Filling time at the weekend

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Due to life circumstances I'm now without any real 'friends' and no partner (recent)
In a new location too

I'm not going to go to a club on my own, I just won't enjoy it, I'm no good approaching strangers and starting conversations.

During the week I'm ok as I have enough to fill my time with work+gym+food+tv/game then it's time to sleep

During the weekend I'll have more time than I know what to do with.
This is worse for me than it seems as I will dwell on past events and over think

I used to spend all weekend with my old partner. Maybe stuff with dog, going cinema, films, day out. But all couple things.
Obviously none of these are options now!

I'm not really in mindset to do a course for career at present.


Tl:dr

No friends, new location, anxious personality
Too much time at weekend
How to I keep my mind off the past?
 
I'm now single al4x said:
I'm not going to go to a club on my own, I just won't enjoy it, I'm no good approaching strangers and starting conversations.
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How will your situation ever change if you aren't going to push yourself out of your comfort zone? Whatever hobby or interest you choose will require you to approach people you don't know.
 
Take up golf, and once moderately competent, join a club. You don't need to be a big talker and in the weekend comps you just float (ie take a spare time slot and join in with 3 other guys,) you'll soon find some good guys you get on with and take it from there.
 
Tindr/Grindr/Happen

Throw yourself into a personal project: carpentry, electronics, PC, writing, charity shop - something where you can make something out of nothing and be proud of what you achieve. As mentioned, get out of your comfort zone and scare yourself a bit.
 
Winky_The_Winking_Turtle said:
If you got any particular hobbies or niche interests, take a look here - http://www.meetup.com/, maybe there will be a group of people with simular interests near you, but you just don't know it yet.
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I've had a look and joined a scuba club, but not a weekend thing. There's a disappointing lack of variation around Peterborough (it is Peterborough) compared to university cities

Adam said:
How will your situation ever change if you aren't going to push yourself out of your comfort zone? Whatever hobby or interest you choose will require you to approach people you don't know.
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Clubbing on my own is just not enjoyable for me. It's more than uncomfortable. It makes me feel like one of those annoying people that try it on. It's just not me. But I am not dismissing going out of my comfort zone.

Burnsy2023 said:
Volunteer somewhere. You keep busy and meet lots of new people.

Have a look here: http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=18680534&highlight=volunteer
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This is something that never crossed my mind!
 
Nothing wrong with going to the cinema alone, most of the time you're sitting there in silence watching the film anyway (or should be!)
 
Dis86 said:
PC forum and nobody has suggested playing PC games yet?!
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id kind of like it to be a bit more sociable. and you need friends for xbox 2 player in same room!

brendy said:
Take up golf, and once moderately competent, join a club. You don't need to be a big talker and in the weekend comps you just float (ie take a spare time slot and join in with 3 other guys,) you'll soon find some good guys you get on with and take it from there.
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sounds quite pricey? it would definitely fill time. Is it that sociable? Im more than happy with just making a couple of friends.

Brutal biff said:
Get into multi copters when your not flying them your tinkering with them
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have thought about this even when i was in a relationship. one thing i always wondered, once it is actually built, youve flown it a bit..what do you move onto? stunts? photography?
 
Edrof said:
Tindr/Grindr/Happen

Throw yourself into a personal project: carpentry, electronics, PC, writing, charity shop - something where you can make something out of nothing and be proud of what you achieve. As mentioned, get out of your comfort zone and scare yourself a bit.
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one issue ive always had is my indecisiveness with choice (it is something i HAVE to work on). It really affects me starting something. almost like you are spoilt for choice and cant decide what to do. Films in a collection, to decideing what course to do. It gets so bad for me, that i end up wasting the time i could have done just trying something.

Steeps said:
Nothing wrong with going to the cinema alone, most of the time you're sitting there in silence watching the film anyway (or should be!)
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i think id rather just stay at home and watch it on tv. probably have better sound system at home than the cinemas around here (no imax)



So many quotes!
 
didn't someone else start one of these threads recently - maybe you should be friends....


also there is some poster that for the past two new years eve's has posted something about having no mates local to him so spending the evening sat alone at home
 
seriously though - the hobbies thing is probably a good idea, find some even classes in something... whether that is salsa dancing, acting or making clay pots etc...

also:

meetup.com

tis good for job/industry related networking and covers things like dating + various interests/hobbies
 
A litre of supermarket brand vodka and GD is all you need for any productive Saturday evening at home alone.
 
the meet up for some reason is really bad round here
when you look at the clubs they are all really dead (no past events, virtually no memebrs)
i thought about starting a photography one - which is possibly an idea in itself
most of these things are at weekdays too i find

my scuba one (which is 35 miles away) is monday for example



i kind of like the volunteering idea. Animal related (not cats!) would be idea IF i could meet some people too. People who like animals (who also seem to be empathatic in nature) i find i get on with best.
 
Efour said:
A litre of supermarket brand vodka and GD is all you need for any productive Saturday evening at home alone.
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this brings back a very very nasty university story..after which i could never, and have never drank it again!
 
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