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areksnumbr1sxylady

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Basically long story short... One of our family member ended up with permanent residence card in the states, which basically allows you to work/live permanently there... There are few major issues though, the kid is only 18 years old an just completed A-levels (not that well) :rolleyes:...

The other problem is that if he decides to go, we will provide only minimal financial support since sending him to a uni there and paying 40k a year in tuition fees is something we cant do financially... (yes we are poor sods)

The final problem is that he has 5 months to make up his mind he either goes or doesnt, after that time he loses the status and will have serious issues with working visa in future if he decides to get it.

Guy really wants to go but he was hoping that parents would go as-well but it just isnt working out like that unfortunately.

So clearly, as my mind drew blank I reached for help in one of the best places you could find... GD section of ocUK.. (jesus christ)

Any ideas guys???
 
tell him he's an adult now and should be living his own life?
how did he get a permanent residence card anyway ? usually they are stupidly picky about who they let in
 
then surely he can not go without the parents?

are you actually the parents or not? you seem to talk about them in third person but said
The other problem is that if he decides to go, we will provide only minimal financial support since sending him to a uni there and paying 40k a year in tuition fees is something we cant do financially... (yes we are poor sods)
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if you are poor how the hell did you get the chance?
someone I know of married a woman he met on the internet and moved out to america to live with her.
he had to live there for 7 years or something silly before he could become a citizen
 
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arknor said:
then surely he can not go without the parents?

are you actually the parents or not? you seem to talk about them in third person but said

if you are poor how the hell did you get the chance?
someone I know of married a woman he met on the internet and moved out to america to live with her.
he had to live there for 7 years or something silly before he could become a citizen
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I am a family member (older brother)

He can go on his own, its not a problem... We are not exactly poor :rolleyes: its just that our family cant pay 40,000 a year in tuition fees thats all.

On a serious note... does anyone have any solid advice?? Since everyone expects me to know the answers and I am seriously struggling here.
 
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Tuition fees for public schools within the same state as the residence of the student is really reasonable, less than English tuition costs last time I checked. You would have to check what the terms and conditions are, e.g. perhaps he needs to have lived in the state for 2 years to qualify, or it may only apply to US Citizens and not residents.
 
erm your rolling your eyes at me for saying you are poor when in your original post you said
(yes we are poor sods)
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my advice would be tell him to get a job in America but it might be to much of a culture shock for him if he has never been

why don't you go with him?
 
arknor said:
tell him he's an adult now and should be living his own life?
how did he get a permanent residence card anyway ? usually they are stupidly picky about who they let in
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I'm a permanent residence now, I just got added to my wife's application.
Process takes time, you have to file initial application paperwork with attorney, a year later you need a medical, and then a finger print scan and check by FBI, then a short interview (asking if you are a Nazi/communist/terrorist) then 2 weeks later my card arrived. Took about a year all in. Nothing too complicated assuming you have a sponsor.
 
D.P. said:
Tuition fees for public schools within the same state as the residence of the student is really reasonable, less than English tuition costs last time I checked. You would have to check what the terms and conditions are, e.g. perhaps he needs to have lived in the state for 2 years to qualify, or it may only apply to US Citizens and not residents.
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Yeah its something like 12,000 a year for in-state which is something we can handle but as you said they require at least 1/2 year full employment to grant "state residence"

arknor said:
erm your rolling your eyes at me for saying you are poor when in your original post you said


my advice would be tell him to get a job in America but it might be to much of a culture shock for him if he has never been

why don't you go with him?
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Well arknor it was in context of paying 40k for a uni?? I mean on a same line, so I kind off expected people to understand that (poor sods) was more related that we cant pay 40k tuition fees and not a general statement of our financial ability....

I dont have GC since I was too old to qualify under my parents unlike my bro who was like 17 or 16.

Cultural shock souldnt be too bad since he and the parents lived in the states for like 2 months before they decided they wont be going ahead.... So its not like he`s going to be off the plane and into the new world... I am worried that with average 5-8$ per hour he`s going to struggle to support himself and doubt anyone will give him medical insurance so if something happens... going to be very bad
 
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Surely he can't go if his residence was gained as part of a family application, it's crazy hard to get a green card to the states, if you have guaranteed employment, property is cheaper, loads more land, cheaper taxes (depending on state), only downside is the healthcare, why the hell isn't your family emigrating? It's a once in a lifetime chance, turning down a green card is like tearing up a winning lottery ticket
 
MrMoonX said:
Surely he can't go if his residence was gained as part of a family application, it's crazy hard to get a green card to the states, if you have guaranteed employment, property is cheaper, loads more land, cheaper taxes (depending on state), only downside is the healthcare, why the hell isn't your family emigrating? It's a once in a lifetime chance, turning down a green card is like tearing up a winning lottery ticket
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Employment is the issue the parents are doing U turn, they worked out that it will take something like 4 years to reach position they currently hold due to heavy certification needs in USA in education and health-care, in their age they think its just not worth it.

He can go on his own... he has separate permanent residence card which is not tied in any way to other family members.
 
Lazder said:
As mentioned in first post, he has 5 months to decide... I dont think you can do degree in 5 months?
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Decides, like call someone or decide like get a job and rent a place with your name on some electricity bill?

Or 5 months to enter the country to keep the GC alive?
 
Then it sounds like he better start applying for jobs now in the US, waiter or something to get by, apply for state school for next year.....
 
Tell him to

Fly to America
Step outside the airport and flag down a taxi
Tell taxi driver to take him to nearest US Army recruiting office
Walk inside and ask for an 11B option 40 contract.
Sign the paper work.

The US government will take care of the rest. College tuition, housing allowance, healthcare, you name it.
 
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