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Burnsy2023

Burnsy2023

Burnsy2023

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Hypothetical situation:

You or your significant other find out that they are pregnant with a daughter.

What three career choices would you most like to see your daughter have when they are adult? The answer of "whatever they want" is good, but this is about what you would want.

Please be specific with actual job titles such as Nurse, Civil Engineer, Actress or Athlete. So keep supplies should be like:

  1. Peadiatric Nurse
  2. Civil Engineer
  3. Actress
 
I always wanted my oldest daughter to be a medical doctor of some description; without my direction she aspires to be a psychologist so pretty close to what I would have wanted.
 
something scientific, medical or technological. Something i find interesting that i could help them with in their earlier years, and learn from them/have interesting conversations about in later years.

But naturally the "whatever they want" is the way i'd go for actual parenting, but i'd probably encourage those paths.
 
Having just a had a daughter a few months ago, forensic science sounds exciting. Also perhaps something with maths or physics involved.
 
Hitman_Leon said:
I always wanted my oldest daughter to be a medical doctor of some description; without my direction she aspires to be a psychologist so pretty close to what I would have wanted.
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That's more what I was after. What about choice 2 and 3?

mrbios said:
something scientific, medical or technological. Something i find interesting that i could help them with in their earlier years, and learn from them/have interesting conversations about in later years.

But naturally the "whatever they want" is the way i'd go for actual parenting, but i'd probably encourage those paths.
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Can you be a bit more specific like below?

Theophany said:
Something in financial services.
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So financial accountant? Trader? Actuary? CEO?
 
Why does it matter that it is a "daughter" rather than "child"?

For me, whatever makes them happy and no difference if they are a boy or girl.
 
I think the main thing is steering them towards a good career (Note: This is not pushing them into something!) as if they are going to spend £50,000 at University then I'd be wanting it to be something worthwhile at somewhere reputable.
On the other hand, doing something vocational such as hairdressing, with the view of opening your old salon will net a good wage too.

Top three career choices that I'd want?
Well there would be loads to pick from, but:
1) Doctor/Nurse/Dentist - This is never an industry that will fizzle out. The money is good and the demand is always there. A part time dentist seems to be the perfect ratio of work-to-£.
2) Engineering - I am an engineer. My Dad is an engineer. Even when he was out of work he had a new job within 2 days. Best paid one is chemical engineering so I would say that.
3) Something vocational with ambition - Not just a worker on minimum wage, but have ambition to open your own salon/garage/franchise/office etc. I would not want her to be a cleaner on £6.50 per hour, I would want her to own the company or be regional manager or something.
 
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OpenToSuggestions said:
I think the main thing is steering them towards a good career (Note: This is not pushing them into something!) as if they are going to spend £50,000 at University then I'd be wanting it to be something worthwhile at somewhere reputable.
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Burnsy2023 said:
Please be specific with actual job titles such as Nurse, Civil Engineer, Actress or Athlete.
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I'd just project myself on to her, so science or engineering. More generally I would hope she chooses enjoyment ahead of financial reward. Also, as above, gender is irrelevant...

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Ok, let's go with something like

Theoretical physicist
Aerospace engineer
Architect
 
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Grrrrr said:
I'd just project myself on to her, so science or engineering. More generally I would hope she chooses enjoyment ahead of financial reward. Also, as above, gender is irrelevant...
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So a scientist and engineer (can you be more specific on the type of engineering or science?) what is the third?
 
farmer (modern) not old style. More small holding. Doing one thing very well rather than hundreds or thousands of Acres. Upton chili farm is a good example of what I mean a small farm, that does chilies, turns it into chili sauce, has a yearly festival, does tours etc.

2nd choice aeronautical/space engineer.

Third choice cheap low impact housing. Research, Design, build or something in and around it. Or more likely a campaigner to change the stupid buildings regs we have that force people into a certain lifestyle and debt. Apart from the lucky few, who live in forward thinking counties (mainly wales and Devon)

IE, my own failed aspirations.

I really wouldn't care what they do and wouldn't even suggest anything as long its not poon, modelling or the like.
 
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OpenToSuggestions said:
I think the main thing is steering them towards a good career (Note: This is not pushing them into something!) as if they are going to spend £50,000 at University then I'd be wanting it to be something worthwhile at somewhere reputable.
On the other hand, doing something vocational such as hairdressing, with the view of opening your old salon will net a good wage too.

Top three career choices that I'd want?
Well there would be loads to pick from, but:
1) Doctor/Nurse/Dentist - This is never an industry that will fizzle out. The money is good and the demand is always there. A part time dentist seems to be the perfect ratio of work-to-£.
2) Engineering - I am an engineer. My Dad is an engineer. Even when he was out of work he had a new job within 2 days. Best paid one is chemical engineering so I would say that.
3) Something vocational with ambition - Not just a worker on minimum wage, but have ambition to open your own salon/garage/franchise/office etc.
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Excellent. So I take it the third one would be an entrepreneur?
 
Doesn't specifying a particular job title or area for occupation run the risk that you're a) going to be massively disappointed if they don't follow it up, b) have no idea at this point whether it's even vaguely suitable for their aptitudes, c) might end up pushing them in a direction that doesn't make them happy.

Maybe it's because I don't have kids but having defined aspirations for your child before they're even born beyond perhaps "I'd like to see them succeed in something that makes them happy (and productive?)" seems a shade presumptuous and may even be trying to live your life through your child. Obviously the whatever they want and makes them happy option runs the risk of them having a career in something you despise e.g. drug dealing, porn etc but they might do that irrespective of your ideal goal for them.
 
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