Does your partner approve of your hobbies?

snips86x

snips86x

snips86x

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I’m a gamer and I enjoy tinkering with my PC. I've built my PCs from my early teens and continued to do so. My wife has openly expressed her hatred for my PC and wishes it could be gotten rid of – isn't happening :D

Last night I mentioned I was planning a project to do a custom loop after Christmas and she’s really not happy. She's not looking forward to me being grumpy if it goes wrong and the colorful language. I've constantly reminded her that I’m never going to get rid of it and she’ll just have to live with it. I however, get no support from her with my PC hobby!!

As much as I love my wife, the PC is here to stay so……do your partners approve of your hobbies?
 
Mine does, and finds it interesting, she also enjoys playing games on PC.

I'm having a hard time comprehending why your wife would hate your PC and want you to get rid of it so much, especially with it being a hobby you obviously enjoy. For something as tame and even mundane as a computer hobby, it's strange.
 
Mrs S not happy about me being into astronomy. SHe openly hates my scope and mount nad has threatened to insert is sideways on several occasions.
 
I'm a lucky man. :p

My wife doesn’t have any problems with my hobbies. She likes to see me busy, happy and out of the way. She’s very understanding and I love her even more for that! :D







(if she did complain then I'd just ignore her)
 
Shelster said:
Mrs S not happy about me being into astronomy. SHe openly hates my scope and mount nad has threatened to insert is sideways on several occasions.
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:D This made me smile!

I've tried to reason with her but I get the impression she sees it as childish and pointless - but anyone could see that about someone elses hobby right?!
 
Does not bother me in the slightest if my Mrs likes my hobbies or not:D
I await the jelly fish of men coming in here saying oh i gave up my hobbies to please the other half:)
 
Spook187 said:
Does not bother me in the slightest if my Mrs likes my hobbies or not:D
I await the jelly fish of men coming in here saying oh i gave up my hobbies to please the other half:)
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That's the difference though, if you're married, you're committed to each other which means regardless of what that hobby is, you have to tolerate it and not beat them down.

I love my wife but there is no way I'd give it up for her.
 
spoffle said:
Mine does, and finds it interesting, she also enjoys playing games on PC.

I'm having a hard time comprehending why your wife would hate your PC and want you to get rid of it so much, especially with it being a hobby you obviously enjoy. For something as tame and even mundane as a computer hobby, it's strange.
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I couldn't put it better myself! How can someone hate a hobby their loved one gets so much enjoyment out of.

We both love our computing and get a lot of enjoyment out of it being a shared interest. I always liked computing and the idea of playing games but when i met Seabiscuit it has turned it to a proper hobby.
I grew up with my family thinking things such as oh someone a few photos on the pc now internet doesn't work therefore she broke it and other chestnuts like that.
So its nice as an adult to be able to do something I was interested in but never allowed to do, to now we are forever opening up computers and getting excited about different computing things.
 
An operation this Sunday and then 4-6 weeks in plaster due to rugby... she doesn't like me playing (worries about injury :p), but seems accepts it and realises that it makes me part of who I am and I enjoy it. Tech hobbies she seems to be accepting of, although I've been good of late and not bought too many presents for myself!
 
Any hobby I have that is expensive or time consuming my girlfriend has taken an interest in. When it comes to PC's, I managed to get her into gaming on a laptop, so last time I upgraded I built her a PC next to mine and she loves it. As for astronomy, she loves looking through the telescope and will always come out with me onto Dartmoor or what have you.

Regardless of what it is that I'm doing, she will at least try to take an interest in it because she loves me. If it really isn't her cup of tea then she'll say so, but she won't begrudge me for it.
 
benjii said:
Any hobby I have that is expensive or time consuming my girlfriend has taken an interest in. When it comes to PC's, I managed to get her into gaming on a laptop, so last time I upgraded I built her a PC next to mine and she loves it. As for astronomy, she loves looking through the telescope and will always come out with me onto Dartmoor or what have you.

Regardless of what it is that I'm doing, she will at least try to take an interest in it because she loves me. If it really isn't her cup of tea then she'll say so, but she won't begrudge me for it.
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My other half has learned to ski, and has really stuck with it. The last week that we went I think she finally cracked it and seemed to really enjoy the skiing rather than the pretty mountains and good apres ski.

I do think she blames me for her no longer playing musical instruments though!
 
My GF isn't particularly "fond" of my gaming hobby... but she's come to terms with it, plus it means I don't moan at her when she watches 4 hours of utter **** on TV - I just jump on the PC :p

Surely your wife has a hobby that you're not particularly keen on? Just moan about that until she realises a) how annoying it is, and b) how unreasonable she's being.

If she doesn't like it because she sees it as "childish and immature", just point out to her that it's far more childish to deride someone's interests just because you don't "get" them.
 
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Mrs Seabiscuit said:
Out of interest, what are her hobbies?
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Xbox when her brother was living in the UK and drawing, she's an incredible artist and listening to music.

Since her brother moved away, we got married and had kids, she's not really done them as often as she'd like. I know she enjoys her drawing and would like to go to uni to study fine art, but she sees it as pointless and would rather be at home with our son and I.

I've tried to encourage her to do more drawing but it's not happened.

If she doesn't like it because she sees it as "childish and immature", just point out to her that it's far more childish to deride someone's interests just because you don't "get" them.
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It's testing my patience that's for sure and I'm not far away!
 
snips86x said:
Xbox when her brother was living in the UK and drawing, she's an incredible artist and listening to music.

Since her brother moved away, we got married and had kids, she's not really done them as often as she'd like. I know she enjoys her drawing and would like to go to uni to study fine art, but she sees it as pointless and would rather be at home with our son and I.

I've tried to encourage her to do more drawing but it's not happened.



It's testing my patience that's for sure and I'm not far away!
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I don't want to play internet psychologist, but it seems the issues you have are more deeply ingrained than just hobbies. Perhaps you should have a talk with her and discuss exactly why it is she doesn't like your hobbies. It may well stem from insecurity and those sorts of feelings need to be addressed before the fester too long.
 
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