I could write an essay (ended up doing so anyway) here but will put it into a short as possible version.
Me and partner of ten years, have a 10 year old son, we don't have many common interests. She is very family orientated where I'm more easy going. I enjoy gaming with some inter web "friends" and spend too much time on the pc. I work full time she works part time so has a lot of spare time on her hands. If i didn't spend so much time on my pc I would have to find something else to do as I can't point blank watch the crap on tv with my partner, the crap some female kind love to watch. With this we sit apart quite a lot, until she moans at me being fed up sat on her own, so I have to watch some mind numbing tv reality show now and then.
That is us, we don't go for meals, cinema, for a drink or generally do much at all together, I realize this isn't good for us, but she has a medical condition meaning we can't do as much as other couples/families.
Now here's the thing and I would like views from men and women if possible.
my partner visits her relation twice a week (like aunty/uncle to her, her other uncle (real uncle) also goes and they have a chin wag a a cup of tea etc.
Now she use to once a week, started going twice a week roughly the same time she got to know the relatives neighbor. Not long later said relative complains about his neighbor to me saying he's always round and doesn't trust him with his wife. Next I know that neighbor becomes more and more friendly with my partner as well to the point they are best friends. He comes for cups of tea twice a week, cuts our grass every week, offers to do other stuff around the house and texts her daily!
I really didn't have issues with anything when they had their week chin wags, but when he became the topic of discussion most days, found he texts her frequent most days and they see each other 4-5 days a week I am uncomfortable with this.
I said It's not that I don't trust you, it's I don't trust him. He is much older (20 years) and strangely never visits when I'm home from work or weekends - I've never met him!
She has since had an invite to his birthday do, my name wasn't mentioned.
A few weeks of this I explode, we argue constantly and say I trust and love you, but the amount you two contact each other isn't normal and suggest any man would be jealous with this.
She has asked him to stop texting her and they haven't been in touch this week. She isn't too happy that she has to do this, I didn't ask her to, just said it's doesn't feel right!
Quick story-
I am jealous of my partner and new friend of the opposite sex. Argued like hell for two weeks but now talking, I don't like another man being in constant contact with my partner to the point he seems the closest person in her life.
I'll add more if I feel I've missed anything.
Would you be the same in my shoes?
Me and partner of ten years, have a 10 year old son, we don't have many common interests. She is very family orientated where I'm more easy going. I enjoy gaming with some inter web "friends" and spend too much time on the pc. I work full time she works part time so has a lot of spare time on her hands. If i didn't spend so much time on my pc I would have to find something else to do as I can't point blank watch the crap on tv with my partner, the crap some female kind love to watch. With this we sit apart quite a lot, until she moans at me being fed up sat on her own, so I have to watch some mind numbing tv reality show now and then.
That is us, we don't go for meals, cinema, for a drink or generally do much at all together, I realize this isn't good for us, but she has a medical condition meaning we can't do as much as other couples/families.
Now here's the thing and I would like views from men and women if possible.
my partner visits her relation twice a week (like aunty/uncle to her, her other uncle (real uncle) also goes and they have a chin wag a a cup of tea etc.
Now she use to once a week, started going twice a week roughly the same time she got to know the relatives neighbor. Not long later said relative complains about his neighbor to me saying he's always round and doesn't trust him with his wife. Next I know that neighbor becomes more and more friendly with my partner as well to the point they are best friends. He comes for cups of tea twice a week, cuts our grass every week, offers to do other stuff around the house and texts her daily!
I really didn't have issues with anything when they had their week chin wags, but when he became the topic of discussion most days, found he texts her frequent most days and they see each other 4-5 days a week I am uncomfortable with this.
I said It's not that I don't trust you, it's I don't trust him. He is much older (20 years) and strangely never visits when I'm home from work or weekends - I've never met him!
She has since had an invite to his birthday do, my name wasn't mentioned.
A few weeks of this I explode, we argue constantly and say I trust and love you, but the amount you two contact each other isn't normal and suggest any man would be jealous with this.
She has asked him to stop texting her and they haven't been in touch this week. She isn't too happy that she has to do this, I didn't ask her to, just said it's doesn't feel right!
Quick story-
I am jealous of my partner and new friend of the opposite sex. Argued like hell for two weeks but now talking, I don't like another man being in constant contact with my partner to the point he seems the closest person in her life.
I'll add more if I feel I've missed anything.
Would you be the same in my shoes?
