Does your partner approve of your hobbies?

snips86x said:
Xbox when her brother was living in the UK and drawing, she's an incredible artist and listening to music.

Since her brother moved away, we got married and had kids, she's not really done them as often as she'd like. I know she enjoys her drawing and would like to go to uni to study fine art, but she sees it as pointless and would rather be at home with our son and I.

I've tried to encourage her to do more drawing but it's not happened.



It's testing my patience that's for sure and I'm not far away!
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Drawing isnt pointless its awesome (I am crap but still love it Seabiscuit is better than I) I am sure she plays with your little boy? If yes then they can draw together therefore she is playing with small person and having her hobby.
But everyone needs a hobby just so they can relax,think and enjoy life.
 
Mine might not understand the amount of money i spend on CD's and random gadgets but she knows i enjoy them so is happy enough with them.
 
The wife doesnt particularly like me gaming and has told me shes going to throw it out the window on many occasions. (but she knows better than to actually do it as id just buy another)

although she doesnt like it she accepts its my thing.

2 hobbies are gaming and the gym and they are only when the kids are in bed.
 
One of my hobbies is swimming in cold, cold water without a wetsuit and she struggles to not worry about me but will try to come watch me when I race.

She does get annoyed at me being on my laptop a lot, though she'll quite happily spend the same amount of time on her iPad.

To some extents work is a hobby.. and she doesn't understand it when I WANT to stay in after 5. I quite often get the cold shoulder if i don't leave work ASAP.
 
Efour said:
Cant you make the time, or you not allowed the time by family demands?
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Not easy to make the time to be honest, although I’m home from work by 5pm to 5:30pm latest I need to get cracking on tea as soon as I get in (wife really isn’t keen to cook and admittedly not great at it), clear up and then get the bedtime routine underway with the target of 7pm.

To be honest after a full day at work, spending a bit of time (not enough time) with my daughter and wife, cooking, tidying up and then putting daughter to bed (which I like doing as I would hardly see her) I’ve barely got the energy to do anything other than sit in front of the idiot box. I have a lot of work to do around the house which I'm currently in the middle of but I definitely wouldn't call it a hobby!

cheesyboy said:
Oh yeah, it's tough. I wouldn't want to go back to wasting as much time as I used to on pointless things, but I miss going out with my mates who I now see on a very infrequent basis, and being able to go out for a run 2 or 3 times a week, and being able to just decide to do something, like drinks after work, or arrange a holiday with friends.
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Yea, my daughter is three at the start of next year and I’ve definitely noticed it is much easier than it used to be, although she is an absolute breeze at bedtime compared to some, I’m still ruined by the end of the day.

Gym used to be a hobby I enjoyed and went early mornings but I had some kind of virus a couple of months ago and my energy is sapped very quickly.

It’s certainly a fine line between wasting time away from family and keeping a piece of time for hobbies to look forward to. It’s very easy to get wrong and there are plenty of parents I know that are hugely selfish with their time and I refuse to make the same mistake, I just think I got it a bit wrong and sadly I couldn’t afford to get back into those hobbies again, certainly unless the missus goes back to work in a few years.
 
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How many of your partners would approve if they knew exactly how much you spend on your hobbies rather than what you tell them you spend? ;)
 
I really don't understand how people's partners can hate their hobbies?* Not be interested in, sure, but to actually dislike you doing something that has no effect on them?

Must be a woman thing :p

*Gaming especially - if it was something risky like base-jumping, or something "unpleasant" like hunting, then I could maybe understand a little more
 
I have to say i'm pretty lucky where my missus is involved, granted i earn a pretty decent wage, but even though she's nagging me because we're saving for our wedding next year, i've spent the best part of £3/£4k on a new PC and camera gear in the last 4 months:o. She hasn't said i can't though :p
 
Haggisman said:
I really don't understand how people's partners can hate their hobbies?* Not be interested in, sure, but to actually dislike you doing something that has no effect on them?

Must be a woman thing :p

*Gaming especially - if it was something risky like base-jumping, or something "unpleasant" like hunting, then I could maybe understand a little more
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Probably because of all the guys here who seem keen to put their hobbies above their wife/family "I would never give it up for wife/girlfriend". Or in OP's case, because gaming turns (or used to) him into a nutter.

Plus, gaming is for nerds. And who wants a constant reminder they're hooked up with a pitiful man-child geek? ;)
 
doofer said:
How many of your partners would approve if they knew exactly how much you spend on your hobbies rather than what you tell them you spend? ;)
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I used to do out of hours PC repairs/upgrades which tended to cover the 'running' costs of my hobbies.

But yea, thank goodness for invoices not being included with most items these days!!!
 
My Wife is fine with me always tinkering with computers it gets me off the Tv so she can watch her cooking programs. She deals with all the finances and knows exactly how much I spend on everything. It's never really been a problem.
 
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Im single now and dont get aggro for doing what i want :p

In the past i have been told off for buying pc stuff ( with my own money ) as its a "waste of money we need stuff for the house"

She comes home with new shoes and clothes costing hundreds and suddenly its "basic requirements, its nothing like a pc"

Oh so you feel the need to dress in expensive clothes to look attractive? you are already with me so i can assume you are attempting to attract another male? If you were buying sensible clothes i could understand but £150 on a dress that has less material than a pair of boxers :p

Always ended in her throwing a big tantrum and saying i was "silly for comparing"

Women eh :p
 
The Mrs was very anti PC/gaming when we first met, but in her defence I was spending a lot of time glued to a browser or a crosshair. In time the balance sorted itself out, and now she encourages me to game. In fact she bought me Alien Isolation week before last. :D
 
AtreuS said:
Oh so you feel the need to dress in expensive clothes to look attractive? you are already with me so i can assume you are attempting to attract another male? If you were buying sensible clothes i could understand but £150 on a dress that has less material than a pair of boxers :p

Always ended in her throwing a big tantrum and saying i was "silly for comparing"

Women eh :p
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She never did look good in a pair of boxers so the £150 was well spent. :p
 
My girlfriend thinks gaming is still done by geeks, she understands it's my hobby though and I enjoy it so she lets me do whatever.
 
I think my Mrs. thinks I'm some sort of mad scientist with all the liquids, blocks and tubes. She has learned to stay out of the way though when tinkering, I can have a short fuse when I am concentrating!

As for gaming, I only really do this when she's got something else to do (or sleeping). She's more annoyed about my absolute requirement to watch football and how this ends up dictating our weekend schedule lol.
 
Haggisman said:
Must be a woman thing :p
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OI!:mad::mad::mad::mad: :p:D:D:D:D
I am a woman and I love the same hobbies as seabiscuit. I had to practically force him to buy his new processor in september. :) We also do our own homebrew so our house is basically full to the brim with computing equipment beer equipment, not to mention we love to read so we also live in a library too! :D:D
 
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