Are we pushing ourselves too much? Do you have time to relax?

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Over the last few days I've been thinking about just how much we lump upon our lives. At work we have many commitments, and sometimes one person can be doing two or three people's jobs. If they cut staff it puts more pressures on the workers but you have to do it because if you don't, someone else certainly will. Then there can be courses and training and out of work work and then you have your personal life, familial pressure, financial pressure, romantic pressure and priorities. For many of us, not a single hour of our life is spent doing nothing, but working for someone, something and trying to push ourselves more and more in the direction of either our future, or playing catch-up.

Are we pushing ourselves too much? Our phones now take emails, Facebook updates, Tweets, Skypes, WhatsCrapp and we are barely left alone for a minute without someone wanting something. During the working day we eat at our desks, or rushing between appointments, eating wraps while walking along train platforms or ready meals in the office, microwave dinners at home because there is no time to cook.

Where will this all end up? These days, in spite of having a busy life I try to take at least two hours a day to do nothing. Just listen to music and wind down. Is there anyone who doesn't have time to do that?
 
Feels like I don't have a second to breathe at the moment, as I'm currently coming to the end of my formal teaching for my Masters Degree, and am so bogged down in work. However, I find the best solution to this for me, is to do as much work and go full speed for several weeks, then take a week off and don't even think about work. Hence I have a holiday booked for 2 weeks time.

Would occasionally be nice to actually spend some time at home not just sleeping though I must admit!
 
Only if we choose to, the question is do you have the guts to be comfortable, happy and earn a little less. Or do you need to compete in the rat race to the top?

I have a comfortable job in IT, I know I am not the best paid for what I do but the work life balance that I enjoy is worth so much more to me than money.
 
I run, I can honestly say that without that outlet (its become an obsession to be honest) I would have struggled these last few years. I have literally zero down time at all other than when I run and sleep and I often don't sleep due to anxiety. As well as trying to running my own business and making it work, I'm doing my RIBA Part 2 at university and trying to finish a house renovation.
 
Who is this "we" which the OP speaks about? They may be like that but it doesn't mean that everybody is.

Yes i eat at my desk at lunchtime but that is more due to having a big screen and an internet connection. Doing three people's jobs and working all hours ... no, the company i work for has been looking at addressing people work/life balance. Flexitime means that I work the hours I want to which give me time to do what I want to outside work.

Facebook, Twitter, etc ... I'm on them but I don't check them all the time ... no point, if it's important and time urgent that people will get hold of me by other means ... otherwise it can wait till i get around to checking them (maybe twice a day at most).

None of it is a problem unless you let if become so and then you only have yourself to blame.
 
Some of the older guys at my workplace tell you about what it was like working here in the 70s and 80s. Going to the pub or home on a lunchtime and just a much more relaxed way of working. There was more than 3 times the number of people working at this site with a typing pool of girls just to type up your notes as this was before computers. Everything was posted out and took days to get correspondence back and nobody took work home.

There is a lot more pressure on everyone these days, I can feel the difference from the late 90s to now within my short working life. I think this is a result of globalisation and competition, we must do more faster and cheaper because if we don't someone else will.
 
I was reading an article about this about a year ago and the writer came to the conclusion that, comparitive to previous generations, we have more free time to ourselves now than ever. This basically comes down to the ease of day to day life we have access to (e.g. supermarkets open all hours, easy access to food, less working hours, less stress overall, less commuting issues (faster more capable motorways and cars) etc)).

Where I stand on the matter I don't know. I work 40 hours a week and study for 20 hours a week and I still don't feel that I am under any great deal of pressure. I guess I am able to switch off when I need to.
 
I go on holiday, enjoy quiet weekends (from time to time), and quiet evenings (from time to time) and go to the gym to escape from the "online" world. I also work hard, but don't work every hour that God gives me, so I balance my work and my life well. I push myself where I feel I need to, but am able to take a step back and relax and enjoy life too.

I feel I have free time, and am able to enjoy it. If I don't touch the computer in the evenings, I find myself much more time rich. Chatting to other half, reading a book, and just "switching off".

I choose to fill my life with activitiy, such as socialising, exercise and so on because I enjoy having things to do. That's what holidays are for and why I take several to be able to recharge. Furthermore, weekends are precious to me, as they are times where I can switch off without a worry.

The online world and connectivity is intrusive, but you have to learn to ignore it or switch those devices off.
 
If I choose to spend my evenings working, I do indeed feel like I need a break, so I don't spend my evenings working.

Perhaps my job isn't demanding enough, certainly feels it when I'm in work though.
 
I have enough free time
If I choose to study and work I can hardly moan. You can easy live on under 30k and not study etc.

However if I had a family I would lack enough free time I feel.
That is of course on classifying Kiddy stuff as not free time
 
Some of the older guys at my workplace tell you about what it was like working here in the 70s and 80s. Going to the pub or home on a lunchtime and just a much more relaxed way of working.

It's called progress apparently.

I also put it down to the fact that in order to be a home owner, most people require two full-time incomes. Things have become so incredibly expensive as earning power has risen.

Gone are the days where town shops closed on a Thursday afternoon and only opened Saturday mornings... having little to no time is one way to see this 'progress'.
 
Yeah my Dad was a shop owner and on a Wednesday he would have a half day and my mum and dad would pick me up from school and we would go to town or do something together. Also the shops were not open on a Sunday at all, it was a family day void of consumerism.

It's not like the old days...

/OLDMANMODE
 
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I don't want to derail but look at the person who is asking the question.
It must be very hard to relax when you have the belief system that everything is a conspiracy.
 
Used to work 50 hours a week over 5/6 days as a 20-something nipper, I would not want to do more than 30 now, even if my job was less physical.

Lower levels of unemployment (in theory)
Less jobs with low hourly (or even zero hour) contracts i.e. decent weekly wages for more people
More time with family
More time to enjoy life
More to to relax
etc. etc.
 
I make sure I get at least an hours downtime before I go to bed, whether it be listening to music or gaming or watching TV.

It is damn hard though. Get up at half six, shower, get ready for work, get the kid up, fed / nappy changed / dressed and ready, drop the missus off at the station, drive the kid to nursery, go to work, finish work, go and collect the kid from nursery, drive home, do the washing / cleaning, go and collect the missus from the station, drive back home, put the kid to bed, cook dinner, wash up, get sandwiches ready for the morning and get the kids bag ready for nursery the following day, spend half an hour of 'quality' time with the missus talking about our day before she gets her downtime by watching crap TV about 'real' housewives or fat people who do not know why they are fat or some other crap.

Then I go up to my bunker, sometimes with a beer, sometimes with two and I shut the door and browse the web and game or listen to music till it is bedtime at about half ten.

Rinse and repeat.
 
I've had to quit my day job just so I can have enough time to concentrate on my personal work as it was doing my head in trying to do them both. It was possible to do both but my mind was always racing and getting to sleep was difficult leaving me tired most days which it turn gave me less energy to even do the work. Once I've finished playing catchup I should be able to relax more easily.
 
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