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Poll: Strips clubs - harmless fun or disrespectful of your other half?
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If you find your partner's views unreasonable, you probably need to find another one. Obviously, it's not always straight forward, sometimes a compromise is needed but, generally speaking, when both parties avoid things the other dislikes/disapproves, there are big long term benefits for the relationship.
But surely if your partner is upset at you for attending a strip club ("because it's a bit like cheating" or similar reasoning), then that is more disrespectful of them toward you than it is of you toward them?
I mean, I would be quite upset if my wife thought little enough of me that she would suffer major insecurity just because I was looking at some boobs.
It's fair to say that I wouldn't be happy in a relationship with someone suffering insecurity. You're right that it wouldn't be a good match for me and I would need to find another partner.
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Doesn't really do anything for me - and it is somewhat strange going for some titillation elsewhere, and frankly you end up more frustrated.
On my stag do I made it crystal clear that none of that would be acceptable, and my wishes were respected
On my stag do I made it crystal clear that none of that would be acceptable, and my wishes were respected
It isn't the establishment or strippers (or prostitutes if you're talking about abroad) that matter it is the actions of the person going. It doesn't matter whether you get a dance from a stripper in the UK or abroad, it is harmless fun in my opinion. Abroad where they may be prostitutes also then if you engage their services that is a different matter.
they generally prefer you to buy a dance than to sit there watching them on the pole for free though - some might well think all men are dirty creeps, they probably become quite damaged as far as men are concerned in general when they do that sort of work... they aren't going to be very fond at all of dirty creeps who get to see free shows and don't actually contribute to their income
My point was where do you draw the line with what to do or not do based on them being upset by it. You're drawing out in to something bigger than it needs to be, and the suggestion of "well you shouldn't be together" is completely missing the point, and is a very bizarre way to respond to that.
Knowing what some my girlfriends have been like,
If I went into a strip club they most likely be the stripper.......
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that is brilliant
Where would you draw the line if she does something that upsets you?
It means the same thing, doesn't it? I Wasn't saying "literally you" I'm talking about a relationship in general, where is the line drawn with "never do ANYTHING that upsets the other person, or you're not suitable together".
If someone completely invalidates their partner's concerns regardless of if they're warranted or not, then there's a problem.
Something may be seen as being reasonable or the partner unreasonable, but that doesn't give cart-blanche to do it in spite of a partner's feelings. That would then be the unreasonable behaviour.
You're right. I was hastily trying to hint at "you [you and your partner] need to discover that for yourselves"
Complete waste of money in my opinion, my GF isn't bothered if I went to one but I hate the places anyway, been to a fair few when I've been out with mates but only because the group went there.
I just refused to spend any money once inside.
I just refused to spend any money once inside.
As above really. In any relationship you're inevitably going to upset the other person by doing something they disapprove of. My partner and I just agree to disagree a lot of the time. I think I'm right, she thinks she's right. There's no winner (except me, because I'm always right ).
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