So my bro in law has just left my sister

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So my sister is 7 months pregnant, her husband out of the blue says he's leaving, blames their relationship saying it isn't working anymore and wants out, no indicators what so ever. He spent the last two weekends with mates. He even helped me move about a month ago and everything seemed ok. Now he's being a total douche and my sister is in bits. Today he's said I'm giving notice on house and don't worry you can get a council house, wtf? They have been together for 8 years he was even the best man at my wedding.

I'm thinking he's having a breakdown or he's cheating. My sister has nothing only a contract job because he's always earned really good money etc. I want to think of the best way to find out for her what's going on, I know where he works etc. but she doesn't know any of his passwords as he works in IT and they are all hard to remember. Ideally I want his icloud so I can gps him

Help me OCUK detectives
 
Why are you getting involved ?

It's her problems and her relationship. How do you know she isn't having the affair and it's not his baby.

Don't get involved in other peoples relationships - even close family - you will be the worst in the world - and for all you know they could get back together and disown you completely.

And as for expecting the Forum to get info on him........ what is that about ? This isn't 4chan.
 
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Heliospherez said:
Why are you getting involved ?

It's her problems and her relationship. How do you know she isn't having the affair and it's not his baby.
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Because they both came over to tell me that they were expecting being all happy about it about six months ago

Im getting involved as its my little sister and it's my family who will have to support her and pick up the pieces
 
Its difficult getting involved in something like this, especially if you go shouting your mouth off and it all gets resolved.

Women who are pregnant can be, challenging, to be around. He's probably having a funny 5 minutes and just needs to chill.
 
MrMoonX said:
I'm thinking he's having a breakdown or he's cheating. My sister has nothing only a contract job because he's always earned really good money etc. I want to think of the best way to find out for her what's going on, I know where he works etc. but she doesn't know any of his passwords as he works in IT and they are all hard to remember. Ideally I want his icloud so I can gps him

Help me OCUK detectives
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I don't think this is how you improve either of the things you suspect about him.
 
I understand your protective instincts, etc. but going through his online accounts and/or tracking his gps is stepping over a line.

Sounds to me like hes had a breakdown of some kind. Someone at work went through similar with her husband (out of the blue he left her, tried to sell the house, handed in his notice at work, wanted a divorce, etc. spent quite a lot of time in a hospice but a couple of years later hes pretty much recovered fortunately). Would really need to know the person to know if it was that or not though.
 
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I know there's family and all.... but.... keep yer nose out. Whatever you do to interfere right now will only make things a lot worse.
 
If married and pregnant and he has a good job and paying for a house she will be quids in wont she?.

Child benefit plus his payments for the child plus usually half the house? So at least she should not struggle financially.
 
Heliospherez said:
Why are you getting involved ?

It's her problems and her relationship. How do you know she isn't having the affair and it's not his baby.

Don't get involved in other peoples relationships - even close family - you will be the worst in the world - and for all you know they could get back together and disown you completely.

And as for expecting the Forum to get info on him........ what is that about ? This isn't 4chan.
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This is some of the best advice ever.
Be there for your Sister but keep out of it.
There are always two sides to every story.
 
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