Uni halls - Flatmate moving in boyfriend

It's obvious that she wouldn't of moved him into the houseshare unless it was the only practical option, the poor guy needs to land on his feet, get a job etc. and he's having to live with a bunch of wild animals like you lot, so I feel sorry for the guy personally.

Yes the girlfriend sounds like an absolute ****, but it's fairly standard in student halls, she's not your friend, she doesn't give a crap about a small inconvenience to everyone, she is probably smitten.

Now, your flatmates have spoken, it's not such a big deal in a student house, they wish to keep the peace and not antagonize her, which depending on how long you have to live there is probably the most sensible option (ie. why make it worse than it already is).

Something tells me she & her boyfriend will be the ones making a lot of the conflict especially if he speaks no english and they are both acting anti-social, he doesn't drink etc. So the best course of action would be to actually be nice to them and considerate of their situation, it's very easy to make enemies with people in awkward situations, much harder to be patient, turn it around into something positive, then again you may already hate her and are just looking for an excuse to get rid of her.
 
Had a similar thing happen in my first year. I initially didn't like the guy, but now we are great mates.

Honestly I would just chill out. The university is going to find it very hard to prove that he is living there and you won't get anywhere chasing this.

As others have suggested, just enjoy you're third year and don't let this get under your skin. Go for a drink with him, might surprise you.
 
colzboppo said:
It's obvious that she wouldn't of moved him into the houseshare unless it was the only practical option
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Or she's a selfish little **** with no consideration for her flatmates and is only interested in having her fun with "Juan" :p

colzboppo said:
the best course of action would be to actually be nice to them
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This would probably work. Be nice to them both. Overly nice, to the point of creepiness. Then continue being nice to them, until they think you're grooming them for something.
 
I someone did this in 'halls' in 1st year when I was in uni I really wouldn't care... then again 'halls' for me was more if a proper halls... diff blocks, corridors with student rooms... sinks in rooms and shared shower facilities down the corridor... kitchen was there for making tea/coffee and socialising as it was a catered deal with meals provided in the cafeteria.

If someone had moved a gf in then it would just mean one more shower being occupied in the morning... as there were 5 of them in a row there was always one free anyway. The extra guest wouldn't have access to food, would have trouble getting access to the block too.

It sound more like the OP has a self catered flat... if you're sharing a kitchen that u actually need for cooking and/or you have limited shower facilities etc.. then it could be an issue.
 
I wouldn't expect to go in a 5 seater car to find 6 people there. It's not unreasonable at all to expect the same from a flat.

Rainagul said:
As others have suggested, just enjoy you're third year and don't let this get under your skin. Go for a drink with him, might surprise you.
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Misses the point about the guy not drinking and not speaking English.
 
Personally, I wouldn't worry about it. Unless he starts causing trouble/stress. Then get on with your life, like they are trying to get on with theirs.

Don't be that annoying ***** who whines all the time. Not worth the hassle. Hand him a beer and welcome him.
 
My god this would make me so mad.. Not because the small affect of him in the room, but the courtesy. Consider what would happen if you all let someone stay in your room.
Since she has without asking, and you all did it would be a nightmare.

My flatmate in a 2bed place moved his GF in and I said NO, he ignored me and they stayed in there room constantly. It was hell, went from playing PS3 as friends to strangers.
I wish I'd moved out straight away but I was contracted in and for the easy life ignored it.

I would tell the managers, specially since he can't speak a word of English, and I can't make friends with him. The silences and awkwardness would be unbearable.
 
ChroniC said:
My god this would make me so mad.. Not because the small affect of him in the room, but the courtesy. Consider what would happen if you all let someone stay in your room.
Since she has without asking, and you all did it would be a nightmare.

My flatmate in a 2bed place moved his GF in and I said NO, he ignored me and they stayed in there room constantly. It was hell, went from playing PS3 as friends to strangers.
I wish I'd moved out straight away but I was contracted in and for the easy life ignored it.

I would tell the managers, specially since he can't speak a word of English, and I can't make friends with him. The silences and awkwardness would be unbearable.
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Not sure if serious...
 
deuse said:
So you know this man and trust him with your sister ect? I think that's a no. Now grow up.

I bet people thought that Arnis Zalkalns was a nice guy and look how wrong they was ;)
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There is a place that exists between assuming a person is a murderer/paedophile & one hundred percent trust.
 
I'm deadly serious, I ****** hate people taking liberties, it get sooo on my nerves.
Treat people how you'd want to be treated. SO you should expect everyone to move in their other halves, or not move yours in at all.
 
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They say they'll be out by summer. Tell them to be so. Is this guy a foreign student whose studying there? Or just a migrant who's dossing in student digs (where he won't be listed as a student, or even on any paperwork, so no need to pay tax for him)? I'd be ****ed as a landlord though. If I rent out rooms as single occupancy and someone moves a cohabitor in without telling me and something happens, how ****ed would I be from a liability stand point? Would I have the Uni and various agencies breathing down my neck looking to know if I was over letting properties?
 
If they are not contributing extra to paying utilities/rent then speak to the manager. You also have to consider things like fire evac, if you guys are the only ones that knows he is there if there is an incident no one would know to look for him. Also security you don't know anything about this guys background.
 
suck it up and get on with your life.

It's literally too short and if it backfire and you don't have the support of your hosuemates it's you who will be moving out.

I mean it's 6 months you'll be writing your dissertation anyway so aslong as he isn't some filthy stoner thief that you can't trust the time will probably just pass by. Heck you might even like the guy and make a friend.

This is coming from someone who has shared house with many a stranger some of those strangers are still my friends years later :)
 
Does she have a letter box? You know what to do

On a serious note, it was quite rude of her not ask if it was okay with everyone else.
But if he isn't getting in your way I don't see this as a problem to be honest. Couple of months and you're out of there. If you chase this up it might cause conflict which will disrupt your studies. Good Luck :)
 
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