After 7 years, I think it's about time...
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One of my friends attempted to do the same thing, except when they were going to go for the walk it started to absolutely hammer it down. She refused to go for the walk...so he just had to propose in the car!!
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I've noticed on similar threads in the past, there are a lot of anti-marriage people on this forum.
It's not doing much for the socially awkward gamergeek stereotype.
I think that the anti-marriage people are just more vocal, also they don't seem to realise that they could change. I can't ever imagine me getting married at the moment but I can't totally rule it out.
I've noticed on similar threads in the past, there are a lot of anti-marriage people on this forum.
It's not doing much for the socially awkward gamergeek stereotype.
>yfw all GD'ers are master pickup artists who bang 7 different women every night
and then kill them afterwards to get the money back because it's the done thing and also GTA 5
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I did it in Paris as it's my home town, so meant a lot to me, and she really likes Paris so has some meaning to the both of us. However I threw her off the sent by taking her away on a few little trips (Prague and so on).
It would be good to go somewhere where you can return in the future for the sake of a bit of romance
Don't feel you have to do something OTT, do something that feels right to you - I know someone who did it in their lounge and the build up was quite romantic - but it's the context/situation that counts.
Good luck - it's a great feeling!
(even better once you're married!).
It would be good to go somewhere where you can return in the future for the sake of a bit of romance
Don't feel you have to do something OTT, do something that feels right to you - I know someone who did it in their lounge and the build up was quite romantic - but it's the context/situation that counts.
Good luck - it's a great feeling!
(even better once you're married!).
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It's not necessarily asking permission, it's just showing a bit of respect and wanting to join the family. What's wrong with that? Especially if you know the family it shouldn't be a big deal anyway. Yes it may be "old fashioned" but it's a worthwhile tradition in my opinion.
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Pah! I had the ring custom designed and made specifically for her - you gotta be bold and brave in this life
When I got engaged to my wife I spoke to her parents (had to do it on the phone for a variety of reasons but would hav preferred to do it face to face) before I asked her. This wasn't a permission thing, it was more a simple case of being polite and informing them of my intent. They and my wife were both so very pleased and it remains a huge Brownie Points win for me to this day. I think you'd be a fool to miss this step out if her family aren't specifically against it.
As for the proposal, I went to work as normal then turned around, waited until she'd left the house and snuck back in to get suited and booted. She was out walking the dog with all her close friends and afterwards dropped into the cafe for a quick coffee to find me on one knee with a tanzanite ring. Nothing fancy but it suited her (and us) perfectly.
As for the proposal, I went to work as normal then turned around, waited until she'd left the house and snuck back in to get suited and booted. She was out walking the dog with all her close friends and afterwards dropped into the cafe for a quick coffee to find me on one knee with a tanzanite ring.
Nothing fancy but it suited her (and us) perfectly.Rather than asking permission, perhaps the OP is going to ask for the father's blessing? My brother did that and FIL was well chuffed.
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Indeed, and it's just a good traditional thing to do rather than anything else. Also it helps you make up your mind for sure that you're ready to do it if you're able to ask him!
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How likely I would ask the father is directly related to how 'well off' he was and how likely he would be to contribute to the cost of the wedding.
I would be willing to exchange an uncomfortable conversation with all of the out-dated chattel, in exchange for thousands of pounds (or tens of thousands if you're really lucky).
I would be willing to exchange an uncomfortable conversation with all of the out-dated chattel, in exchange for thousands of pounds (or tens of thousands if you're really lucky).
When I got engaged to my wife I spoke to her parents (had to do it on the phone for a variety of reasons but would hav preferred to do it face to face) before I asked her. This wasn't a permission thing, it was more a simple case of being polite and informing them of my intent. They and my wife were both so very pleased and it remains a huge Brownie Points win for me to this day. I think you'd be a fool to miss this step out if her family aren't specifically against it.
As for the proposal, I went to work as normal then turned around, waited until she'd left the house and snuck back in to get suited and booted. She was out walking the dog with all her close friends and afterwards dropped into the cafe for a quick coffee to find me on one knee with a tanzanite ring.
yeah, my wife's father was exceedingly happy that I asked for his permission. he then did this whole "meet the fockers" thing and invited me into the family circle of trust
Marriage is not just about the connection between the husband and wife but joining 2 families togther
Indeed, it is like a practice run for the real thing. You have to commit to asking her father. Once that is done asking the GF is a straightforward progression.
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Yes, a mistake I made! oopps
With the ring I knew the missus would want a say in it as she doesn't trust me to make the right choice in these types of matters. I picked a ring in my own mind and then once I proposed I took her straight down to the shop to get her to choose, shop owner put the ring I chose as one of the options, she quite liked it and then once I told her that was the one I'd originally picked out then it was a winner! (Doubly so for me as it was 1/2 the price of the other ones!!)
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Exactly. I don't think I'd ever get married because I see it as a gigantic waste of money that changes literally nothing, and any couple would be better off putting the money toward kids educations or a house deposit.
BUT if it was a choice between splitting up and spending 20 minutes at the registry office and then a knees up in the pub after with sandwiches. Then I'd just do it to shut her up.
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We was together for 8 years, thought being 30 was a good time so I bought the ring, got home from work, plonked the ring on the side and walked upstairs to have a shower
Got downstairs, she said "is this what i think it is?"
I then said "yeah, will you marry me"
JOB DONE
We then celebrated by ordering a pizza hut takeaway... None of this fancy posh meal, top of empire state nonsense
Disclaimer: all of what i said is true...
Still married now, got a beautiful daughter and couldnt be happier. can't vouch for her feeling the same though haha
Suunds like me
We were round a friends for a party, I got a bit tipsy, blurted it out while she was sat on my knee. She said yes but in the morning she asked if I remembered what I said the night before (I wasn't that drunk!) and I said sure, shall we go an pick you a ring?
Oh and as to this ******** about 1x months salary - she picked a ring for £300 and I was earning £2k a month at the time (I was only 23). Still very happily married 11 years later with three lovely kids.
OP - if she loves you, she'll say yes no matter how or when you ask her and if she looks unhappy about the cost of the ring she's not the one. I do agree with other posters though - let them pick the style as it's a very personal choice. Just go to a jewlers before hand, pick a sample of different style rings and say to her - "these are the rings I can afford - what one do you like the most"?
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Indeed I don't understand why people stipulate what you must spend... spend what you feel you can afford, or feel is sensible. We all earn different amounts and have different values on things. Do what suits you and don't succumb to petty internet bravado.