Input on a Dilemma

Just to mix it up my mum has said she would be happy for me to go.
There isn't anything we can do for my dad at the moment as he will be in a medial coma for a while. Argh decisions
 
I would speak to my mum and family first. If they are OK with it then I would go. If your dad is in a coma then there wont be much you can do. I'm sure your dad wouldn't want you to miss your holiday but likewise he would want you to make sure your mum and family is OK.
 
Rainagul said:
Just to mix it up my mum has said she would be happy for me to go.
There isn't anything we can do for my dad at the moment as he will be in a medial coma for a while. Argh decisions
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Really your call then, you have to consider whether it's going to be weighing on your mind whilst your gone as in that case you probably won't enjoy the holiday if you go.

Also and without trying to be nasty, if there's even a chance that things might go pear shaped and his condition could deteriorate you have to weigh that up.
 
Windle said:
Really your call then, you have to consider whether it's going to be weighing on your mind whilst your gone as in that case you probably won't enjoy the holiday if you go.

Also and without trying to be nasty, if there's even a chance that things might go pear shaped and his condition could deteriorate you have to weigh that up.
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I know the holiday will do me well, I will have a heavy heart, but the experience will serve it's purpose to help me rest and get my head in a better place. Things like Skype will help keep communication as strong as it can be between my mother and I.

The issue with his health is that at this state everything is out of my control. I have no influence over good/bad things get. There wouldn't even be a doubt in my mind about staying if my dad was conscious and we could help in any shape or form. Currently we are allowed 5 minutes a day to see him. It's a tough waiting game currently with faith that the doctors are doing the best they can.
 
Personally, I know my dad would rather I went on the holiday than hang around and worry. He's just like that.

So I guess it depends on what you know your dad would want, and of course family reaction to your choice.

The earlier suggestion to contact the travel company and explain the situation is a good one. They may indeed be quite sympathetic.

Sorry to hear about this, also. Best wishes to you and yours.
 
First of all sorry to hear about what's happened, brain aneurysms scare the crap out of me, my mate lost his best friend to one and he was only in his early 20's.

As for advice I'd say it entirely depends on if you think you'll be able to enjoy the holiday to its fullest, if not I'd stay and wait for your dad to get better, hopefully get all/most of your money back and book up again for next year :)
 
Your mum will need some support and you're unlikely to be able to relax/enjoy the holiday with this on your mind. Check if you're covered by insurance for this.
 
Another option to consider might be to ask wherther you can rebook the holiday for a later date rather than asking for a refund now. The travel company might be more flexible if they are still getting your money.
 
If you are covered by insurance then cancel.

If not then go if he will be in a coma but stay if he is likely to be conscious.
 
Family have a habit of falling ill at the worst possible times sadly. My dad has a massive heart attack and stroke on New Years Eve '05/'06. Was queueing to watch Liverpool play West Brom at Anfield and just sold my ticket to a tout and jumped in a taxi.

Personally I would be contacting the travel company to try and get a refund under extenuating circumstances. Family should pull together in times like this. Your mum will be saying, "Go" because that is what mums do; she will likely be hoping for the opposite.
 
No dilemma for me, if it was my dad I would have cancelled straight away.

Doesn't matter what your mother said she will be running on auto-pilot at the moment, she will likely put on a brave face but you need to be around when everything catches up with her.

Sad news and hope he gets better OP, my worse fear is when I get the call regarding one of my parents but I know it's going to happen.
 
I'd say stay, claim on insurance if you can.

I lost my Dad in May 2012. He had a heart attack as he was walking to the station for work and was gone before the ambulance arrived.

If anything happened while you were away then you'd never forgive yourself for going.

Hope everything goes well for your dad and your family!
 
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