brothers wedding dilema

If it was just a friend then I would say don't go. But it is your brother and is therefore very important. Go for the minimum time possible.
 
I certainly wouldn't have left my wife for a few days within 6 weeks of birth. An overnight trip perhaps but certainly no more, and not to a foreign country where there is a risk of further flight delays.

You brother would have known the expected deliver date for a long time and would have had plenty of opportunity to either delay the wedding by a couple of months or move it closer to home so you and your family could easily attend if he really wanted you there, or accepted the timing wouldn't work out.

You don't really give many details but the only way I see this happening is if the foreign location is Europe, has god flight connections, and you flight out the morning of the wedding and fly back on the first flight the next day. Furthermore, excuse yourself from bestman duties in case something was to crop up (illness of mother or child etc.) forcing you to cancel the trip.
 
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Domi said:
You do not say how far away the wedding is.

For me though if you can fly out do the wedding and come straight back so 3 days tops then you should do so.

Assuming of course the baby is fine and your wife has support at home of some sort.
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Got to agree with Domi here. If your wife and mother in law aren't agreeable with this, you've got major problems on your hands.
 
IT's your brother's wedding, you're the best man. Yes it will be tough on your wife, but it's not fair for her to use emotional blackmail on you. If you want to go, go. Don't take the mick and stay for weeks, but go there, do your bit, and come back. I'd be astounded if she were to have issues with that. I'm assuming the wedding date was planned before he knew you were expecting a child?
 
Just go. She'll cope for a couple of days. Heck bring her and the baby along if you really have to.

Was the wedding planned before they knew of your incoming new arrival?
 
Based on that I would say a 2 night stay would be perfectly reasonable, its your brothers wedding not a lads holiday.

How old is your baby? Surely the mum and her parents would like some time with the baby too?
 
As you said there are daily flights. You can fly out day before the wedding and come back day after. You'd be gone for lest then 3 days.
 
Freefaller said:
IT's your brother's wedding, you're the best man. Yes it will be tough on your wife, but it's not fair for her to use emotional blackmail on you. If you want to go, go. Don't take the mick and stay for weeks, but go there, do your bit, and come back. I'd be astounded if she were to have issues with that. I'm assuming the wedding date was planned before he knew you were expecting a child?
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We can assume all we like, I asked the questions in this thread twice, the OP has been back into the thread and replied and gave absolutely no further info.

When was the wedding arranged?
How long until the wedding?
He has said Cyprus with daily flights.
So he can be there and back the day after the wedding, one night away, or two at most if he wants. I don't see the issue if this wedding has been arranged for ages. If however the brother decided a couple of weeks ago that he's going to get married, that is somewhat different.

OP also said s parents already live in Cyprus, so he can drop in and out of accommodation easily.
 
You say you have kids so this is not your first?

As others have said, perhaps offer to take the other kids to relieve the burden on your wife, MIL and baby?

Surely the MIL can help out for a couple of days?

If this is the second you should all know what you're doing?

I think they're both being a little bit selfish - if it were a mate, maybe I would understand, but family? Hmm... doesn't she like him? :confused:

BB x
 
It is your brother's wedding and you are his best man. As annoyed as your wife may be, imagine how your brother will feel if his best man and brother pulls out.

Ignore your mother in law, that's a lose lose situation anyhow.
 
Hikari Kisugi said:
We can assume all we like, I asked the questions in this thread twice, the OP has been back into the thread and replied and gave absolutely no further info.

When was the wedding arranged?
How long until the wedding?
He has said Cyprus with daily flights.
So he can be there and back the day after the wedding, one night away, or two at most if he wants. I don't see the issue if this wedding has been arranged for ages. If however the brother decided a couple of weeks ago that he's going to get married, that is somewhat different.

OP also said s parents already live in Cyprus, so he can drop in and out of accommodation easily.
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Indeed. To be fair even if it was a last minute wedding, family is family. A couple of days is not a big deal.
 
Go for the wedding only, fly straight back when it's done and you've recovered from the party. ;) Can't she get her mother to stay while you're there? It's not exactly like you're leaving her stranded for a lads weekend.
 
I was the best man at my brothers wedding around 20 years ago. It was one of the best days of my life.

You Must go, you may never have the chance again.

My brother died of pancreatic cancer three years ago, aged 48.
 
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