Am I being selfish?

Surely unless your going out of your way to pick him up whats the need to charge? Its a journey you would be making anyhow so hardly a hardship for you to accept another passenger...
 
As others have said, it is only fare that he pays something towards fuel costs. I have done this myself in the past and not asked for a penny. Then later-on when said person was back on the road, and I needed a lift into work due to some repairs. The first thing he said to me is, "Do I mind putting towards the fuel.":mad::mad:

Friends are friends, and then there's the ones who take the ****. ;)
 
Why not wait and see what happens? He might well be hoping that you'll give him a lift since you're both going to the same place but he could also be expecting to give you something towards the lifts anyway, even if it's a token amount.

I think I'd probably see what his attitude is before deciding what line I'd take - there's little point in being especially mercenary about the fuel costs if he would give you something towards them anyway but you'll know better than us whether it's likely he'd even consider that.
 
If I was taking lifts for work. I'd personally offer fuel.
But a lot of people see it as just jumping in a car that is going to that destination anyway.

If it's on my way to work, I wouldn't care.
If I had to travel out the way slightly, I'd expect some towards fuel.
 
I'd never ask for money from a friend who's going to the same place I was and I didn't have to go out of my way to pick them up unless either A) They take the **** in terms of time management such as being late every day or B) They start at a different time so you have to leave earlier than you otherwise would. Granted I would expect them to offer something but I'd say no.
 
I would ask him what his arrangements are to be honest. If he says that he assumed he could get lifts in with you just ask for a small contribution towards petrol. Personally It would probably annoy me having to play someones taxi for ages but there isnt much of a way to get out of it without seeming selfish.
 
I pick up colleagues from time to time on my way to work, they live about 9 miles away from me,but generally on the way to work (about 1 mile detour).

One colleague gives me his train fair equivalent in petrol money even though I tell him not to bother.
Another just asks for a lift as he can't afford to get into work (money troubles) but he never, ever offers anything. (He gets a lift off others normally every day).

I've never asked for money as I'm going the same way (even with the detour), but to be offered the fuel money is politeness even if you turn it down.

If he's going to drive to work when is ban expires then short term it won't harm to take him, but if he can't afford to drive due to high insurance then he needs to offer you some petrol money tbh otherwise I'd be telling him he needs to find his own way there as you're not a free taxi.
Might seem harsh but why should you incur the costs of travelling to work but not him?
 
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I think it purely depends on how close he lives to you. If he's around the corner it's a bit harsh but if he lives a few miles away, you've already done enough.
 
shauncr91 said:
A friend of mine recently got banned from driving and lost his job (For reasons I don't know). I've managed to land him a job at my work which is around 13miles each way from where we live, now I've got a feeling I'm going to be playing taxi for the foreseeable future (His first day is tomorrow and I've already been asked for the 1st lift), I don't mind doing this occasionally but if it's going to be a frequent occurrence I feel like I'm being taken for a bit of a mug unless the person offers to chip in for fuel.

What do people think, am I being reasonable in my thinking or selfish?
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Even with a close friend one should feel obliged to offer to pay for a share of the petrol expenses if it is presumably going to be an on going arrangement. Which in this instance is pretty much an inevitability as long as he doesn't take the op for a ride.
Logic and reasoning suggests he should offer a token amount to cover the small extra expense in fuel
It's roughly according to my calculations about a 1mpg decrease for every 7 stone of excess weight, give or take depending on the car's own weight and aerodynamics...
 
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Just make it clear you need petrol money if it's an issue.

If you don't socialise with them then somewhere between petrol cost and taxi charge would be fair.
 
As most have said I guess it depends if you are going a long way out of the usual trip you make to work to pick him up or not. I've given lifts to lots of people when they've needed it and regularly drive a car full of colleagues to town at lunchtime and haven't asked for or really wanted petrol money for it.

Besides. 3 months is hardly the ends of time is it? If he's your 'friend', help him out.
 
cainer said:
just tell him he'l be chipping in for fuel, /thread
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Pretty much this.

Few guys at work take turns in driving their own car in rather than just paying for fuel. I guess in this case, just ask if he minds to chip in for fuel.

I would let him off with a freebie or 2, but anymore and I would bring it up. Gives him a chance to offer to split the cost.
 
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