I've not been at odds with my Mum in a long time, last time we were it was over something some so retarded. The room my PC is in connects to the kitchen and there is no partitioning wall and 1 Sunday she was out here peeling potato's and cooking Sunday Roast, then she put on her mp3 player and started singing really loud I couldn't hear my PC even with headphones on, and my brother whose PC is next to mine, I couldn't even hear him to talk to him, so I asked her to lower her volume and she moaned and complained, she then carried on and gradually got louder and then I asked her to stop. And then shiz hit the fan, she threw down the utensils and stropped into the front room. She came out 30mins later and started screaming at me about how disrespectful I am and how nobody gives a crap about her, so I unloaded on her about how she was being disrespectful to come out here in the first place and started being obcessively loud in the first place and when asked to stop carried on anyway, I said I am not and was not unfair and that I won't back down and let her have her way. She then threw all the dinner away as to make a point and stropped into the front room again, 5 mins later she came out again declaring that anyone who doesn't want to live with her can leave, "There is the front door" she said. I don't remember how the matter was resolved, but always when there is an issue with my Mum, after the argument is over she reflects on it and see's her error's. After 28'ish years of dominating Dad who was submissive she struggles coping when someone challenges her.
The other person in this house, my brother, I have came to blows with once in 2010 and almost again in 2012 and just 2 weeks ago. I remember these times because we have never fought like this before. My problem with him is he doesn't give a **** about anyone and is the most disrespectful person I have ever known, he even called our Dad who was bed-ridden dying on cancer lazy. To get in an argument with him is the worst, he will lie and twist facts, and the biggest way to make me see red is to lie about me where others can hear, and that's what he did to me in 2010 when he started an argument, and when other people hot involved he got the first word in, lied, and then everyone was looking at me like I'm the biggest ******** going. So we came to blows and I beat him up, damn near crippled my hand doing so too. So given that you'd think he'd know to not push my buttons but he still does, and did 2 years later when we got into an argument and he started stretching the truth, I remember that one started with Gregg's sausage rolls, lmao, and escalated into a file I copied to his PC before he was home, he downloaded when he got home and was like "duurrrr, I already got this you thick ****", (recall above where I mentioned he is really disrespectful). And 2 weeks ago he started an argument about me using voice activation on Mumble. Normally I use P2T but with Cubeworld my button didn't work so I switched and have used it ever since. So about a month after that he just opened up out of no where about how I am being disrespectful and invading his privacy by using voice activation because people on my Mumble can hear him. Now I agree that that is a fair point, but he's expressed nothing about it in 6 weeks and since that argument he's not mentioned it at all despite my still using voice activation, what he did was just bitch about me in front of an audience again and wasn't actually displaying a legitimate concern.
We are a fine family and 99.999% of the day, every day, is full of laughter and fun in each others company. Just the odd occasion we step into the twilight zone. And this is why we still live together. I am 29, my bro is 32 and Mum is 62.
What you shouldn't do is let someone else's opinion make your own, which is a big problem in today's society, like M-150 saying you should move out because you are 26, and the impression I got from him is you should have moved out years ago. My problem with that is why should you? if you like your family and enjoy their company and the alternative is living by yourself in a 1 bedroom flat, why move out?
If that isn't your conditions at home and you cannot find a resolution then yes of course move out when and if you can, or find a hostel to go to for a few a days and let the reality for everyone sink in, then reach out and reconnect, with everyone knowing what the alternative is if everyone carries on this way.
Best of luck to you, Buckeejit.
Move out and I'll quote a Ruckism: "You have no obligation to maintain relationships with people just because you are related".
