Has anyone ever had a serious fall out with their family?

esoteric said:
I've not been at odds with my Mum in a long time, last time we were it was over something some so retarded. The room my PC is in connects to the kitchen and there is no partitioning wall and 1 Sunday she was out here peeling potato's and cooking Sunday Roast, then she put on her mp3 player and started singing really loud I couldn't hear my PC even with headphones on, and my brother whose PC is next to mine, I couldn't even hear him to talk to him, so I asked her to lower her volume and she moaned and complained, she then carried on and gradually got louder and then I asked her to stop. And then shiz hit the fan, she threw down the utensils and stropped into the front room. She came out 30mins later and started screaming at me about how disrespectful I am and how nobody gives a crap about her, so I unloaded on her about how she was being disrespectful to come out here in the first place and started being obcessively loud in the first place and when asked to stop carried on anyway, I said I am not and was not unfair and that I won't back down and let her have her way. She then threw all the dinner away as to make a point and stropped into the front room again, 5 mins later she came out again declaring that anyone who doesn't want to live with her can leave, "There is the front door" she said. I don't remember how the matter was resolved, but always when there is an issue with my Mum, after the argument is over she reflects on it and see's her error's. After 28'ish years of dominating Dad who was submissive she struggles coping when someone challenges her.

The other person in this house, my brother, I have came to blows with once in 2010 and almost again in 2012 and just 2 weeks ago. I remember these times because we have never fought like this before. My problem with him is he doesn't give a **** about anyone and is the most disrespectful person I have ever known, he even called our Dad who was bed-ridden dying on cancer lazy. To get in an argument with him is the worst, he will lie and twist facts, and the biggest way to make me see red is to lie about me where others can hear, and that's what he did to me in 2010 when he started an argument, and when other people hot involved he got the first word in, lied, and then everyone was looking at me like I'm the biggest ******** going. So we came to blows and I beat him up, damn near crippled my hand doing so too. So given that you'd think he'd know to not push my buttons but he still does, and did 2 years later when we got into an argument and he started stretching the truth, I remember that one started with Gregg's sausage rolls, lmao, and escalated into a file I copied to his PC before he was home, he downloaded when he got home and was like "duurrrr, I already got this you thick ****", (recall above where I mentioned he is really disrespectful). And 2 weeks ago he started an argument about me using voice activation on Mumble. Normally I use P2T but with Cubeworld my button didn't work so I switched and have used it ever since. So about a month after that he just opened up out of no where about how I am being disrespectful and invading his privacy by using voice activation because people on my Mumble can hear him. Now I agree that that is a fair point, but he's expressed nothing about it in 6 weeks and since that argument he's not mentioned it at all despite my still using voice activation, what he did was just bitch about me in front of an audience again and wasn't actually displaying a legitimate concern.

We are a fine family and 99.999% of the day, every day, is full of laughter and fun in each others company. Just the odd occasion we step into the twilight zone. And this is why we still live together. I am 29, my bro is 32 and Mum is 62.

What you shouldn't do is let someone else's opinion make your own, which is a big problem in today's society, like M-150 saying you should move out because you are 26, and the impression I got from him is you should have moved out years ago. My problem with that is why should you? if you like your family and enjoy their company and the alternative is living by yourself in a 1 bedroom flat, why move out?

If that isn't your conditions at home and you cannot find a resolution then yes of course move out when and if you can, or find a hostel to go to for a few a days and let the reality for everyone sink in, then reach out and reconnect, with everyone knowing what the alternative is if everyone carries on this way.

Best of luck to you, Buckeejit.
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Unbelievable, your mother should throw you out now. You are in her house and she is cooking for you and you had the nerve to call her out on singing? Get this, she doesn't HAVE to be considerate to you at all. You have and still are stealing her life.
 
The best thing I ever did was move out at 19 as me and my parents were forever arguing from about 16 onwards. I have a much better relationship with them both now I have moved out and they no longer live together.

I don't think you can truly mature until you've moved away from your parents as there is a distinct difference in attitudes between my friends who still live at home and those who have moved out.
 
M-150 seems very familiar with our forums so hi to you!

In more related news, I've never fallen out with my family in any way which gets close to some of the things mentioned here and I don't really have anything to add other than that I hope it works out for those having problems.
 
EGuitarStar said:
As old McDaniel has said if finances permit move out and I think (please check and don't take my word for it) it is better if they "kick" you out as it puts you in a good position to go to the council and say you are homeless becasue parents kicked you out.
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Good idea, this looks like the best way forward.
 
esoteric said:
My Mum cooks for the family once a week, and that's the Roast dinner. I'm sorry your family is so dysfunctional you can't all get together and have a meal, so much fail.
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When you all live at home it's hardly difficult to "get together" is it, I bet your mum still washes your clothes as well.

