Has anyone ever had a serious fall out with their family?

fell out with my family in 2006 after being accused of having a party, which never happened, moved out and havent really spoken to them since.

I think the worst part about it all is friends saying its my fault and I should just stop being stubborn, when the parents went round saying i had almost burnt the house down etc, all of which never happened!
 
26 here, saving up and hoping for a payrise this year that'll fund rent+essentials somewhere.

Parents always seem to have a go.
 
Boycey0211 said:
fell out with my family in 2006 after being accused of having a party, which never happened, moved out and havent really spoken to them since.

I think the worst part about it all is friends saying its my fault and I should just stop being stubborn, when the parents went round saying i had almost burnt the house down etc, all of which never happened!
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Sigh, why not be the bigger man and make contact with them and try and salvage the relationship? To fall out so much over something so petty is very sad.
 
Monserrat said:
Not sure on the circumstances of those saying that they're 38 and 39 back on page 1 of this thread (80 posts per page), but that sure is old to be still living at home!
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Not living in a 2 up 2 down town house helps.
The farm I live on is more of an Estate in a way, as a lot of the family still live here. Grand Mother, Grand father (until they died), Mother, Auntie, Uncle and I all live on the same grounds in the middle of nowhere (relatively) It's just the way it's been for three generations and I can see why.
Plenty of space, freedom and land to do as you wish without interference from others. It's great. Why the hell would I want to move out?
It'll cost me more, I'll have a poorer lifestyle, It'll be cramped, I couldn't afford somewhere with a workshop / garage that's for sure and that is my life really.
Mother totters around in her part of the house and she's glad of the family being close by. We've had our differences sure but we don't in any way live in each others pockets and can do pretty much whatever we like without upsetting each other.
The ONLY Stigma I find is telling a potential GF "Yea I live with my Mum".... but really, it's not like that at all.
 
Em3bbs said:
I moved countries twice when I found myself in situations I was no longer happy in, both times I moved to where there was work. You might not think it's much of a choice, but to say you have no choice is a bit of a misnomer. People come to this country with nothing and make decent lives for themselves. You just don't have the inclination or motivation to move somewhere else which is fine but if you live with your parents then you have to accept there are some compromises to be made.

I moved out fairly young (at 20) because I wasn't getting on that well with my parents at the time and it transformed our relationship. If you live at home and get on well with your parents then I don't see an issue with living at home at 30, if you don't then either live with it or do something about it.
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Moved to Germany when I was 22. 500 euros in my pocket and a mate who could give me a couch. Within 10 days I had a job. In 6 weeks I was supervising (Irish pub). Never worked in bar industry before. Stayed three years. Interrailed . Made lifelong mates from all over the world. Moved home briefly for 6 months but couldn't hack not having my own space. Moved to Edinburgh. Again one couch. Maybe 900 euros. In 10 days I found a flat on gumtree. Then got the first of four jobs that year. Final job I'm still in with British Gas after 5 years.

Point is you don't need much except determination.
 
Esoteric wtf?
You are a living stereotype. Brothers nearing 30, both living at home whining because mum is making a bit of noise while she cooks for you.

Grow up and get out before you drain the life out of your mum. Maybe she would like to carry on with her life now she's in retirement, not look after 2 overgrown, whiny babies.

Anyone else thinking jobless overweight geeky gaming virgins?!
 
Ahleckz said:
Sigh, why not be the bigger man and make contact with them and try and salvage the relationship? To fall out so much over something so petty is very sad.
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I see your point, however after 7 years and the rest of the family realising they were lying, I got a letter explaining how they 'forgive' me.

To be honest I wouldnt know what to do as I would always resent them for doing what they did.
 
A 1bed flat is a pipe dream for most people in their 20s in London..

Except if they are benefit scroungers with a kid or something.

Grow the **** up, sort your life out so you afford more than £300pm on rent and become a man.

Some people are just pathetic really.
 
I'd say mid-20's is when you should start thinking of moving out. Obviously given circumstances and such, it might not always be possible, but even at 22, I couldn't imagine living at home still, never mind 30 odd.
 
It depends on the size of the house regarding accepted ages to moving out. Me, my mrs and our 2 year old kid were quite happily living with my dad for a good 10 years until our daughter was born. I was 31 when we left. We were on the 3rd floor, and he occupied the bottom floor. I setup a nice living room/kitchen with running water, dishwasher, fridge, gas cooker etc. It was like a proper flat. Only reason we got our own place was walking up 2 flights of stairs with shopping and baby stuff, and lack of space.

I do however think it's weird living in a small house when you're nearly 40 though. Fair enough, if you're there temporary, but if you're almost 40 and you've never moved out and live in a small or average size house, then it does ooze fail.
 
zegna said:
A 1bed flat is a pipe dream for most people in their 20s in London..

Except if they are benefit scroungers with a kid or something.

Grow the **** up, sort your life out so you afford more than £300pm on rent and become a man.

Some people are just pathetic really.
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This. My 20's were trench warfare. A struggle that I won't soon forget. But it taught me to stand on my own feet. Pay my own way and pay for any mistakes in the process. Today I'm so secure and relaxed it feels like I'm on a permanent high. Very few people could learn to make their own way in life if mommy and daddy still wipes your dirty little bum every time you blow on your money on worthless junk or screw up.
 
AmyS said:
Sure I did.:rolleyes:
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You seem to think everyone you disagree with has serious issues. I'll bet you wear high heeled shoes, a bracelet on each ankle and a padlock holding the two of them together ..... and forever telling others, "Wait for me!"
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zegna said:
A 1bed flat is a pipe dream for most people in their 20s in London..

Except if they are benefit scroungers with a kid or something.

Grow the **** up, sort your life out so you afford more than £300pm on rent and become a man.

Some people are just pathetic really.
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Agreed. This thread is full of muppets giving nothing but excuses to why they cant move. Everyone seems to give nothing but excuses and 'i cant because, i would, but' Seriously grow up, and man up. One of the best things my dad did was charge myself and brothers £300 a month all inclusive board when we left full time education, regardless of our employment status! Learnt very quickly how to stand on our own feet, and all left home before 20.

Cant believe the middle aged guy telling his mum cooking a roast to be quiet while he is on the computer, how sad.
 
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