Running the Family Home

I work. Wife stays at home. I don't hardly do anything around house, maybe wash kids sometimes. Wife does everything and looks after me.
 
It's only my wife and I. I pay for pretty much everything. My wife moved from the Philippines, where she had a good management job, and since coming here she's struggled to find anything. I have no problem paying for everything because she sacrificed a lot coming here and ultimately her happiness is my priority. Regarding housework, we share it out. We both like to cook and eat out, and this is also shared.
 
Wife:
Shops
Cooking 50:50 (I used to do it all when she was working)
Laundry
Cleaning (including paying the cleaners!)
The school pickup and drop off and the mundane kid stuff, rather than all the glory-dad stuff
Feeding the dogs


Myself:
Working
Cooking 50:50
80% of dog walking
Paying real men to look after my house, vehicles etc.
 
I do most of the cooking
Wife does most of the laundry & shopping but I do all of the ironing (due to a minor misunderstanding about 7 years ago!)
I do most of the washing up
I also do most of the tidying as I get wound up by mess (I'm not saying my wife is messy but I get wound up quite a bit ;))
I tend to clean the kitchen most as I tend to do most of the cooking & like an organised environment
I also do most of the hoovering/sweeping as I get twitchy if I can see bits of lint/mess etc on the floors
I'm not very big on cleaning the bathroom though
My wife does almost all of the childcare; mornings, school runs, meals, homework, discipline, bathtimes, bedtimes, after school activities, parties, organisation, etc, etc
She also works throughout the day on her craft business which has been rather busy since the end of the summer & especially with xmas looming (one of the reasons why our house looks like an explosion in a haberdashery!)
 
Forever alone atm. so I have to do everything!

But on the plus side, dishes/laundry/ironing etc for one person isn't bad :)
 
Me:
- Full time work
- Evening meals and batch cooking
- Clean up after evening meals (often dishes not put in dishwasher from day)
- Clean/organise kitchen
- All finances
- All DIY
- All gardening
- Putting bins and recycling out

Her:
- Looking after daughter full time (housewife)
- All the washing and ironing
- Organise/plan everything
- Tidy bedrooms/bedding
- Occasional evening family meal

Shared:
- General tidying
- Kids' bedtimes
- Shopping (I prefer to do it as we stick to budget that way)

We have a cleaner in once a week to do the hoovering and general dusting/bathroom clean and someone else in once a quarter to do a big spring clean.
 
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A bit of everything but generally I do the cooking, clothes washing and vacuuming and dusting. SWMBO does the rest, but it isn't exclusive we all do what is necessary to keep everything running nicely and clean.
 
cheesyboy said:
Me:
- Kids' breakfast
- Clean up after morning and evening meals
- Vacuuming, cleaning bathrooms (mostly), clean cooker
- Cook meals for freezer (stocking up on Chilli, lasagna, spagbol, etc)
- Bills/banking
- Tidying the office/study room (it's in an absolute state :) )
- basic DIY

Her:
- Prepare evening meals
- All the washing machine and ironing stuff
- dusting, clean bathrooms (sometimes)
- Organise/plan everything
- Tidying (except our office room, see above)

Shared;
- Clean kitchen
- kids' bedtimes
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For context, should probably add that I work full time (out from 8am to 6.30pm) and she works, effectively, 3 days/week (two long days). The kids are nearly-5 and 1.5.

And a few I missed: I do the lawn-mowing, weeding, and bins, whilst she takes the lead on the weekly grocery shop (online for delivery), clothes shopping, and other household purchases.
 
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I do:

- The bins - empty interior bins to the outside bins, make sure they get put out in the road for collection etc.
- All household maintenance, repairs, upkeep, etc.
- All the financial stuff, organisation of all services to the house, and payment of everything.
- Everything to do with the cars, as far as she is concerned the cars run themselves.
- The making of all alcoholic drinks, and the procurement of said alcoholic products :p

She does:

- Everything else
 
Well I do cooking and he usually does dishes. I do most of the washing and ironing.
Rest of the tidying is done by me and he does some if I ask him to.
 
I used to, up until recently, do the cleaning, wash the cars, washing / drying, washing up and then iron typically my clothes (work shirts and stuff).

Now the wife is on maternity leave, she's doing most of it, although we had to buy a new kitchen with a dishwasher....
 
Never really set any roles and it's the way we like it. If something needs doing one of us just does it. Don't ignore jobs just get them out of the way so we can relax.

We always go food shopping together, whoever is in first starts the tea when the other txts they are on the way. While one washes up the other tidies or puts washing in or out.

Once you have a situation where "That is your job not mine" it creates division. We look after the house and eachother.
 
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