Not wanting kids and dating

I have to say since getting a nephew, I would love to start a family with the right girl one day.

If it's really not for you, have you considered getting a boyfriend?
 
Have you considered Prostitutes until you are bored and your shallow life seems meaning.
 
Years ago I thought I wouldn't mind having kids, but then my sister had a certain little girl and I came to realise that the devil does indeed send his children here to play. I would now rather spend my years left on this earth in an isolated cabin with nothing but forest animals to keep me company.
 
window said:
Once upon a time I had the same attitude then a 'mistake' happened. Have to say its the best thing to have happened to me. Gives your life a new purpose.
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And find me any unexpected parent who would openly admit to wishing they never had their kids... there are definitely those out there, but no-one would own up to feeling that way.
 
Find a girl who doesn't want kids. They do exist. But they're few and far between. Don't settle for anything less than you want and don't listen to the, "oh you will one day" crap. I'm 34 and I have no intention of ever doing so. My last long-term relationship finished because the girl wanted kids and I didn't.

And when you find a girl like that, she's a keeper.
 
Lysander said:
Find a girl who doesn't want kids. They do exist. But they're few and far between. Don't settle for anything less than you want and don't listen to the, "oh you will one day" crap. I'm 34 and I have no intention of ever doing so. My last long-term relationship finished because the girl wanted kids and I didn't.

And when you find a girl like that, she's a keeper.
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Until one party or other changes their mind!

It's innate within us to procreate so you have to expect to be in a minority if you don't want kids, it does make it harder.
 
One thing I would say is if you don't want them, and your mind doesn't change, don't have them to make someone else happy.

They are too much work and demand too much for you to do it if its not what you want.
 
Gilly said:
One thing I would say is if you don't want them, and your mind doesn't change, don't have them to make someone else happy.

They are too much work and demand too much for you to do it if its not what you want.
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Attitudes do change though after the labour and your instinct gets shifted some what.
 
im also 28 and have no interest,

this had better not change (im 99% certain it wont) as my partner would make a terrible mum!

the hit on finances and time would be too much for me persoanally, i do like my own time, but im also happy to 95% of my time with my partner if shes the right one, but dont want a kid.. for one i wouldnt be able to keep my s2000 :P, my job is ok pay wise (30) but nothing special at all but my partners isnt, and i know a kid would be too much, i would have to give up everything financially to manage it. This includes things like going to the cinema, going for a nice meals, and just generally having freedom. For instance, i have just taken up photography and no way could i do this with a kid

its not easy finding girls who dont want kids. And as soon as it goes from 'No' to 'maybe one day' you may as well bail

Its definitely something where you need to be compatible

i dont mind kids when they are a bit older and can interact, but i still want to give them back lol
 
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al4x said:
its not easy finding girls who dont want kids. And as soon as it goes from 'No' to 'maybe one day' you may as well bail

Its definitely something where you need to be compatible
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Indeed, it takes a long time to find one. Like you say, in the past whenever it changed to, "hmmm maybe" then I dropped out. It's too big a deal. I will do whatever I can to retain my freedom.
 
Lysander said:
Indeed, it takes a long time to find one. Like you say, in the past whenever it changed to, "hmmm maybe" then I dropped out. It's too big a deal. I will do whatever I can to retain my freedom.
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people often say im selfish, but i see it as it is worse to bring a kid into a bad environment, i know i cannot give a kid a good environment so i choose no. But you can tell on peoples faces when they ask and i say no they think i am cold and heartless!

or you get the 'you will one day' but i genuinely cannot see it. The girl would have to be pretty exceptional tbh

i am amazed how single mums do it, i cant imagine the cooking, the school run, the clothes, presents, activities. Even things like going to the cinema would cost a bomb with say two kids as opposed to a couple. And then you have to see a child friendly film, not aliens or whatever
 
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_dogma_ said:
If it ever doesn't pan out with my bf...;)

I don't want kids and I've always made that clear. I think honesty is best but you will always have the person that will try to change your mind.
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lol. I'll bear that in mind. :cool:

I've been doing online dating for nearly 2 months now, and after quite a few dates, I haven't really found anyone compatible.

For those who did change their mind about having kids, what happened exactly?
 
I had that attitude until my early thirties, now at 37 the idea is becoming more appealing but now it seems most of the women have already had their kids by their early thirties and the ones that haven't are mostly mental.
 
PMKeates said:
Turn gay, it's very difficult to birth children
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I've posted several times before in various threads about the kids thing. It makes dating and relationships massively more difficult. I've bailed on a couple of relationships where the child ultimatum was given.

Gay peeps have it easy!!!
 
bainbridge said:
I had that attitude until my early thirties, now at 37 the idea is becoming more appealing but now it seems most of the women have already had their kids by their early thirties and the ones that haven't are mostly mental.
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There are may people like this age who now want kids but no women who want them.

Bagging a 25 year old lady when your 37 and having kids is rare. Most have already had them. And the ones that are left are the stuff in bargain bin no one wants:p
 
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