Homeschooling - Thoughts as a parent or child with experience?

[LateX'Dog]

I'd rather leave it to the professionals and support where I can. I have been amazed at how well they bought my son on in confidence in just two terms

Your a parent, to your child you are the best thing in the world. Just re read what you've wrote.

I have been amazed at how well they bought my son on in confidence in just two terms

For me that makes me sad, because you could have done that.

 

[Xordium]

For me that makes me sad, because you could have done that.

What is sad that you are deciding the future for a young life and you can't see that there is no way a parent can provide the experience of interacting with other of the same agegroup in a safe environment away from the coattails of their parents.

For the record (again) I have nothing against alternative forms of education and home schooling as long as they tick the boxes that are needed for good development - interaction away from parental influence being one of those - what I do have an issue is with parents following the latest fads when they haven't thought through the consequences or are basing their decisions on strawman arguments towards a system that doesn't do what they are proclaiming it does. Anyway bed for me because I have young children to take to their inadequate school, in the morning, that has magically bequeathed them abilities far beyond what I could ever perform at their age with a level of confidence I didn't acquire until far later.

 

[LateX'Dog]

So you are reliving your life through them

No, I'm stopping them from doing my mistakes of not living life.

So rather than allowing them the opportunity to go through their early lives like the bulk of society

So i should encourage my kid to aspire to own materialistic goods, because its what society does?

To treat people like objects, because its what society does?

To be confined by the box, because that's what society does?

To destroy family life, because that's what society does?

To work 9-5 in some mundane and pointless job, because that's what society does?

Hell no, I'm not going to stand back and let society push me to churn out another cog.

You may word it, twist it and contort it in what ever manor you want to make me look what ever way you want, i don't care.

I do not and will not let my children dissolve into the background of the 9-5 life, i will teach them that life is more then what society pushes upon you.

Those are two very hefty assumptions - both wrong. I want them to experience life but I am fully aware what it takes to personally do that. I also want them to understand they don't live in cloud cuckoo land.

I guess because i think differently to you i live in cloud cuckoo land. I don't care, because to me and others who think like me (Shock there are others), you are the one who lives in cloud cuckoo land.

Life is more then your contribution to society, if you don't understand this, then I'm sorry for you.

You have 1 life, 1 time on this planet to live it as you can, to be then told how to live it and conform to regulations, is to miss the point of life.

 

[dannyjo22]

For me that makes me sad, because you could have done that.

To a degree I have and my wife even more so. It's no harm to have properly trained people take that to another level, I'm talking confidence in academic subjects and himself.

Homeschooling would only get him to the level I'm at or just above. I want far more than that for my son.

 

[LateX'Dog]

What is sad that you are deciding the future for a young life and you can't see that there is no way a parent can provide the experience of interacting with other of the same agegroup in a safe environment away from the coattails of their parents.

Children have grown up for thousands of years without control, and thrived. Control is a method to keep our insecurities in check, to think there is a paedophile around every corner, that climbing a tree is going to kill your child or eating foods with mud on your hands will end in death.

Let your children be children, let them do what they do naturally.

 

[AndyCroft1982]

30% of children who have been home schooled turn out to be serial killers and sex offenders.

 

[LateX'Dog]

To a degree I have and my wife even more so. It's no harm to have properly trained people take that to another level, I'm talking confidence in academic subjects and himself.

Homeschooling would only get him to the level I'm at or just above. I want far more than that for my son.

If that's your families choice, then who am i (An uneducated lower class worker) to say otherwise.

Just i hope you don't forget that they are children and they will never get this time back again.

 

[LateX'Dog]

30% of children who have been home schooled turn out to be serial killers and sex offenders.

Holy wild statistic batman.

 

[AndyCroft1982]

50% of the time it works everytime

 

[Jumper118]

Would like to hear the thoughts of anyone has been home schooled or a parent who has home schooled or is presently doing so.

I am a parent finding the current school system to be nothing more than a political box ticking institution with educating a child being secondary to everything else.

box ticking. I loved seeing them not ticking dem boxes. Thats why i an c d e at as level, left after as and got an apprenticeship. They weren't having their everyone going to uni box ticked. My year was actually the first year where the results at as were lower than the year before. I played my part in that and so did my mate, he got 3 e's though and couldn't get an apprenticeship . I wouldn't want to be home schooled, but do make sure you tell your children that its all just box ticking and getting high in school grade tables.

 

[Em3bbs]

Yes. Not just Steiner / Montessori, but home schooling too.

She's enrolled our son in a Montessori Nursery.

Both of my sons are in a Montessori nursery. They aren't uncommon or anything unusual. Home schooling is completely different, in fact I'd say the complete opposite to sending your child to a Montessori. At a Montessori your child will be in a very social environment away from the parent where they learn to become independent.

 

[AndyCroft1982]

No, I'm stopping them from doing my mistakes of not living life.



