Ok.
So my brother gets married in a few weeks abroad, and he's asked me to be his best man which is great.
However ive just had a newborn baby in the last couple of weeks meaning the wife and kids can't fly out obviously.
Now the wife has said its my decision to go or not, but I can tell she's really not happy with the thought of me going and so is the mother-in-law.
The parents/brother etc are obviously gutted and have even looked at just coming out for the a few days just for the wedding and returning, all my side of the family will be there.
What would you do?
More details would be great as this doesnt really explain a lot other then your wife isnt really supporting you going.
Why cant you all go now?? The baby is old enough to fly. I have many friends who have been away with new borns 2 weeks old +.
Then NHS advice is as follows:
Some airlines permit babies who are two days old to fly, whereas others will only allow babies who are at least two weeks on board.
There are no specific regulations regarding this matter so check with your airline before booking. In some cases, if your baby is less than two week old, you may be asked to provide a letter from your GP stating that they are fit to fly.
Obvisouly without extra details such as did your wife had a caesarean its hard to know if this sugguestion is a moot point anyway.
Is your other child/children of school age and is this another reason why you cant all go?
Does your brother live abroad or has he choosen to get married abroad but lives in the UK?
If he and his wife live in the UK and have choosen to get married abroad you shouldnt feel obliged to go, and they should be fully understanding if you say no that you cant go. I know hes your brother, but your also his brother, this works both ways, yet he has put the burden fully with you and said "right bro i am getting married, i want you to be the best man, and by the way we are getting married aboard a few weeks after you have just had another child"
You say he started planning the wedding in december, and your wife had a baby a few weeks ago, well by my maths she was pregnant around the same time that this all came about. You would have known about the baby very soon after, or even before being asked to be best man so you have had ample opportunity to make a decision on saying yes or no to your brother with bags of time for him to choose someone else had you said no.
Based on the limited informaiton given, my own thoughts would have been as follows:
I would go, and i would take my wife and the kids along as well.
I would have asked my brother if he wouldnt mind having a 2nd best man as you may have to pull out at the last minute if there were any complications with the baby birth or post natal period.
I would not go alone, but that is my personal preference I would rather be with my wife and new born child and sharing any other special moments in my life right now with them, if that means staying at home then I would do that, and i would expect my brother to be fully understanding.
If however it turns out that your wife wouldnt have gone regardless of new baby or not, then your wife needs to grow up and learn to get along with your family, like you undoubtley have learned to get along with hers, and I would go regardless of her poor attitude. If she loves you then she would realise that it is her in the wrong on this one.
Details man we need more details.
Surely that would upset the wife more!!!
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