Are we pushing ourselves too much? Do you have time to relax?

EddScott said:
Last year pretty much buried me.

From October 2012 this has been me.

Wife diagnosed with terminal cancer at 31 whilst 5 months pregnant.
2nd daughter born on 16th Nov by C Section. Wife has hip replacement on the 19th Nov.
Sold wifes hair dressing business in 5 weeks and paid off bank loan and got rid of retail lease of £12K pa on phone to solicitors and purchasers in hospital corridors.
From Oct 12 to Xmas - work from 9am to 1pm, drive to Swansea to be at beside and leave at 10pm. Repeat almost every day.
Wife in local hospital from March to August. All of 2013 looking after 12 year old and 15 month old and wife gradually needing 24/7 care.
Moved in June 2013 to house that could accommodate wifes needs.
Wife home September 9th 24/7 care arranged.
Wife admitted 9th October as her pain relief needs were not controlled at home - there was a risk I would kill her as I was administering morphine orally and via injection (all in front of 12 year old)
Died 18th October.
All through this time I continued to work in quite a high stress job as a financial adviser (love or loathe the profession its my career for good or ill)
I'm now juggling work, a 12 year old finding her feet in secondary school and all the issues a 12 year old girl has. A 15 month old toddler who sleeps most of the night but still wakes at 3am most nights for a bottle.
Evenings are filled with netball practice for the eldest, RC car racing for me, Funny handshakes (Masons) again for me!
I think Sunday night is pretty much the only night I can just sit as my mum has the youngest every Sunday night.
Have also started jogging 3 times a week as I quite fancy putting myself back on the market so want to get in shape. :)
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and i thought I had it bad just being in a low paying job, all be it very low, but you have just proven that i'm wrong. It won't change the fact that I wish I could earn just a little more.

I actually hope things work out for you. My hat is off to you man for surviving through an exceptionally tough time without folding into a mess on the floor like I would have likely done. True man XD
 
porushinobu said:
My hat is off to you man for surviving through an exceptionally tough time without folding into a mess on the floor like I would have likely done.
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You think you would fold and reading back my post anyone would be forgiven for thinking it would be too big an ask but you just do it. You have to. I had my moments for sure but I got through it so IMO anyone can.
 
EddScott said:
You think you would fold and reading back my post anyone would be forgiven for thinking it would be too big an ask but you just do it. You have to. I had my moments for sure but I got through it so IMO anyone can.
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It's true that I am probably assuming the worst from an outsiders perspective. But it's also true that I wouldn't truly know unless I went through a similar experience. Hopefully no of course.
 
If it wasn't for all this pressure, we wouldn't have it so sweet as consumers. Next day delivery in the 80s? lol!
 
krooton said:
If it wasn't for all this pressure, we wouldn't have it so sweet as consumers. Next day delivery in the 80s? lol!
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An oven which would last you 30 years and was built to be repaired was still possible in the 80's though, certainly in the 70's.

We don't have it sweet as consumers, in the short term things are cheaper and more convenient but in the long run they are much more expensive, poor quality, wasteful and time consuming.
 
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