Single dads - What's your agreement?

[Haggisman]

I'm in the process of writing an agreement with my soon to be ex

This is what I'm suggesting:

I pay CSA calculated amount (works out about 15% of take home pay) monthly (minus half my travel costs - she's moving half way across the country, don't see why I should have to foot the whole bill for that), plus 20% of any bonuses I get.

I get to see him:

• At least fortnightly weekends, from 9am Saturday morning until 6pm Sunday evening.
• At least 3 periods of 7 days per year.
• Alternating Christmases.
• To leave the country for holidays abroad where agreed in advance (agreement not to be unreasonably withheld).
• Visits on his birthday.

If she doesn't agree then I'll be applying for residence

 

[Bickaxe]

The CSA have been dissolved and replaced by the CMS. Whether they are fair or not remains to be seen.

Had no contact from them for 3 years. They take straight from my pay (I prefer this method).
I didn't know they were going to do that and how much until I got my first pay packet with the deductions though.

Works out that they take 35% of what I earn. I pay for my daughter voluntarily.

Good thing I have a partner who takes care of all the household bills really.

 

[Wazz-1]

I have my two (8 & 15 years) one week at mine and one week with their mum and pay nothing regularly, just when they need school stuff or clothes etc.

 

[Arthur Hucksake]

Thing that really gets me, is when the father is paying child support and she moves another fella in on a higher wage.
Feminists say that is empowering. Goes a long way towards explaining the high suicide rates in men aged 20-49 in this country.

 

[DannyDrama]

Thing that really gets me, is when the father is paying child support and she moves another fella in on a higher wage.
Feminists say that is empowering. Goes a long way towards explaining the high suicide rates in men aged 20-49 in this country.

Empowering to have two blokes paying for your kids? How about bare faced cheek?

 

[cheesyboy]

Thing that really gets me, is when the father is paying child support and she moves another fella in on a higher wage.
Feminists say that is empowering. Goes a long way towards explaining the high suicide rates in men aged 20-49 in this country.

Show me where.

It's simply fairness. Why shouldn't a guy continue to pay towards his children's upbringing?

In any case, it would be pretty humiliating, for me, if I had to rely on some other guy to pay for my kids anyway.

 

[porushinobu]

Show me where.

It's simply fairness. Why shouldn't a guy continue to pay towards his children's upbringing?

In any case, it would be pretty humiliating, for me, if I had to rely on some other guy to pay for my kids anyway.

well if you barely see them and they become more estranged with you over time I can understand to some degree when another man moves in with the ex. the estrangement will get worse and you will be paying for kids who dont know you while someone else is already supporting them. But yes I agree in the fact that even if you are not with your kids, ensuring they have a worthwhile future is paramount importance to any parent (at least it should be)