Are you happy?

Guest2 said:
Yep.

I dont have a girlfriend/wife/kids at 29 which my mum keeps moaning at and I'm still going to festivals, night clubs, Ibiza etc. which she said "haven't you grown out of all that yet" to which I replied "what having fun, no"

Neither do I have my own house - I live close to work in a good flat, have nice possessions, enjoy my job (even though it isn't that well paid) and I'm healthy.
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Genuine fair play. I don't understand why mothers have a requirement for there children to settle down as quickly as possible. I've never had that, being with my partner from 19 years old, but I hear a lot of stories about mothers pushing relationships on their children, especially their sons.
 
I'm happy, I'd love to change my job but I'm working towards it. Small things make me happy though and I've had some great people round me in the last few years so it's all good.
 
I'm coming to the conclusion that happiness is a side-effect of ignorance. I flicked onto the darts on ITV4 and noticed that the crowd were all having a whale of a time - drinking, socialising, dressing up, singing along with the Fratellis etc, even watching a bit of darts from time to time and I just thought that these people all look a bit thick but they're having such a good time while I'm wallowing in self-pity - who is the winner there?

Then I thought about George Orwell's 1984, there again the "proles" were still having fun down the pub despite living in a pretty awful dystopia. It was only the middle-classes who couldn't cope with Nanny State and Big Brother.

It's like that quote from the Matrix - Ignorance is Bliss.
 
Not even slightly.

My life seems to keep getting progressively worse. I'm sitting here (at 33 next month) trying to keep my gran awake so she'll sleep tonight and not keep my mum up all night.

Yep, 32 and still live at home with my mum and gran! Far too many debts to even think about moving out, in the last 10 years I've had a whole total of 1 girlfriend that lasted about 2 months and I'm in a job I don't particularly enjoy.

Still, I'll find out tomorrow if I've got the promotion I interviewed for last week.

My life might get better, but I seriously doubt it!
 
scorza said:
I'm coming to the conclusion that happiness is a side-effect of ignorance. I flicked onto the darts on ITV4 and noticed that the crowd were all having a whale of a time - drinking, socialising, dressing up, singing along with the Fratellis etc, even watching a bit of darts from time to time and I just thought that these people all look a bit thick but they're having such a good time while I'm wallowing in self-pity - who is the winner there?

Then I thought about George Orwell's 1984, there again the "proles" were still having fun down the pub despite living in a pretty awful dystopia. It was only the middle-classes who couldn't cope with Nanny State and Big Brother.

It's like that quote from the Matrix - Ignorance is Bliss.
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Ignorance is not a necessary requirement for happiness.
 
I try to be happy, but honestly can't say that I am. The funny thing is, I have everything I could want in life, it's sad really. I use to have a positive outlook on anything I tackled, but I've lost that.
 
scorza said:
I'm coming to the conclusion that happiness is a side-effect of ignorance. I flicked onto the darts on ITV4 and noticed that the crowd were all having a whale of a time - drinking, socialising, dressing up, singing along with the Fratellis etc, even watching a bit of darts from time to time and I just thought that these people all look a bit thick but they're having such a good time while I'm wallowing in self-pity - who is the winner there?

Then I thought about George Orwell's 1984, there again the "proles" were still having fun down the pub despite living in a pretty awful dystopia. It was only the middle-classes who couldn't cope with Nanny State and Big Brother.

It's like that quote from the Matrix - Ignorance is Bliss.
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My detective skills lead me to this conclusion

You're boring
You're broke
You think too much of yourself
Middle aged or close
 
I should be happy.

However I am not deep down.

I'm 28 have a my own ltd business (profitable) earn 50k + a year, have a good mrs and daughter, a car I want but I cannot explain it. I worry for tomorrow to much, turns me a to have a few beers, be grumpy and sometimes depressed.

Ultimately given my childhood (poor which plays my mind a lot) and other things I am probably depressed but very on and off, if things are good then there GREAT but if one little thing turns I get very down. A bit bothered to go see a quack so for now it is what it is.... ?

first time i have ever admitted that btw.
 
hmm difficult one that I've not actually thought about until this thread.

I'm mixed. Happy as in I have a half decent job and lots of toys I never thought I'd ever be able to afford. Unhappy because to get in this situation I had to move areas, left my friends behind and spend most of my free time alone.

Grass is always greener...
 
Regy53 said:
I should be happy.

However I am not deep down.

I'm 28 have a my own ltd business (profitable) earn 50k + a year, have a good mrs and daughter, a car I want but I cannot explain it. I worry for tomorrow to much, turns me a to have a few beers, be grumpy and sometimes depressed.

Ultimately given my childhood (poor which plays my mind a lot) and other things I am probably depressed but very on and off, if things are good then there GREAT but if one little thing turns I get very down. A bit bothered to go see a quack so for now it is what it is.... ?

first time i have ever admitted that btw.
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The little things mount up. I think as men we let these things get to us, people ust think we're being typical idiot men and they go unresolved. Doesn't matter how fortunate you may seem, there is no shame in seeing someone. Some of the smartest and more brilliant people I have known and met have had professional help at some stage despite having everything as more. Be it unresolved issues or current ones.

The first step is admitting it. I had issues for years and I thought it was just becasue I'm just that way out then it just clicked, I realised I was depressed. It took me another couple of years to finally get the help I needed but although my life right now seems a mess, it is not hopeless and I can see the positives.

You'll work it out, but you have to want to and not let your mood dominate you :)
 
Two healthy kids
A healthy wife that puts up with me
A roof over my head
A mortgage approved that'll lower my repayment by £400 pcm
A good job
Great remuneration
Fairly good health apart from UC
Prospects to start up on me own very soon
It's Christmas

Yes, yes I am.

Ask me again when the alarm goes off @ 5am tomorrow :)






DirtyJester said:
No
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Sad panda :(
 
DB_SamX said:
Health not a factor?
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Health is probably the biggest factor. Nothing is as miserable as feeling really ill, fortunately most of us are only subject to that once every few years, so it's not a surprise most people don't consider it at first instance. I didn't.

I'd say happiness comes from family, friends and lovers. Those are things that bring happiness. Money and good health do not tend to make people happy, but they save the misery of not having money and not being in good health. Arguably slightly backwards, but I think that's correct.
 
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