Slapping Your Children

I think there is a world of difference between beating a child and disciplining a child. One of the problems in today's society, is that the healthy fear factor that used to co-exist between child and parent / police / authority has been eroded (purposely imo) by law makers. I was smacked twice during childhood, and it never did me any harm. However, I think the problem that does remain is knowing whether or not a parent will abuse or not. On one hand, the way of things today and the future (the state taking more control of peoples' lives) means that abuse will likely be reduced, which can only be a good thing. On the other side, with freedoms being restricted means that the state is becoming the real parent. There is no perfect solution...because we are here to learn...nothing more.
 
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Slapping was the first port of call for my mother when I was a child, over any slight misdemeanour. She once slapped my 12 year old sister across the face so hard the mark was visible days later, and bruised her cheekbone, because my sister 'answered her back'.

There is a world of difference between that and a tap on the bottom/hand, and I have smacked my daughter's bottom when she has misbehaved.
 
there seems to be a big gap in peoples idea of what giving your child a slap is.

some people think they are elbow dropping kids and throwing them threw a window
and the other is a light slap

there is a big difference between throwing a hay maker and giving them a stingy butt.
 
arc@css said:
^^ :)

I see nothing wrong with that at all.
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Personally I would reread it then because even if I agreed with hitting children (which I don't) there are multiple ways that situation could have been improved (the glory of hindsight of course).
 
Theophany said:
This I would pay to see. Especially if the child in question were one of those irritating, screamy little scrotes that seem to be on trains, boats and planes whenever I am.
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my dads favourite thing to say was.

Feed it or drown it, just shut it up. as you can imagine the responses were pretty great
 
I think the discussion around smacking isn't actually that important, I think the context of good parenting is much more relevant here.

LateX'Dog mentioned that he had an abusive and uncomfortable childhood, which is sad to hear. Whilst I sympathise with that, I think smacking was just a symptom of a wider issue of abusive and neglectful parenting.

I would be surprised if smacking was the only form of abuse (and smacking can be abusive no doubt), constant verbal attacks can be just as if not more damaging as it can be more acute without raising suspicions of other people. There are many forms of child abuse, neglect is also a big issue. Whilst things that parents do can be damaging, the things they don't do can be just as damaging.

You can get good parents that raise decent and happy children who do smack their children. I don't think anyone can argue against that. On the other hand perhaps parents who smack their children correlate to be more likely to abuse their children because they either lose their cool or simply don't know of any other options. I think perhaps the latter is correct, but lets not make causal judgements where there shouldn't be any.
 
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