Does your partner approve of your hobbies?

What you know I was sayin to seabiscuit only an hour ago I thought it was just women i worked with that didn't do anything other than watch crap or shop. When colleagues ask me what my hobbies/interests are i am laughed at and told its a waste of a day to spend it gaming or reading and I am childish! So by all accounts then I aint a normal stereotypical woman? yay me? :p
 
Kayaking, snowboarding, gym/weightlifting and video games

Gf doesn't mind any of them and does most with me :p (as long as it doesn't encroach on your relationship, cost too much, or interfere on time with kids if you have them im not sure why your Mrs should dislike any of your hobbies :p)
 
My wife shares all my hobbies although we do like different things within those hobbies. I like sci-fi she likes horror, I like jazz and EDM and she likes indie, she likes popping little bubbles and lining up fruit and I like shooting peoples heads off.
 
The Craig said:
Kayaking, snowboarding, gym/weightlifting and video games

Gf doesn't mind any of them and does most with me :p (as long as it doesn't encroach on your relationship, cost too much, or interfere on time with kids if you have them im not sure why your Mrs should dislike any of your hobbies :p)
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Depends what kind of person she is. Obviously if she's the paranoid clingy type they're not going to like you going out at all. Knew a friend whos girl withheld sex if he went out with us. If that's not the definition of controlling I don't know what is.
 
Not sure if 'approve' is the right word but she certainly tolerates them. I think she realises there are worse things I could be doing than playing games or going to football.
 
I've been with my current Mrs for 9 months.

One day after I was discussing what car I was thinking of buying next, she made a bold statement that she would be annoyed if I spent "that kind of money on a car"

She knows I am a car enthusiast, but has openly said she finds it boring and was quite aggressively dismissive of it. Yet when I told her I don't get any enjoyment from reading fiction (which she enjoys), there was a massive tantrum because she "wanted to share it with me"

Why do some women feel entitled to behave in this inconsistent way?

Relationships should be a two way street. Not woman only traffic
 
adam98150 said:
Depends what kind of person she is. Obviously if she's the paranoid clingy type they're not going to like you going out at all. Knew a friend whos girl withheld sex if he went out with us. If that's not the definition of controlling I don't know what is.
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Yep that's a terrible relationship.
 
My GF hates me playing any of the games I do and especially because of the money I spend on my PC. I've told her to deal with it or leave me. She's still here.
 
it all depends on the amount of time devoted to your hobby if the wife sees it as disproportionate then there's a problem either

a) she's right or
b) she's right.

:D

Have to take care of business as well if you know what I mean.
 
Mrs Seabiscuit said:
What you know I was sayin to seabiscuit only an hour ago I thought it was just women i worked with that didn't do anything other than watch crap or shop. When colleagues ask me what my hobbies/interests are i am laughed at and told its a waste of a day to spend it gaming or reading and I am childish! So by all accounts then I aint a normal stereotypical woman? yay me? :p
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yes but knowing the goings on at albert square is much more productive ;)
 
I enjoy playing games on the PC and consoles, my gf also likes playing games on the PC and consoles. I like reading books, my gf also likes reading books. I enjoy cooking, my gf also enjoys cooking.

So yea my gf approves :D Moral of the story gf's with similar interests rock :p
 
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My wife looks after the children during that time, apart from Friday when both children are at nursery.

I'm not saying her job of looking after the kids isn't important, it is. My point is only that a lot of her week is still leisure time in my book, kids or not. She is also welcome to go and do her own thing at weekends while I look after the kids, but just because I allocate 2 hrs every Sunday to 9 holes of golf, it seems to be a problem.
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It's not really "me" time for her if she's looking after the kids though. It's not like she can just switch off and chill out - especially when out and about with them! Have you ever been shopping or tried to have a 5 minute sit down at lunch with an obstreperous 3 year old? :p

Granted if you "share" the childcare at the weekend, then she's being unreasonable about you wanting a couple of hours, but 99% of the time, looking after a couple of young children is anything but leisurely ;)
 
Participant said:
I'm not saying her job of looking after the kids isn't important, it is. My point is only that a lot of her week is still leisure time in my book, kids or not. She is also welcome to go and do her own thing at weekends while I look after the kids, but just because I allocate 2 hrs every Sunday to 9 holes of golf, it seems to be a problem.
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Looking after kids is harder than work tbh. I seem to be remember crawling less, getting shouted at less and seemed to get more sleep when I was in the army ...

But if you are sharing the childcare at the weekend then that's a bit tight. But are you actually sharing it are you offering too as I can't really tell from that post.

I think both parents need free-time, both need one-to-one with their kids and both need time with each other. The later though is one of the hardest to achieve though unless you have friends and/or family close. If you don't you can kiss that time goodbye.
 
I don't understand some woman,

I DON'T care if you don't like my hobby, I'm going to continue to do it because I ENJOY it and you should be happy for me that I have something I like to do. As long as you maintain a balance and do it in your spare time and don't neglect things that need to be done there is no problem.

Hell you should join in, find yourself a hobby that you like too and i'd support you.

Some woman need to grow up.
 
CREATIVE!11 said:
I don't understand some woman,

I DON'T care if you don't like my hobby, I'm going to continue to do it because I ENJOY it and you should be happy for me that I have something I like to do. As long as you maintain a balance and do it in your spare time and don't neglect things that need to be done there is no problem.

Hell you should join in, find yourself a hobby that you like too and i'd support you.

Some woman need to grow up.
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Any particular woman you have in mind?

:p
 
It's all about them though. Once you realise this you achieve enlightenment, see that they are all bishes, move on and get on with your life :p
 
cheesyboy said:
Damned right it is. I go back to work for a rest after the weekend. I'm not even joking.
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This is true, especially if the weather has been crap and you are stuck in the house :rolleyes:

My missus is happy for me to play golf and lounge around on the computer, and I am happy for her to go the gym and play the pianno.

She is really ace and my best mate, so glad I haven't got a nagger! :D
 
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