Slapping Your Children

I would never, ever, hit my child. Simple.

I do not understand the thinking that an act of violence is the correct way to solve the issue, kind of see it as bad parenting tbh.

MikeTheNative said:
No, it's not okay to slap a fellow adult so why should it be allowed to do it to children?
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these days there's an invisible hammer that says 'if i do this <insert bad thing> then something bad will happen to me'

as adults this is just [for the most part] in our heads, but kids haven't learnt this so they need shown sometimes the idea of bad action=bad consequence. hence the whole concept of punishment.

whilst corporal punishment [smacking etc] isn't the most pc way of instilling this, it does work and some might say its the most effective. my personal view is its the only way for the harshest punishment, to absolutely instill in the child the lesson that something shouldnt be done. <insert got slapped as a kid and turned out ok paradigm here>
 
Doesn't fuss me, I was smacked as a child and I didn't grow up to be a crackhead. I've been quite successful actually.

When it comes to bad behavior it's all about aversion therapy - whether you use mental or physical pain induce pain to associate bad behavior with feeling bad and thus you get guilt. So I don't think any method is particularly good or bad in that respect.

I'm talking about getting a smacked bottom, not booting the kid in the face or whipping your belt off and leaving a mark.
 
Some parents don't understand the difference between slapping due to punishment or physical abuse of their child. Which seems to be a grey area.
 
The only time I've ever done it was when my 2yr old got into a habit of hitting either my wife or I around the face when he was having a tantrum. I warned him that if he kept hitting us, I would do it back to him. Cue several hits to my face from him and I gave the back of his hand a gentle hit. He carried on, so I gave him a harder hit (not enough to leave a mark, but enough to sting and cause him to cry).

Lo and behold, he doesn't do it anymore. He didn't understand that hitting someone hurt. I taught him that it did, he doesn't do it anymore.
 
pioneer2000 said:
People that smoke cannabis should be locked up for years.

Being caught drink driving should be a straight to jail offense with a minimum term sentence.

At least smacking has an actual defense in that it disciplines a child not to do wrong. The other two examples are totally pre-meditated, with no benefit to society.

In fact, the world has become a far worse place this generation, because of all this PC mumbo jumbo BS. The cane should be brought back to school also (even though nowadays the pupils would just pull a knife and stab their teachers!... cause THAT's the norm since everyone became so sensitive and weak).
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You know, smoking pot doesn't harm anyone else - unlike your other two examples. Why should you be locked up for that?

As for smacking children: it's a last resort of a parent failing to keep on top of their child. If you get to that stage, you've failed. Do I smack my kids? Very occasionally yes, and that's a weakness of my parenting.

I don't actually think the smack is harmful to the child, but I do think the parenting failure which it signposts actually is (even if only a little bit). If you find yourself smacking a lot, you are failing a lot, and are harming a lot.
 
I think it's different now days given the the generation change from like my days of old fashioned values where the belt was brought out as a deterrent to show that's what you get if you step out of line, look at the past with caning in schools it brought discipline, not saying that was right mind you.
 
pioneer2000 said:
People that smoke cannabis should be locked up for years.

Being caught drink driving should be a straight to jail offense with a minimum term sentence.

At least smacking has an actual defense in that it disciplines a child not to do wrong. The other two examples are totally pre-meditated, with no benefit to society.

In fact, the world has become a far worse place this generation, because of all this PC mumbo jumbo BS. The cane should be brought back to school also (even though nowadays the pupils would just pull a knife and stab their teachers!... cause THAT's the norm since everyone became so sensitive and weak).
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why do i get the feeling you're quite young...

B@
 
A smack across the bum is fine as long as its intention and force is consistent with discipline.

No point blackening the eye of a child as thats just child abuse.

I was given a smacked arse when I was a young kid and it made me think twice about doing something stupid afterwards.

It should only be a punishment and not a full on physical assault
 
Slap can be quite broad. A little flick on the side of the head with back of the hand, sure, but full on slap across the face? Definitely not.

I was brought up with discipline the physical way and it was definitely an interesting way to learn right from wrong :p
 
pioneer2000 said:
If it's your child, what's it to do with anyone else!
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Couldn't you apply that principle to any justify any aspect of a parents behaviour towards their child? Including sexual abuse.

I hope you can see from that example that sometimes what a person does with their child is very much the business of any decent person.
 
I was spanked when i was a kid and i think it made me a better person in the long run. I don't look back and think that my father was a horrible man.
 
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