able to do. Sow some wild oats, do some exercise, go travelling, you won't get that chance further in life to have that sort of "fun".

wingman · 1 Jul 2013 at 09:10

OP just got a major life upgrade.

Musty Pie · 1 Jul 2013 at 09:11

Feef said:
My ex and I were together from 14-24, broke up two years ago. It sucked, and I ignored all the sensible people telling me to move on and sat around being miserable instead. After a while I came to my senses and realised that that wasn't really helping much, then spent a year having a huge amount of fun, before meeting the girl I'm with now. Wasn't looking for a relationship at all at the time, but couldn't be happier now

I have been with my misses since I was 15/16, I am now 25 (26 at the end of July).

Things are going as well, if not even better than when we were younger. Or at least as far as I can tell ...

However I understand that not many school relationships last. And I am not naive to think that things can't change in the future. However, right now I am happy and live each day as it comes.

wingman · 1 Jul 2013 at 09:23

Musty Pie said:
I have been with my misses since I was 15/16, I am now 25 (26 at the end of July).

Things are going as well, if not even better than when we were younger. Or at least as far as I can tell ...

However I understand that not many school relationships last. And I am not naive to think that things can't change in the future. However, right now I am happy and live each day as it comes.

I've been with my partner for 5 years now, since I was 18.

Things continue to get better all the time, but that's only because of the person she is. I can easily see how others split up so casually, because you can see that people don't work together.

That's not to say we haven't been without our problems, and we both still realise that we're young, but as Musty Pie says, take each day as it comes. I am happy with the way we are and wouldn't change anything.

There's a couple of friends I know that have been with their partners since High School and remain together some 7+ years since. There are family members that have been with their partners since they were very young, too. It does happen, it's just rare these days.

Schlong&Stable · 1 Jul 2013 at 10:02

The chances are you'll remain unhappy until you find someone else to think about, so get yourself in the company of new women as soon as possible.

wnb · 1 Jul 2013 at 10:16

Jesus 3.5 years with the salm girl at the age for 19? Nobody ever heard of playing the field? I never managed to date for longer than one year untill I was 35

Now I am married and it's 10 year later

ahar · 1 Jul 2013 at 10:19

Can't agree enough with the ignore her and no contact option. Some women (and men to be fair) are amazing at manipulating their ex way after the relationship has ended.

Hit the gym, hit the bars with your mates and enjoy being young. It doesn't last long!

Put it this way - in 10 years time you'll still only be 29 - think you'll still be thinking about her then?

Mickie · 1 Jul 2013 at 10:33

she probably just wanted to experience other men seeing as she is only around 19 im guessing as you are..

what did you expect, a live long relationship at that age ? you're acting like a woman its just she had the balls to walk away..

wordy · 1 Jul 2013 at 10:44

Start stalking her, chicks dig needy, emotionaly stunted weirdos.

Fireskull · 1 Jul 2013 at 10:46

Do her mum its the only way to get over it.

shroomz · 1 Jul 2013 at 11:03

Fireskull said:
Do her mum its the only way to get over it.

Bad advice, that won't solve anything. Do her dad instead, that'll show her!

krooton · 1 Jul 2013 at 11:06

wingman said:
I've been with my partner for 5 years now, since I was 18.

Things continue to get better all the time, but that's only because of the person she is. I can easily see how others split up so casually, because you can see that people don't work together.

That's not to say we haven't been without our problems, and we both still realise that we're young, but as Musty Pie says, take each day as it comes. I am happy with the way we are and wouldn't change anything.

There's a couple of friends I know that have been with their partners since High School and remain together some 7+ years since. There are family members that have been with their partners since they were very young, too. It does happen, it's just rare these days.

I think young couples from small towns or villages that stay there have a higher chance of sticking it out. People in larger cities are more likely to get itchy feet come uni and the like.

Zefan · 1 Jul 2013 at 11:13

What do do? Read the responses from all the people that have been in exactly the same situation but don't listen, and continue to work out things for yourself. In a few months, you'll be over it.