You and your brother need to move out, I bet you have your meals brought to your pc as well. No wonder your mum gets ****ed, she can't even listen to her music without a couple of grown men moaning because they can't hear teamspeak, totally pathetic.
 
Older Sister moved out at 21 due to our dad being the worst. I got out at 18 and the sense of burden being removed was immense. My family are absolute scum who'd turn each other over for a tenner. Besides my Sister, I couldn't give a damn for the rest of them.

@OP - move out. What are you still doing living with your mum at 26? odd I think, how can you entertain or have a girl round with your mum hovering about!
 
Such disgusting stereotypes being thrown around here, it's exactly what I was warning OP about in my first post. This thread has become toxic and I'm withdrawing from it.
 
esoteric said:
Such disgusting stereotypes being thrown around here, it's exactly what I was warning OP about in my first post. This thread has become toxic and I'm withdrawing from it.
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You are surprised that living at home at 29 you will meet some criticism?
 
Whilst I agree that the OP should probably be looking at moving out some of the things being spouted in the thread are quite laughable. The OP is 26, not 40, the fact that he is still living at home is not unusual at all .... in fact it would seem, from a quick Google, that according to ONS figures in 2011/2012 ~28% of men of that age still live at home (source (pdf))
 
Esoteric... Wow. Serious maturity issues there. She sang loudly in her own home at the age of 62.....while cooking your lunch...and you had the audacity to call her disrespectful. Unbelievable behaviour.
 
Moved out at 19. Best decision ever, there was tension building up between myself and the parents and now, 3 years later, our relationship has never been better and I love the freedom.
 
Thanks for all the replies guys.

I'm 26 and am on minimum wage and moving out is not an option at the minute as there are things that are restricting me, money or lack of for example. I stupid gave me dad two of my credit cards a few years ago (£6,000) in total and he makes min payments at the min which is killing me as they'll never be cleared. I have to pay them some months as he misses the payments. I know it was my own stupidity for giving him the cards but I was guilt tripped. He also has a few other things in my name.

If I hear good news this week from a job that I went for last week then it'll give me a fresh lease of life and I will be able to move out so fingers crossed :)
 
FinglisHobbit said:
Esoteric... Wow. Serious maturity issues there. She sang loudly in her own home at the age of 62.....while cooking your lunch...and you had the audacity to call her disrespectful. Unbelievable behaviour.
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Wow you know I have never agreed with a statement so much in my life. I was thinking the same, but then went to make coffee and forgot all about it. So thanks for speaking what I had been thinking :)
 
esoteric said:
Such disgusting stereotypes being thrown around here, it's exactly what I was warning OP about in my first post. This thread has become toxic and I'm withdrawing from it.
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Haha hilarious!

Did writing your post not make you think to yourself, "hey maybe me and my brother were out of order after all"

Imagine getting to 62 and having two sons call you disrespectful for singing too loudly while cooking in your own house. You can't even let your mother enjoy the shred of happiness she gains from a singsong because it distracts you on your PC.

She was maybe hinting that she would like some help peeling potatoes for once from her waste of space kids.

Out of curiosity what do you and your brother do for a living? Why don't you two rent a flat together. Game to your hearts content and maybe invite your mum round for lunch one day.
 
Hedge said:
Haha hilarious!

Did writing your post not make you think to yourself, "hey maybe me and my brother were out of order after all"

Imagine getting to 62 and having two sons call you disrespectful for singing too loudly while cooking in your own house. You can't even let your mother enjoy the shred of happiness she gains from a singsong because it distracts you on your PC.

She was maybe hinting that she would like some help peeling potatoes for once from her waste of space kids.

Out of curiosity what do you and your brother do for a living? Why don't you two rent a flat together. Game to your hearts content and maybe invite your mum round for lunch one day.
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How about everyone stops wildly guessing my living arrangements? it's not what this thread is about and you're all wrong anyway. My Mum doesn't own this house, it's a part ownership with me and my Brother because Dad couldn't afford it, and when he died his estate became my Mum's.

I don't know what Victorian household some of you grew up in, but my Mother taught me respect, right from wrong, and most importantly, to stand up for myself, be an individual and not a servant.

So yes, I even stand up to my Mum when she is being wrong, and she's damn proud of me for it.

And btw, I always offer my help for Sunday Roast ;)
 
.Lethal said:
You quote someone who writes 2 sentences to claim they appear to have "serious" issues.

I think you're overreacting.
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I never once claimed he appears to have ''serious issues''.

The following two posters made similar comments. Maybe not 'overreacting' so much.
 
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