Friend being unreasonable... or me?

Depends how long he had to get his time off before you booked. If the tickets were free then I'm a little bit on your side -- it's no issue booking before he confirms. If he left it as 'should be no problem' I'd also take that as a yes. That said I have useless mates who never get back to me so I would usually double-check before booking anything that would actually cost me money!

People who don't reply etc. when you're trying to arrange stuff just does my nut. We're all busy people, just say yes or no, confirm dates/times etc and not make it so bleedin' hard all the time!
 
Scam said:
Depends how long he had to get his time off before you booked. If the tickets were free then I'm a little bit on your side -- it's no issue booking before he confirms. If he left it as 'should be no problem' I'd also take that as a yes. That said I have useless mates who never get back to me so I would usually double-check before booking anything that would actually cost me money!

People who don't reply etc. when you're trying to arrange stuff just does my nut. We're all busy people, just say yes or no, confirm dates/times etc and not make it so bleedin' hard all the time!
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Spot on!

Tickets were free so me going ahead with it was no big deal I don't think.

I wouldn't even have been fussed tbh if he'd have just acknowledged it was a let down for me. I was more shocked by his reaction to my slight grumble.

Anyway, have tried to build a bridge and told him I shouldn't have assumed he'd booked day off. Can't do more. If he wants to now hold a grudge with me for being "patronising" then it's his call.
 
if a few weeks past between first arranging and the night you should have really got in touch halfway through to make sure it was still ok, people forget stuff like this if they are not arranging

he should be apologising without a prompt from you
but it would grind if you were asked for one so....
 
randal said:
What did you say to him for him to think it was patronising?

Were you being patronising my little flower? Were yooooooooou?
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lol, we aren't an old married couple I promise!

I don't know. Think it was my use of the word "disappointed". He seems to have taken it as in he is a disappointment to me or something. Totally not what I said and I've told him so.

He's hard work, frankly.
 
George Hincapie said:
Kiss and make up. It doesn't matter who is to blame, it's a stupid matter to fall out over. Life is too short.
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I have to quote this for truth. One of my closest friends and I fell out over something quite silly really and we haven't spoken since, well over 3 years ago now. 20 years of friendship down the drain. He recently got married and I didn't know until the day of the wedding. So suck it up and get over it, life happens when you are being stroppy/stubborn and doesn't wait for you.
 
Both in the wrong to be honest. You should have double checked that everything was ok before booking the tickets. And he shouldn't behave like a child
 
I would have called him or contacted him in some way to 100% confirm he will be coming before booking the tickets.

Alternatively, you could make his letterbox dirty; your call.
 
Haha I knew this would seem like a mumsnet post! It was actually worth it though as sometimes getting a bit of perspective from outside parties helps with these silly tiffs.

We've made up now I think. He acknowledged his reaction was partly due to his work situation and the fact they are apparently terrible when it comes to booking time off. There is never any cover and no one can get dates they want.

I also acknowledged I shouldn't have just assumed he'd booked the day off.

I'll still be going too. So all is well.
 
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