brothers wedding dilema

Your wife has "new mum" frantic emotions on the go. New mums get that way at times. It's your brother, if your wife doesn't want you to go it's a little selfish imo.
 
Do a deal, you take the kids + go over to the wedding, she can go see some familiy with the kids and you can spend some time with the new one a couple of weeks later.
 
Is this usual behaviour from your wife? The first few weeks are really tough on everyone and hormones can be all over the place but does this seem normal? As someone who has experienced a tough first year, just keep an eye on how she's doing. PM me if I'm being too cryptic

Also, as others have said, why did your brother pick this date?!
 
GSVBagpuss said:
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Also, as others have said, why did your brother pick this date?!
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The wedding could have easily been planned over nine months ago, well before the OP's wife conceived. If it had been, the more important question might be, "why did the OP and/or his wife not delay sexual relations until it was pretty-much a given that his wife would give birth AFTER the wedding?!"
 
I would tell my wife that I cannot miss my brother's wedding and that I'll be there and back in less than two days, this is non-negotiable so perhaps your mother can help out if she's so concerned?
 
We did warn my brother we were trying for a baby, he announced his wedding last december, and couple of weeks later we found out we were pregnant.

My wife isn't really keen on my family, she keeps referring to "they knew we were trying for a baby". Now if the wedding was early next year etc she wouldn't have a problem and we all could go.
 
welshboy said:
We did warn my brother we were trying for a baby, he announced his wedding last december, and couple of weeks later we found out we were pregnant.

My wife isn't really keen on my family, she keeps referring to "they knew we were trying for a baby". Now if the wedding was early next year etc she wouldn't have a problem and we all could go.
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It sounds like she's just a bit bitter. I suggest you go and make up for it later.
 
This is the sort of crazy that you should find out about before getting married and having kids.

Do let us know if you rediscover your manhood.
 
Dude just go. She will get over it. Push through the moaning and go to your brother's wedding. Be as supportive as you can, but explain that this is important and you have to go. You'll be back as quickly as you can to help her etc.
 
Sounds like it'll be a happy marriage if mother-in-law and wifey are manipulating you already.

They'll have you tied to a pole in lipstick and lingerie in no time.
 
Sod the mother in law, you're married to her daughter, not her.

Also you should be talking to your wife about this, not internetz people :) - We don't know your wife it's easy for one of us to say "just go" or "Bro's before Ho's" etc but we're not in that position and we don't know her.

Think about what's most important to you? Marriage is such an overblown thing by culture in this country it amazes me. If it were me I'd probably say no to the brother and be there for my wife and son, marriage is just another day, a piece of paper and a ring on a finger. There will be others going who don't have the same responsibilities as you.
 
welshboy said:
We did warn my brother we were trying for a baby, he announced his wedding last december, and couple of weeks later we found out we were pregnant.

My wife isn't really keen on my family, she keeps referring to "they knew we were trying for a baby". Now if the wedding was early next year etc she wouldn't have a problem and we all could go.
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Damn your brother for not planning his wedding around you both having a baby. He should have waited until he knew exactly when your baby was born then planned the wedding for a future date when the baby was settled and when you and your misses where available :rolleyes:

In reality how can your brother plan for these things he cant and to expect someone to put a wedding off based on that information is stupid. Remember he and his future wife have a life as well. If you misses doesn't get on with them I would say that's more then issue.

Personally I would make every effort to go. I have 3 children and my wife would have no issue with this given that my youngest is just 6 months old I'm still in the sleepless night stage sometimes. I and my wife have both been away taking turns to look after the children on our own its what grown ups do share the load so the others can do stuff when possible.

A way to maybe get pass this is to say to the wife that your always look after the baby so her and the evil mother-in-law can go away for a spa day somewhere :p
 
He has a perfectly normal and healthy newborn. The mother and mother in law will be able to cope fine for a couple of days.
 
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