Being made homeless

buckeejit · 28 Oct 2013 at 17:53

I would really appreciate some advice if possible.

I'm 26 and still live at home but things have gone from bad to worse over the past two years because of my dad and things he's done. Me and my mum used to get on but we've been clashing big time especially over the past year and she's told me tonight that I have two weeks to find somewhere else to live or else she's chucking my things and changing the locks. Things with my dad have affected me big time and I know that my moods have been taken out on my mum but she does the same. There really is no going back now and it's terrible to say but I think it's time to cut ties and move forward in life. I've been tied down for so many years and manipulated (long long story).

I'm going to the housing executive tomorrow to say that I'm being made homeless and was wondering if this has happened to anyone on OCUK? I know I'll prob get put into a hostel etc. and I know it'll be ages before I get a house but I'm anxious/scared/nervous. As I said, there's no going back and this move needs to be made and I was hoping for some advice.

Thanks

P.S. I know 26 is too old for some people to still be living at home but if you have the debts I have (because of my dad) then it can't be helped. Also, I have no savings and the job I'm in is min wage.

~>Dg<~ · 28 Oct 2013 at 17:59

youll probably have to go in a hostel or something like while housing is arranged unless they have some housing available but its often done on points or somekind of system.

Diagro · 28 Oct 2013 at 17:59

How can you have debts from Ur dad? Get a house share or rent a room. If Ur lucky can get one for 250 quid a month.

best sell all Ur stuff quick

jsmoke · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:01

Are you working, what are your skills, job prospects, afraid unless you have money stored up a job is the only way.

dottty27 · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:07

Get ya mum to do a letter saying she is making you homeless on x date take it to all your local housing associations ect ...

Cold_And_Miserable · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:10

You've got yourself to blame for not behaving yourself and now you are living one of my worst nightmares as an agoraphobic.

buckeejit · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:12

PanMaster said:
You've got yourself to blame for not behaving yourself.

With all due respect, you don't know the circumstances 100% so...

jimjamuk · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:12

Find a betsit

then

get a grip and sort yourself out

HTH

buckeejit · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:13

dottty27 said:
Get ya mum to do a letter saying she is making you homeless on x date take it to all your local housing associations ect ...

Is there any point in this as I'll be telling them in person.

buckeejit · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:13

jsmoke said:
Are you working, what are your skills, job prospects, afraid unless you have money stored up a job is the only way.

Yes, I'm in full time work at the min.

Schlong&Stable · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:15

Can you not afford a flat share on minimum wage? Are you searching for jobs with better wages actively?

shootersam · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:20

Simon Community might be able to help, or homeless NI. I think they have an option to search for accommodation on their website.

buckeejit · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:20

Thompson_NCL said:
Can you not afford a flat share on minimum wage? Are you searching for jobs with better wages actively?

I'm looking at this option but need to stay close by for work so I'm not sure what's available. I am searching for jobs with better wages and I went for two interviews last week on my day off.

jimjamuk · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:21

have you got any mates (who arent married yet) that can let you bunk for a few weeks?

dottty27 · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:21

buckeejit said:
Is there any point in this as I'll be telling them in person.

It will save them checking for them self's, it's up to you if you do or don't

uniQ · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:21

Contact Shelter: http://www.shelterni.org/

Traffic_Warden · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:24

buckeejit said:
I would really appreciate some advice if possible.

I'm 26 and still live at home but things have gone from bad to worse over the past two years because of my dad and things he's done. Me and my mum used to get on but we've been clashing big time especially over the past year and she's told me tonight that I have two weeks to find somewhere else to live or else she's chucking my things and changing the locks. Things with my dad have affected me big time and I know that my moods have been taken out on my mum but she does the same. There really is no going back now and it's terrible to say but I think it's time to cut ties and move forward in life. I've been tied down for so many years and manipulated (long long story).

I'm going to the housing executive tomorrow to say that I'm being made homeless and was wondering if this has happened to anyone on OCUK? I know I'll prob get put into a hostel etc. and I know it'll be ages before I get a house but I'm anxious/scared/nervous. As I said, there's no going back and this move needs to be made and I was hoping for some advice.

Thanks

P.S. I know 26 is too old for some people to still be living at home but if you have the debts I have (because of my dad) then it can't be helped. Also, I have no savings and the job I'm in is min wage.

You only have yourself to blame for debts in _your_ name. Not anyone else....

holymonk · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:25

uniQ said:
Contact Shelter: http://www.shelterni.org/

Useless advice, he lives in NI?

UncleRuckus · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:25

buckeejit said:
I would really appreciate some advice if possible.

I'm 26 and still live at home but things have gone from bad to worse over the past two years because of my dad and things he's done. Me and my mum used to get on but we've been clashing big time especially over the past year and she's told me tonight that I have two weeks to find somewhere else to live or else she's chucking my things and changing the locks. Things with my dad have affected me big time and I know that my moods have been taken out on my mum but she does the same. There really is no going back now and it's terrible to say but I think it's time to cut ties and move forward in life. I've been tied down for so many years and manipulated (long long story).

I'm going to the housing executive tomorrow to say that I'm being made homeless and was wondering if this has happened to anyone on OCUK? I know I'll prob get put into a hostel etc. and I know it'll be ages before I get a house but I'm anxious/scared/nervous. As I said, there's no going back and this move needs to be made and I was hoping for some advice.

Thanks

P.S. I know 26 is too old for some people to still be living at home but if you have the debts I have (because of my dad) then it can't be helped. Also, I have no savings and the job I'm in is min wage.

OP my advice would be for you and your Mother to correctly deal with the issues your Father has left you.

Hyburnate · 28 Oct 2013 at 18:26

holymonk said:
Useless advice, he lives in NI?

Ninja edit

All these things wont give a **** about your location though. They'll give you a house they'll take your location into consideration but not to a great degree.