Do you like parties?

im not a big fan of anything in a large group of people (insert orgy joke) im not the most confident of people at the best of times and im not very good at small talk as i find it hard to ask questions i dont care about the answer too nor do i enjoy answering questions about things i know the other person doesnt care about.

i enjoy my own company, it may seem odd but thats why me and my wife work so well as we are both very similar which is why we love each other so much.

i very rarely drink meaning im normally the designated driver not by choice but i dont see the point in drinking somthing i would enjoy less and cost more then having a simple, tea, coffee or soft drink, also those that have been there know that being the sober one among drunk people isnt always the most fun place to be.
 
wndsr said:
I know a few people who say they don't like parties or social gatherings so instead choose to barely leave the house because they would rather spend their time talking to people on the internet.

I think this is utterly ridiculous. As great as it is speaking to people on the internet, it's no match for being able to hold a face to face conversation with people or know how to interact with other people in a 'real world' environment whether it be a party, over dinner, drinks or whatever else.
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The issue is that some people find it much easier to interact with others online. Therefore, going to a party is less enjoyable because ironically they get less social interaction than if they were at home.

Here's a comparison from the hypothetical perspective of someone who struggles to communicate in person (I gave up after five criteria):

Online:
-Access to large numbers of people
-Access to wide variety of people
-Focus is on what is said, not appearances thus enabling them to communicate in a relaxed manner
-Easy to make oneself heard
-Easy to change who you are interacting with very rapidly

Party:
-Access to only a limited number of people
-Potentially limited audience i.e. from a particular area / social circle / age range etc
-Risk of being self-conscious about appearances etc thus stunting communication (conversely also risk of judging others based on appearances)
-Can be difficult to make yourself heard / 'get a word in' in larger groups
-Potentially awkward to switch attention rapidly between individuals

Basically the internet is a great leveller in terms of reducing the impact of poor social skills so it is hardly surprising that some people prefer it to environments that are more easily dominated by charismatic individuals.

edit: To answer the question, yes I like parties, but I feel sometimes uncomfortable in large groups of people I don't know very well. Small house party with close friends = Excellent [thankfully this is the norm these days!]; Dragged along to meet a dozen people I don't know = potentially awkward.
 
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Went to an office party years ago and it was ****ing awful. The office, as they tend to be, was split into various 'clicks' and no one spoke to each other. Left the second I could.

Went to my girlfriends office party this year and it was great. Everyone friendly and a great time was had by all. Also no one at our table liked red wine so had the free bottle to myself :D
 
Mr_White said:
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robgmun said:
To be fair I've know quite a few people like the 'extroverts' depicted here. insufferable retards every single last one of them. They've basically ruined Twitter and Facebook with their verbal diarrhoea, I swear they probably have panic attack if they're in a silent room for more then a couple of minutes
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I'll echo this. My brother is very different to me, highly sociable and always has to be around people. When he spends time alone for more than a few hours he ends up panicking.
 
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