Good result in family court.

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I have a joint residency order with my ex, our daughter lives with her mum from monday to friday and with us from friday to monday.

My eldest (12) said that she wanted to change her living arrangements around so that she was with our household monday to friday and at her mothers friday to monday.

Her mother has always agreed that the choice was hers to make, she wouldn't try and stop her etc. Of course that only applied until my daughter actually made the choice then all hell broke loose. Her mother refused point blank to allow it, wouldn't even consider it. After a couple of weeks she allowed contact after school one day a week and her boyfriend would pick her up on his way home from work. Which was fine until his working day got so short that we would only be home from school for an hour and a half before he would show up to take her to her mums. It wasn't working.

Mother still refused to let the requested change happen, so off to court we went. All the fun of background checks and CAFCASS interviews and several hearings in court later and we have a variation to the existing order where my daughter is the one in charge of where she stays and when! :D

My ex went full retard then, threatening to harm herself if my daughter didn't give up the court case, took her laptop away and threatened to sell it to pay some solicitors fees, etc, proper evil cow stuff.

Had a decent bundle of paperwork to dump on the ex in court, abusive messages, threats against my wife, the rag like school jumpers she would send my daughter to school in, stacks of it. And the judge didn't want to see any of it, he went straight to the fact that he could make any order he wanted and if a 12 year old girl decides to ignore it there isn't a damn thing anybody can do about it!

Been 7 months from start to finish (eldest was hoping to be home before the baby was born but her mother dragged it out as long as she could for "reasons"*) but yesterday it was all finished. My ex now has to let my daughter have what she's always told her she could have.:D

Finally got all my babies under one roof :D Sooooo Happy. :D



* my ex hasn't lifted a finger in 26 years, she wanted to hold on to her ticket as long as possible.
 
Congrats mate.
It may sound cynical and one-sided, but women TRULY show their evil side when it comes to trying to get their own back on their ex's. Even to the detriment of the kids.
Seen it plenty with friends, even happened to me, but on a much lesser scale.
They do as you say "go full retard" when they lose the plot.

So glad for you mate, hopefully your daughter will have a more pleasant life now.

Best of luck to you and yours sir.
 
Good news!

I agree with the judge, at 12 years old its important they have the biggest say in it providing there are no circumstances that could cause issues to there well being.
 
I'm about to go down this route myself. C100 was lodged yesterday.

Very pleased for you, and as has been said elsewhere, make sure you get the books etc.. and I dare you to start a CSA case.. :D
 
Banzai_Joe said:
Congrats mate.
It may sound cynical and one-sided, but women TRULY show their evil side when it comes to trying to get their own back on their ex's. Even to the detriment of the kids.
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yea me and my ex-wife get on really well or so I thought.

it was my sons birthday a few weeks ago and she planned to take him for a day out and invited me along seemed like she really wanted me to go etc...

I was out with my son a few days before his birthday and he asked me "are you coming out on my birthday? mum said she hates you and doesn't want you to come" :rolleyes:

WTF? I could hardly believe what he said.

I thought we got on like "good friends" still and that's how it appears but apparently she hates me even though we broke up on good terms , no one cheating etc we just want different things from life.


just yesterday I got a text message "hello can you transfer me £**??? I'll give you back £*** on friday and then I owe you £***in a few weeks"

maybe she's only nice to my face because she is always lending money from me.
 
"best interest of the child".

It's not just about what the child want (what if she wants to go live with Justin Bieber?), or what you want, or what her mum wants.

You need to understand that cases like yours are placed in front of the judge day after day, and they share a lot of common facts. The other side is evil, I (as a parent) love her, each have a files and stacks of evidence. Sure, it's all evidence but at the end of the day, it is what is best for the child. In this case he agreed with you.

Glad you and her got what she wanted though.
 
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yea me and my ex-wife get on really well or so I thought.

it was my sons birthday a few weeks ago and she planned to take him for a day out and invited me along seemed like she really wanted me to go etc...

I was out with my son a few days before his birthday and he asked me "are you coming out on my birthday? mum said she hates you and doesn't want you to come" :rolleyes:

WTF? I could hardly believe what he said.

I thought we got on like "good friends" still and that's how it appears but apparently she hates me even though we broke up on good terms , no one cheating etc we just want different things from life.


just yesterday I got a text message "hello can you transfer me £**??? I'll give you back £*** on friday and then I owe you £***in a few weeks"

maybe she's only nice to my face because she is always lending money from me.
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She's seriously out of order telling a child she hates his father, regardless of why they separated. Women can be vicious in situations like this, I know from personal experience. My mum used to tell me and my sisters my dad hated us all and that's why he'd left (ignoring the fact she was an out and out cow with him and anyone she meets).
 
see? estranged female ex's = crazy horse mofo's! (some male ones too i guess).

Arknor....knock the lending of money on the head mate if i were you.
 
OldCoals said:
I bet you daren't put in claim in with the CSA now. :D

Congratulations.
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That's on the "to do" list ;)

MeatLoaf said:
Make sure you get all the child benefit/child tax credits changed into your name :)
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Going to give it a month, make sure minime is definitely happy with things.

My ex was trying to tell the judge that i was only pushing this to get her allowances. I had the direct.gov printouts showing the child benefit doesn't even cover the cost of school dinners, there's no housing benefit bump as she can share with her sister (she actually has her own room here anyway) and the tax credits cover her food, clothing, transport and entertainment. Her mother managed to fund two overseas holidays a year out of it (without taking our daughter of course), so i dread to think what part she wasn't putting towards my girl.
 
So she threatened to cut herself? Did you inform Mental Health Services? Sounds like she isn't a fit mother to look after a child tbh
 
WoW! Sounds like you picked a right winner there!!
I only feel sorry for the poor bloody kids in horrific situations like this, where supposed mature, intelligent adults can't even get their **** together for the sake of the kids!!:mad:

The worst of these cases can have such a negative and traumatic effect on young children that sadly they can be effected for life.
Reminds me of a great but very sad film I saw recently with Steve Coogan in it called "What Maisie Knew (2012)" ultimately it's the poor bloody kids that get hurt and damaged the most in messy divorces/relationships :(
 
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Surfer said:
So she threatened to cut herself? Did you inform Mental Health Services? Sounds like she isn't a fit mother to look after a child tbh
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My first thoughts too, I'd be more worried about her potentially harming the child though - people who make threats like that and "but I love her more than life etc" tend to be the ones who end up on the news for offing their children and then topping themselves.

I'd move to get her checked out especially if she's depressed or diagnosed with it soon, which sounds like a possibility.

Good result though, just a shame people can't be more reasonable when it comes to their kids.
 
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