Does your partner approve of your hobbies?

My hobby is fitness / gym, as such I am lucky enough to get asked to feature in adverts, shoots, attend promotions and events. Most of this involves me posing in front of a camera, or walking around with my top off.

The wife hates it with a passion, especially when I have to pose for photos with blood craving women! ;)

Oh and when in diet mode, it’s no going out for any meals’ or doing anything fun. She experienced this a lot before we got married, so it can’t be all that bad ( I guess).
 
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Yeah, my music has been there for me my whole life, would never give it up for any woman. Trying to find a nice, attractive woman who is in to dance music and not already taken? Damn near impossible.
 
Mrs Seabiscuit said:
We also do our own homebrew so our house is basically full to the brim with computing equipment beer equipment, not to mention we love to read so we also live in a library too! :D:D
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So you've got a good excuse for a pair of Kindles. :D

(wont stop the library getting any bigger)
 
kai said:
My hobby is fitness / gym, as such I am lucky enough to get asked to feature in adverts, shoots and attend promotions and events. Most of this involves me posing in front of a camera, or walking around with my top off.

The wife hates it with a passion, especially when I have to pose for photos with blood craving women! ;)

Oh and when in diet mode, it’s no going out for any meals’ or doing anything fun. She experienced this a lot before we got married, so it can’t be all that bad ( I guess).
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One of my mates told me a story of a new guy starting at his workplace. He came in on his first day with what looked like a gay magazine tucked under his arm. When asked about it, it turned out not to be a gay mag, but a bodybuilding one - and he was on the front cover.

Seems an odd thing to do, on your first day of work. "oh, this? Just me on a magazine cover with my man boobs hanging out".

Anyway, not sure where I'm going with this..... ;)
 
My girlfriend is my hobby and she approves. I'm constantly getting better at it! :P

In all seriousness I game quite a lot and my partner shows a real interest in it.
 
My GF isn't a big fan of me playing games, she also believes that they are childish and tells me to 'grow up'.

I am lucky in a way as she does let me play games most nights but I always make sure I spend at least 2-3 nights without touching the PC or Xbox.

I think she just gets annoyed that I play on it so often but it's my hobby and I enjoy it.

She doesn't really have a 'hobby' (unless you count watching Friends repeats on Comedy Central)
 
If you have young kids you need to be very careful that both partners get a break away from the family. Big, time consuming hobbies go out the windows for a while. Thankfully my lad has now left home and me and Mrs. Splodge have plenty of free time.

Some of our hobbies align; cycling, hill walking, gaming (board games not computer games) so we are all good there.

I spend a lot of time on a computer doing writing and video production*. She plays the trumpet/cornet and has spent plenty of time away playing for brass bands.

I'm confused how a partner can "hate" your hobby, unless, as I suspect, some people don't balance out their time properly and spend far more time on the hobby than with their partner. A relationship is about balance, from both sides.

* Also the odd game.

Anyway, wander over to mumsnet for a view from the other side.
 
Ex-GF hated it even tho she was a bit of a gamer, would get annoyed when I would want to play games instead of watch one of her stupid shows, used to play WoW together everynight but that changed when she moved over and we moved into a flat. :rolleyes:

New GF is quite happy for me to go play, gives her time to study and means she can fall asleep while watching a movie or something (long shifts everyday).

Casdawer said:
She doesn't really have a 'hobby' (unless you count watching Friends repeats on Comedy Central)
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Yup mine does this too!
 
My Partner, she isn't really interested in all this computer stuff.

Last night, I was taking the PC all apart in prep for a new watercooling loop. :D and a big clean out. But she actually took a bit of interest in what I was doing which was a surprise to say the least.

But its fair to say she accepts my hobby, as I do hers. My ex however, nada, and constantly nagging about getting rid etc... Hence why she is now an EX. ;)

Apparently i'm her 'nerdy nerd'. :o
Obviously in a nice way. :p
 
kai said:
Oh and when in diet mode, it’s no going out for any meals’ or doing anything fun.
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That doesn't sound like fun at all.

Casdawer said:
I am lucky in a way as she does let me play games most nights
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I see this a lot, people saying they're "lucky" because their partner "let's them" enjoy their hobby. What gives? It's a relationship, not a dictatorship.
 
Piano, Free Flying, RC Multirotors, Reading and a bit of keep fit. Also bought some golf clubs with the intention of taking it up and bought some art gear with a view to getting back into drawing.

I think I'll be lucky to find anyone who will put up with it that lot. Good job I don't really have much spare time anyhow. :p
 
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cheesyboy said:
Probably because of all the guys here who seem keen to put their hobbies above their wife/family "I would never give it up for wife/girlfriend". Or in OP's case, because gaming turns (or used to) him into a nutter.
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In the case of turning into a nutter, fair enough :p, but in general, why should they give up something they enjoy just because their partner doesn't?

By all means there should be a compromise, and if you're neglecting your partner/children then there's a problem, but I would say that's a deeper issue, and not necessarily due to a particular hobby.

LordSplodge said:
I see this a lot, people saying they're "lucky" because their partner "let's them" enjoy their hobby. What gives? It's a relationship, not a dictatorship.
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Exactly. As long as you're not causing harm to anyone, what gives your partner the right to dictate what you're allowed to spend your free time doing? Unless you're in a relationship with someone who believes everything you do should be together (in which case you have bigger problems ;)). I can guarantee all hell would break loose if you suddenly turned round to them and said "I don't like Xfactor/Big Brother/BGT/TOWIE, so that means you're not allowed to watch it any more" - and quite rightly so!
 
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too many hobbies and not enough time! luckily when it comes to the gym and climbing she's as keen on it as me so we do it together.
Although she isn't into shooting she has given it a good go on several occassions, enough to know she just isn't interested in it but has no problem with me doing it. She's even offered to cook the rabbits :D
gaming only becomes a problem when i get absorbed into it for hours. no issue if its the odd night, but when it happens a few nights on the bounce then it becomes a problem....which is fair enough, not healthy to spend too much time gaming.
 
Gaming, board games, role play games, reading....

She's into the same stuff so when I spend most of the weekend in front of my PC she has no problem with it. We go away to see friends and family a lot too as well as watching similar films so I'm quite lucky I have someone like me but with added boobs.
 
My wife loves rubbish reality tv programmes, so I leave her in peace to watch them by disappearing upstairs for a few hours gaming.

She's always been happy to support my other hobbies (airsoft, photgraphy etc.) and used to accompany me for weekends away when I was a competitive clay pigeon shot.

Now the girls are away at university, we're probably going to get into target archery as it's something she's always wanted to try and I don't mind it.
 
My other half has no interest in pc's so i upgrade it when she's not around or bring my pc into work and she won't check inside the case. She would not be pleased how much I've spent on it in the last 6 months (new cpu, mobo 2nd gpu and more w/c parts) lol
 
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