Doctor refusing to give sick note, need some help/advice

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I'm on medication (sertraline 100mg) and I've went to therapy and then CBT. It seems like she's out of options to help me further, so she's basically stopping the sick notes and telling me to try find work.
 
Why does everybody seem to have some kind of depression or anxiety these days?

I'm sure most people need to just snap themselves out of it (exception for people with depression due to lack of serotonin or other chemicals, but even then the drugs won't be enough on their own. Will power is needed)
 
Dealing with social anxiety and especially depression is really hard.

Your best option is to go and seek another Dr opinion, however I would recommend looking at getting counselling on the NHS to assist with your depression / anxiety and to try to deal with it head on.
The first stage is accepting that it's there, and the second is going out and doing something about it. Just getting signed off work for it isn't really going to deal with the issues.

I wouldn't look for work before you're ready to do so, else you may force yourself deeper into your depression and find it even harder to deal with.
 
There was a great anxiety thread on here a while ago, take a look through that and I really hope it helps :)

Ignore the 'just man up' comments. Seek help and make yourself better; that's the only sustainable solution.
 
Rroff said:
As someone who actually does man up and deal with clients/customers even though what to many people is a perfectly normal business/social situation can easily get my heart rate up, cold sweat/legs turn to jelly feeling and wanting to run for the door I actually resent that remark.
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What do you resent about it?

Why does everybody seem to have some kind of depression or anxiety these days?

I'm sure most people need to just snap themselves out of it (exception for people with depression due to lack of serotonin or other chemicals, but even then the drugs won't be enough on their own. Will power is needed)
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I have no trouble believing the OP has an anxiety problem that has got out of control. There is nothing strange about people being depressed or anxious, those are normal human conditions.

What is abnormal is that we now have a culture that encourages people to wallow in their depression and anxiety, rather than overcome it. This is because it allows people to excuse their faults and failings, which is easier and more comfortable. When your life isn't going in the right direction, you can just blame some bogus medical issue and woosh, all sense of responsibility is gone.

And of course the medical professionals and pharma are more than happy to perpetuate this culture of lies in order to line their pockets.
 
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XeNoN89 said:
Why does everybody seem to have some kind of depression or anxiety these days?

I'm sure most people need to just snap themselves out of it (exception for people with depression due to lack of serotonin or other chemicals, but even then the drugs won't be enough on their own. Will power is needed)
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It's not as easy as that.
Depression is really hard to quantify, I'm sure that there are people who are mildly depressed and use it a "shield" to hide behind.
However there are those that do need a lot of help to get out of their depression.
It's certainly not just a case of "snapping out of it", and that just proves the OP's point that people just don't understand mental health issues unless they have had to deal with them, either in themselves or someone close to them.
 
Call me cynical but there's probably more to this than op is making out. I don't see why the doctor wouldn't give you a sick note if you had a genuine reason.
 
Go find another doctor. Have you been referred to a therapist? When I went through severe depression I had a great doctor who sent me to a therapist weekly. The sick notes were just a formality until the therapist felt I was ready to return to work.

It was 9 months before I could face work again.
 
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I'm on medication (sertraline 100mg) and I've went to therapy and then CBT. It seems like she's out of options to help me further, so she's basically stopping the sick notes and telling me to try find work.
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maybe it would help after you get over that initial hurdle - maybe she thinks sitting around at home won't help you and perhaps it is time to try

flipping it around what else would you expect from her perspective - she's tried therapy, she's tried drugs and through all that time you've been sat at home... seemingly you still have issues with it - since you've not improved while sat at home all day then maybe it is time to try working
 
XeNoN89 said:
Why does everybody seem to have some kind of depression or anxiety these days?
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Schools and parents wrap people in cotton wool. Tell them how easy life is and how great they are.

Then let them loose in the big wide world.

(Actually don't think this regarding real mental health issues. I have seen a fair few people who 'suffer' from depression and anxiety who in fact just hid behind it as they were either lazy or not finding the world as cuddly as they thought it would be)
 
XeNoN89 said:
Why does everybody seem to have some kind of depression or anxiety these days?
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Probably stems from how you're raised. I have mild social anxiety, but nothing strong enough to need meds for. I was quite sheltered, and we moved house four times in my school years so every time I would make a group of friends, I'd lose them all just like that. Then you tend to feel a bit isolated, and don't get the full range of experience in dealing with social situations etc.

That's just me though. I can type for days on a forum but actually socializing in a large group makes my stomach turn into a knot to the point where I feel dizzy.
 
XeNoN89 said:
Why does everybody seem to have some kind of depression or anxiety these days?

I'm sure most people need to just snap themselves out of it (exception for people with depression due to lack of serotonin or other chemicals, but even then the drugs won't be enough on their own. Will power is needed)
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yup, people deal with things in different ways - plenty of people have had anxiety/depression at various points

I don't think it is a reason to be off work permanently and after a few months sat at home then work is something that should be tried again. I mean if you've recovered then great... if you've not then clearly sitting at home isn't helping anyway so why not try a fresh start in a new workplace and see how that goes.
 
dirtybeatfreak said:
Telling someone with anxiety and/or depression to 'get a grip and stop being a coward' is akin to telling someone with a broken leg to 'walk it off'
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I don't regard them as being the same at all, but since you do, let us move forward with the analogy: At some point, the persons legs will heal and they will undergo physical therapy to help them walk again. Is that not the same as walking it off?

The beauty of a "mental health" issue like depression is that you can control exactly when that healing begins.
 
teenwolf said:
yeh because its really that simple
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in some ways it probably is, at least in concept

just like losing weight is as simple as doing some exercise and eating healthily

or giving up smoking is as simple as not buying any more cigarettes


obviously the idea is simple but putting it into practice takes more effort thus not everyone can lose weight, give up smoking without failing rather a lot along the way etc..

but trying to do something about it and at least putting in some effort is better than doing nothing and hoping it resolves by itself
 
We are assuming that the doctor doesn't know what she's talking about. I'm sure she's seen this 1000 times before and is doing what is best for her patent, even if he does not agree with the treatment.

Maybe the OP should listen to the healthcare professional.
 
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