So i should encourage my kid to aspire to own materialistic goods, because its what society does?

To treat people like objects, because its what society does? I DONT TREAT PEOPLE LIKE OBJECTS?

To be confined by the box, because that's what society does? EH?

To destroy family life, because that's what society does? I HAVENT DESTROYED MY FAMILY BECAUSE I LOVE THEM

To work 9-5 in some mundane and pointless job, because that's what society does? I WORK 4 ON 4 SHIFTS

Hell no, I'm not going to stand back and let society push me to churn out another cog. BE A BETTER PARENT THEN AND BRING THEM UP TO CHOOSE NOT TO BE THAT WAY THEN, IM SURE THEY CAN MAKE THEIR OWN MINDS UP

You may word it, twist it and contort it in what ever manor you want to make me look what ever way you want, i don't care.

I do not and will not let my children dissolve into the background of the 9-5 life, i will teach them that life is more then what society pushes upon you.

What if your children want to become a part of society? Sounds to me as though you are bitter and you want to force your children into thinking the same as you (which is ironic as you say society does that to people). The vast majority of people that go to school in the real world turn out to be decent humans. What has happened in your life to make you so bitter ? If everyone went round thinking like you there would be chaos.

 

[AndyCroft1982]

lectures at the "university of life" no doubt

 

[LateX'Dog]

What if your children want to become a part of society? Sounds to me as though you are bitter and you want to force your children into thinking the same as you (which is ironic as you say society does that to people). The vast majority of people that go to school in the real world turn out to be decent humans. What has happened in your life to make you so bitter ? If everyone went round thinking like you there would be chaos.

I'm not implying anyone who went to state schools are not decent people.

If that's my children's choice to be part of society, then that's their choice. I'll feel I've failed as a father, but ultimately that's their choice.

Nothing happened, just the realisation that life is short. And every day you do something you don't enjoy, you are wasting your time.

Experiences grow you as a person, are the tales you tell as you get older and inspire children. Not how much money you made last month.

 

[AndyCroft1982]

I'm not implying anyone who went to state schools are not decent people.

If that's my children's choice to be part of society, then that's their choice. I'll feel I've failed as a father, but ultimately that's their choice.

Nothing happened, just the realisation that life is short. And every day you do something you don't enjoy, you are wasting your time.

Experiences grow you as a person, are the tales you tell as you get older and inspire children. Not how much money you made last month.

Why would you have failed as a father if theychose to be part of society? Surely the fact they reached adult hood safe and sound and have the choice to make their own mind up would mean you did your job well ? Just because they dont see the world how you see it doesnt mean you have failed. If you forced your views on them and they felt they didnt have a choice then i would say you have failed.

I have a fun life with lots of tales i can tell my kids and yet i have a job and contribute to society. WHo do you think pays for the NHS and other free services that people can use ? Thats right its the 9 - 5 people contributing to society. If everyone went round doing what they wanted and not paying taxes then we wouldnt have services that benefit everyone. Im guessing you have used the NHS before?

 

[asim18]

Rubbish. There are plenty of other ways of doing it.

Erm, no. There's actually only one way of doing school. You cant simply replace five highly dynamic and amazing years-worth of school with some puny "special time".

Not to mention the absolutely huge list of contacts you can acquire just from attending school which can potentially be a massive advantage in later years.

 

[Xordium]

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You are presuming they will make the same mistakes as you.
You presume making mistakes is not a learning process in itself.
You still show no cognition of the current actual learning process.
You've history for making really bad judgement calls for your current child.
You don't listen to anyone else consistently attributing a position to them that you dislike rather than the one they have.
You obviously have never had to really be responsible for yourself and others and have subsisted on the gifts of others.
You stick your thumb up against a society you don't understand because that society or someone else has always had your back and you don't actually even comprehend how lucky you are.

Moreover, I would really love to know what aspects of living my life you feel I would have missed out on and that you have fully experienced. And I don't class sitting at home playing computer games living life.

 

[Xordium]

Erm, no. There's actually only one way of doing school. You cant simply replace five highly dynamic and amazing years-worth of school with some puny "special time".

One of the key advantages of schooling is that it forces children to interact with groups and peers that their parents may well not like them or desire them to actually be involved with this is kind a really good life experience in itself.

 

[Skidder]

The only people I know who were home schooled are a family of milky eyed, morally bankrupt, judgmental Mormons who are in an all sibling song and dance troop now. I kid you not.

Personally I am extremely happy with the school my eldest child is in, the teachers are enthusiastic and kind, parents are involved (e.g. I've been in to read to the kids), children seem to be progressing well educationally and socially. My boy was very shy around others before school and the SOCIAL aspect has, as expected, made huge improvements for him.

Home schooling is, in my not terribly humble opinion, a good way to break your loved ones.

 

[Skidder]

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