BEing a child is tough.

SkodaMart said:
Make the most of what you have.

You are young, spend your time exercising, running, cycling anything that you enjoy!

Try to get yourself out in the night life scene when you get a bit older with good mates.
It's great fun!!
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thank you, you have got me thinking :D

Edit: yeah back on topic, yeah bullying....bad
 
The problem with bullying that most people don't seem to understand is recovery.

I was bullied and near the point of suicide, fortunatly for one of the teachers at the boarding school caught me before I could do any harm.

Took me many years to get over it and it still effects me now; if I feel someone is trying to bully me and it is more than banter I react very agressively towards them. It means I don't get bullied... however it alienates people which is fine for actual bullies but not good if I have completely misjudged them.
The other problem is that the people who bully the most are the biggest cowards and you can gaurantee they are the ones who will start a fight then run off to the police when it doesn't go their way, so sometimes it seems you can't win. The best strategy is just not to put yourself in situations where you have to decide; do I put up with this bully or do I knock him the.... and deal with the consequences of that action.

Either way it stays with you for life, and if you have truly moved on then you weren't really bullied.
 
estebanrey said:
Bullying can never be condoned, however there are also many people with ridiculously fragile personalities.

I was bullied as a child but I was also taught the sticks and stones mentality. The problem is one man's bullying is another man's "banter". No one 'thinks' they are a bully, in their mind they are just 'having a laugh' which again doesn't not for one minute excuse their behaviour but it isn't as clear cut as 'evil person knowingly drives other to suicide' as it's often made out.
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+1
 
86JR said:
The problem with bullying that most people don't seem to understand is recovery.

I was bullied and near the point of suicide, fortunatly for one of the teachers at the boarding school caught me before I could do any harm.

Took me many years to get over it and it still effects me now; if I feel someone is trying to bully me and it is more than banter I react very agressively towards them. It means I don't get bullied... however it alienates people which is fine for actual bullies but not good if I have completely misjudged them.
The other problem is that the people who bully the most are the biggest cowards and you can gaurantee they are the ones who will start a fight then run off to the police when it doesn't go their way, so sometimes it seems you can't win. The best strategy is just not to put yourself in situations where you have to decide; do I put up with this bully or do I knock him the.... and deal with the consequences of that action.

Either way it stays with you for life, and if you have truly moved on then you weren't really bullied.
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I was bullied as a kid, and while it obviously wasn't to the extent that you were I'm kind of in the same position. However, the old adage came true for me 'those who are bullied become the bullys'. I only realised this after I was taken to one side and told it as an early adult, then I realised what I was doing.

Since then (prob about 8 years ago) I still have to stop myself from dropping that low again and actively feel ashamed if I say something bad about someone.

A couple of nights ago a clan member said to me ingame 'oh here he is, the bully' and instantly I felt ashamed of myself (quite rightly) while something I may have said as banter in passing was taken seriously.

So yeah it does stay with you for life one way or another, and I for one can say that if it wasn't for that someone taking me to one side I'd be a despicable person by now, purely for how I was treated as a kid
 
It is banter to a degree. If you are all friends, saying something like "yeah, I left it on your desk when I saw your mum last night" is an example of banter.

Spray painting "YOUR MUMS A ****" on her building wall however is bullying.
 
Bullying is bad, we get it. People act like it's any different now than it once was, people get bullied but what does posting awarness propaganda do about it?

You've now got "cyber bullying" so people act like it's the end of the world, protip, you can turn the pc off and ignore people, change your account or whatever.

In my day we just got on with it or we gave the other kid a right good kicking, that were about the extent of it. And it's the same today, but what can you do?
 
When my two brothers,sister died i went into solitude and didn't talk to anyone for a while, I went back to school a month after and was immediately surrounded by "Friends" who seemed to care but eventually got tiered of me because they thought i was asking for attention, It got bad enough that i isolated my self completely which was easy enough because neither of my parents had spoken to me much since they died, a few days before my 17th birthday my father committed suicide making it almost my whole family gone within a few month period , on my 17 birthday it was his funeral and at the funeral i recieved a group facebook message saying "You next?" or "shall i book a day off soon for your funerial?" I was very close to kicking it then but thought back to everything and realised it wasnt the right path. I told my teachers about everything that had been going on, I was having therapy and i told the woman there, The police were involved and a few months later everything seemed to be dying down but there were the odd one or two people making comments behind my back, I realize now that bullies will never go away or never really stop, Not until they have experienced what i was dealing with will they ever stop and realize how much they ruined my life, I consider myself lucky but its sad to think that there is always going to be a young person about to take their life because of a select few :c
 
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